What do you mean by set PlayerREF? Sorry I'm a bit of a newb at this. Also is there an easy way to see what objects I have already set to delete in the CK?
In any placed item's edit window, the "Enable Parent" tab lets you choose an enable parent. PlayerREF is the special reference that is the player, ACHR 00000014, found in the (any) cell of the Enable Parent tab's window when selecting. To see what you've "deleted", open your plugin with the CK, then go to Data > Details, select your plugin and sort by deletion. Multiselect all deleted forms (write down their FormIDs) and hit the delete key which will mark the overrides as "Ignored", flagging them for removal next save. You can then go back, after closing/reopening the CK, and remove the REFs with the enable parentage method.