No, but the problem with gray civil wars is that you might realistically say that it's not your problem. I guess I just like playing hero types.
It depends on the character. Not all toons will care. The character I've enjoyed the most so far, though, was the Nord who came home and felt like Talos had sent her there to free Skyrim and save it from the dragons. That felt pretty damn heroic.
I'm playing an Altmer now, as anti-Thalmor resistance, and that's much more difficult. I also played a thief/ assassin who felt like she had done her part by taking out Mede and had no interest in being a grunt soldier for either side. Skyrim gives you a lot of flexibility, if not complete flexibility.
As for RL and games... to me the stories that are most compelling are those that revolve around human drama. That's exactly why I like the civil war quest line, and why I'm not that interested in most fantasy and sci fi. You can have both, of course. GRRM's approach is that space ships or castles are basically furniture and the meat of the story is in human weakness, ambitions, and relationships. That's the kind of storytelling I prefer.