first off, i am and have been asking them out. now that, that's out of the way...

... so this is directed at the women of the forum, when and what places is a good place to ask you out.

there are a couple of places i know not to ask you out: your job and at a bar or restaurant (i assume you don't want to be asked out when you are already in the process of being out)

ive only had a few girls who were just friends, and i always ended up having feelings for them. So im completely in the dark about this.

i asked a co-worker out a few weeks ago, that actually went well besides she turned out to be married, which is easy since going to lunch with other co-workers is already a popular thing to do on a non relationship seeking level. Which makes it easy to approach a woman and get to know her better.

i don't really go any where besides my job and maybe the movie theatre, all other times i am at home. I don't really go to public places but even if i did i can't really think of any places to go that is good for meeting people. Or rather i can't think of any places to go where people who share my interests would gather.

Bars/pubs seem like an obvious choice. That's where I tend to meet guys. Been pvssyd up in a bookshop once. It didn't go anywhere but it was nice and I suppose it's easy because you've got something to talk about from the off.

I suppose it depends what your interests are though.

If I were a girl, I would want to be approached while walking around the neighborhood.

well i like weird stuff, mostly exposing people to weird stuff to elicit a confused reaction. i love nothing more than a confused face.

obviously i like video games. but also science fiction and fantasy novels. The book store thing is probably a good place to find some one like minded to me, but it just seems like im creating a fake chance encounter by going to bookstores for that purpose alone. maybe i should just talk to people around me more. but then again, i hate most people by default, personal problem i know but still.

Ive asked someone in a supermarket, while cycling, while as a patient in hospital and asked, id be more paranoid in areas that are devoid of other people, especially large open places.

This. If I'm in the act of taking my morning exercise jog/walk in some empty park, I'd probably look askance at (or outright run from) some guy who just came running up to me and went "Hey, noticed you from across the trail, want to go to a movie?" Even if it didn't kick up any actual paranoia, I'd probably just be busy concentrating on my workout and not really want to talk/deal with such to begin with.

Outside of that sort of thing, however, I don't think I'd find it weird to be asked out at a bar, bookstore/library, social picnic/gathering, gamestore, grocery, etc. I wouldn't even mind if it was lunchbreak at work (but not during work). Outside of the more obvious meet/greet places (bar, club, etc), for cold-call asking, so to speak, it's more about the approach and what's said. If a guy approaches and makes at least a bit of conversation first before asking for a date/number or something, that's largely acceptable. Doesn't mean I'd say yes, but I wouldn't be offended or anything.

Since when did this become "Date and six advice @ a site for Bethseda fans and haters'?

I must have missed the memo. also just take them to a movie, get some cheap food at Mcdonalds. That's perfect date environment if you're like me and money and you aren't close friends.

Actually now you remind me Mc Donalds as well.

what? like as in approaching a girl while she's already eating, or ask her if she wants to go there. i don't really have any problems with ideas of where to take girls, just have a terrible sense of when women want to be left alone and where they're receptive to getting to know some one.

EDT

No actually while standing in line waiting to make an order, it was actually me being asked.