Know that this is an common problem.
Any tips/ console commands to reset this?
Fast traveled to house, bandit was fighting the horse so I killed him. Found the ransom note and went inside to drop off some loot, while doing so I got the quest complete message, because I know this was an problem I walked to meet wife at the embershark mine, she was fighting an bandit and I noticed she was unable to move, asked her to follow me and fast traveled back but it did not reset.