I have been looking around a bit for just some general guidlines on what would be a healthy looking load order (good house keeping), it wasn't an issue for me earlier but now I have about 50 it's starting to look really messy, I want to tidy things up before it gets out of hand.

Im using UFO and Move It and both give some tips on what goes where to an extent but it's all the others like textures, weapons, armors, cloths, patches,houses, etc, etc...
I did come across some info on one of the nexus readme's or mod comments but for the life of me I cant seem to find it again.

Step 1: Download BOSS.

Step 2: Run BOSS. Do what BOSS says.

Step 3: Download Wyre Bash.

Step 4: Run Wyre Bash and do what ti tells you to.

Step 5: Your load order is now cleaned up, condensed, and good to go.

use http://skyrim.nexusmods.com/mods/6

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