So, last night me and my girlfriend of just-shy-of 3 weeks admitted we loved each other. We'd tried to go to a Halloween dance, and despite having awesome costumes(we went as guys; funny for her, funnier for me since I'm a trans woman!), ended up bailing on the dance. It svcked to begin with, and it wasn't really our scene; we had a shot at her friend's place, and it didn't agree with either of us. We went to her place to crash, and were hugging and swaying in the kitchen, and she apologized for getting me into that situation because she didn't want to see me go down a path that she had been before(drinking to fit in). That's when she said she loved me, and I responded in kind.

I know for a lot of people that seems really soon, and would probably be written off as just infatuation, but frankly we both feel that we've dealt with enough emotional [censored] together to actually say that.

So....I'm curious, when did you say "I love you" to your current SO(if you have one)? How? When do you think you a person should say it, if ever?

To my now ex SO, I have no idea as we didn't really make a big deal out of it
That's about as good of an answer as I can give you. I'd just say whenever you both have intense feelings for each other and a strong bond, since that's pretty much what the meaning of love is, no?

Depends on the relationship and situation, really. There's no universal right timing. If it felt right to both of you, then it's definitely a great time to say it. As for myself? I don't think I've ever dropped the L-bomb or had it dropped on me. Not straight to me, at least. I've been in relationships, serious ones too, but never that close. Cornicer, consider yourself monumentally lucky for finding someone you love who loves you back. I'm happy for you.

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I have never experienced love, so I can't really tell you. But as Holy Assassin said there is no universal time to say it, it depends on when you and your partner are comfortable enough to say it. That's how I see it.

Yeah it depends on........when you love them and you're certain of it I guess. My boyfriend and I said it after, maybe, 4 months of going out?

Whenever I'm in trouble.

I have only said it once to a girlfriend... I dated her for a year before saying it

Never say it, carve it into your chest with a piece of broken glass, that's the romantic way.

Pretty much after this time, if I'm still passionate about the girl then four months is long enough for me to say I love you

Bingo.

Usually after it being wrung out of me and squeezed like a batch of graqes to make the most bittersweet wine you have ever tasted.

Seriously though? It varies. I have come the realization that every single time I said 'I love you' to my ex-girlfriends, I in some way, shape or form, didn't mean it 100%. Except with my current gf. I mean it each and every time. 2 years and still going!

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Depends. Do you have to do that for every new relationship?

You mean actually vocally express my feelings for my girlfriend- with words? I'm rubbish at that sort of thing.

However nothing says I love you more than giving her a backrub. In short. I svck at emotional stuff. Maintain a stiff upper lip at all times.

*Tips me trilby, adjusts monocle*

Good day.

A while back I would have done exactly as you, told my SO that I loved them a few weeks into the relationship (and I meant it.)

Now, in my current situation, though, I wouldn't anymore, because love has taken on a new meaning for me. It's something I could only say to someone later in a relationship, when it's stronger and stabler. I would say (now, at least), that the early relationship love is infatuation, and the later-stage love is real love, but that's only how I feel now; my point of view might change back to the early-stage love being real love (in a case where me and my current SO separated), I can't say for sure.

Well it would hardly be the same romantic gesture if you didn't, would it now?

All I'm saying is you better not have a lot of lovers. Or let them see how many you've had.

When I want her to make the coffee. She tries the same thing; I usually lose.

When I do get with someone, I'd rather know her for a while and be sure we have a connection before it gets to that point. I don't really care to be in a relationship anytime soon though.

I've only been in two relationships, one that lasted about a month and another that's been going on for over 5 years now. I don't have much experience with this, but I only say "I love you" when i truly mean it. When the I feel something for someone that matches my definition of love, I'll say it. Not before, and I won't wait either. This is kinda why I don't like to tell people they don't really love each other. Who am I to say if what your feeling is love or not? I have no right.

Me and my current girlfriend said we love each other at roughly 3-4 weeks in. But, you there isn't a set time to say it.

From personal experience, I've concluded that I'll never say I love a girl, even if for some reason I do love her.

Besides it being incredibly trivial and obligatory, it's detrimental to the relationship.