so when my last girlfriend, who is now my ex broke up with me I was destroyed. I am one of those really committed folks who expects others to care about me as much as I care about them. But I was dumped because my ex didnt believe in long lasting relationships, and she felt that she couldnt love me back as much as I loved her so she dumped me (right before prom too, how sweet) then I said some things that made me sound like a jerk. Once I figured out she was mad at me for it I apologized and now for the past couple weeks everything has been back to normal, we talk and hang out like we never broke up, granted she has already replaced me just a week after our break up but I'm over it now.

Now she is already having problems with her new bf and its starting to take a toll on her. While she's still a good friend of mine I can't help but feel satisfied that she finally gets a taste of her own medicine. It makes my day when I see a status from her on facebook complaining about it, but at the same time I go from hating her and thinking thats what she deserves and then when I see her I'm all nice and friendly like we used to be. Is it wrong to wish that she gets as crushed as I was? I feel so conflicted like I want to hate her and let her know how I really feel, but at the same time shes such a good friend that I can't....isnt highschool drama fun?

My advice, get back together. It will show her that you really care.

Eh, she sounds immature. Let her wallow in her own problems, there will be another girl

Nothing wrong with a bit of evil hand movements and revelling in the suffering of your enemies, but if she's having problems you should at the very least not work to make them worse.

It's vindictive and spiteful, yes. The question of it being morally wrong depends on your morals.

There's definitely an element of schadenfreude when someone dumps you and subsequently things don't turn out for them as well as they'd hoped. However it's an unhealthy mindset to perpetuate. It's not very long since you broke up and you're going to have mixed feelings. The best thing is to play it cool. Stay friendly and allow the negative feelings to gradually ebb away, which they will.

Yes, she is very immature. Shes hyper but I like that, shes more immature in the sense that she doenst take anything seriously and while I understand its only highschool she has had 10 bf's in 3 years. But she was my first ever gf and I made sure she knew that and I though she would accept that and give me another chance but I guess I'm just another ex on her long list. :shrug:

And to the post saying I should get back with her, I would like to, and I think I might even have a chance but at the same time I want her to suffer for a while and see if she can handle being single for more than a week. I know it sounds mean but she will never learn until somebody close to her calls her out, and I might have to be that person, even if it puts our friendship at stake its for her own good.

She sounds like a [censored], honestly. Wait a sec, that wasn't always censored...

There's nothing wrong with it. It's one of those very base human urges to usually want 'now you can feel my pain.' to happen. But at the same time, if you want to show you care, I'd say put aside that want for self satisfaction and put her before that want for 'my emotional hurt to be soothed', assuming you still care for/in love with her.

Edit: If you 'just want her to suffer' some more, can you really say you care? If you truly care deep down, try consoling her and giving her joy? I'm still in love with my ex, granted the break up was because I screwed up, but I still try to put her pains before my own. You'd be surprised the world of difference it shows.

Go out, have fun. Make sure to post how much fun you're having on Facebook.

Be concerned, but don't talk much about that situation, if you can't avoid talking about it entirely. You can be her friend but you're an ex. Keep things at arm's length, value the friendship, and ignore the drama, staying positive.

Do this and you can avoid making her drama your drama.

I can say first hand it feels good, it may even make her more sensitive towards others as she will be able to empathize and put herself in your shoes and truly experience how you felt so as to be more careful with others feelings who she puts in your shoes in the future

It's understandable, but it's vindictive and spiteful and unpleasant and probably not something to be proud of.

You're clearly still hung up on her, but it doesn't sound like it's ever going to work out, so I think you should keep your distance. If you wanna try and be her friend - go for it, but that never works out in the long run so expect to get hurt.

You don't sound very mature yourself, stalking her on Facebook to wallow in her suffering. The joys of highschool drama.

I'm not mature at all but I dont stalk her, she just always posts stuff and its hard to not read what is all over my news feed.

If you get back with her you are setting yourself up for heartbreak

There is billions of women out there and surely she wasn't the one and you are in highschool. I hope you can find love later in your life that will last.

Clean your hands of this woman!
And take solace in the fact that ,'There is someone for everybody.' As Gus Sorola Oh so frequently says on the Drunk Tank Podcast... that sounded like subtle marketing spoooonsooor! :rofl:

:lol: thats sounds...ummm....haha (very akward laugh)

*Que shifty eyes*

One question: why even bother when someone replaces you that easy and fast? That sure says a lot about her, no? Is she even worth the while (be it friendship or hate, doesn't matter) when she acts like that? I mean.. really?

I wouldn't bother at all anymore, and so there wouldn't even be a dilemma to begin with, but that's just me

Wait, she's complaining about her relationship on Facebook publicly? :confused:

Just ask her o- oh wait.

This, pretty much:

dude just let high school thoughts happen. It's fine! haha once you get to college, it is a whole new ball game. :hubbahubba:

Welcome to what I see on my facebook wall every single day....

No college for me dude, down to the Army recruiting station is where I'm headed the day after graduation. I know what you're saying though, those college parties get pretty....rowdy....