Being a normal guy, i prefer to play as a male charecter. So for my charecter, i have little need of coolsims hair pack, EXCEPT making custom NPCs with it, now i also use a hair color mod, and i have an NPC who uses both a COOLSIMS hair, and a color mod, it appears correctly in the preveiw window, but in the game, she has default female breton hair, how can i get her hair to load and display IN GAME correctly?
P.S: yes, i already tried CTRL+F4.

For the NPC in my mod, I went into the hair pack and copied the hairstyle I wanted and its appropriate textures and added it independently to my .esp file. This is less likely to cause conflicts than if your mod has a dependency on the Coolsims .esp, and I'd recommend going that route. The only caveat is that it's a bit more work (but the standard method doesn't seem to be working for you anyway).

EDIT: Er, this is assuming that it's intended for private use. If you intend to publish then the ApachiiSkyHair readme says you need to send the author a pm to ask permission, but this isn't usually a problem with most mod authors, as long as you say upfront that you plan to give credit and link.

hmm well looking further into it, i noticed no matter what i changed, she was always the base breton female...so im onna try changing her race, since her khajiit model worked fine, so if it dosnt, do i put the hair in a folder that also has the nomad mod?