Is anyone else wary of getting married in this game?
It's a slightly cheesy idea but I it has it's appeals.. Novelty and comedy being two of them.
Perhaps I played FalloutNV for far too long and grew acclimatised to being able to boff anyone/thing that moved with very few strings attatched..
But to me, the idea of getting married in skyrim, well it sounds pretty scary, intense, and permanent.

I am going to assume, considering no one shows interest in my charecter when she's not wearing that silly amulet, that the only way to get any is to get married?
But then, that just seems a little cruel, to wed someone simply with the desire to bed them.. It also sounds like a worrisome way to collect a rather large collection of slightly disgruntled husbands and wives.


To me it seems to be a good way to encourage an army of derranged dragonborn to finally reach the edge and snap, because for the last damn time they've gone home to find that once again that damned house carl is sitting in the players bedroom eating noisily, and the spouse is sitting awkwardly at the table with little to say. That would make me become violent that would. Bludgeoning old men to death for the sake of a very pretty mace would be a noble act compared to what I'd do to the slaves and husbands when their day of reckoning came.

You're not going to "assemble a collection," since you can only marry one NPC. There's not much to the mechanic but it can add a little something to the story for particular PCs. Gameplay wise you get a small boost in gold, stats (15% from sleeping in the same bed as the spouse) and small combat bonuses from food. If you're worried about getting tired of the spouse, tell them you want to live in their house. That way you keep hers, his and a bit of ours. This worked really well for my character based in Riften, who married Balimund but had her home base at Honeyside and he stayed at his forge.

Actually, the game files did include quests to break up with a certain spouse. These quests weren't implented though. Only way of breaking up and "assemble a collection" is to kill your current spouse. If you want to do so watch out not to marry an essential npc in the game.

Marriage in Skyrim is 99% roleplaying and 1% actual gameplay changes. And that 1% includes a new sleeping bonus and possible 100 gold per day.

You can't "assemble a collection" at all. You can kill your spouse, but you can't remarry.

I'd kind of like to try an in-game marriage, but I have a strong aversion to marriage in real life, and it carries over into the game. Just thinking about it -- even if it's just an imaginary in-game marriage to a human-shaped bundle zeroes and ones -- triggers low-grade panic attacks.

Yes, really. Yes, there's something wrong with the inside of my head.

youre name wouldn't happen to be Gene Simmons btw??? honestly im not to crazy about the idea either, just pushed through for the bonuses

Yeah, you understood best what I meant by this whole situation. I dont think there's anything wrong with your head.

Real life marriage to me seems like a distinct loss of privacy and funds. I also worry for the days of waking up and realising you just dont like who you've married anymore. The stony silences and the uncomfortably small house..
These all too real fears move into the game all too easily. It's allready tiresome to have a house slave that lounges around in your room eating all your food and barely being able to hold up their end of a bland conversation. I think adding to that another obstreperous and laughable NPC would be a bad idea.

Think of it, you go out, clear a few dungeons of undead, do a few dirty deeds for a minor demon, and on your way home you find the horribly mutilated remains of a family of traders and their few pitifull posessions plus their skinned dead horse. So you go home in a bad mood, to be faced with a fat-assed housecarl who stares vapidly up at you and mutters insincere and vague sentiments about their loyalty to you. And then the husband/wife ambles past you with that stranged fixed gaze and says something that's directed into the vague area of the room before shambling off to glug down your hard earned meed.


Something about the idea of that makes my hair stand on end. I think it may well ruin the gaming experience for more jaded gamers.


Thanks for the info though, everyone. It's a shame that Skyrim has struct rules on weddings and the collection of spouses. And it's also a shame that killing them doesent really have *much* profit in it.

The moral of Beks experience:
Much like real life, Skyrim marriage seems to be a little distraction from the bland drudgery of your every day chores. Much like real life, as soon as the fairy tale wares off and you want that person gone it all too soon ends in bloodshed and guards on fire.

I'm no KISS scholar, but isn't Gene Simmons married?

The thing is, though, that I'm perfectly happy to role-play a character that isn't "me." I might have a character who, unlike the real-world me, is totally a monogamous, traditional-marriage type. And yet I still can't get over my real-life aversion to marriage and role-play that way. Which is interesting, because apparently that aversion is more powerful than I thought if I can't even do a silly video game marriage.

I got married on my first playthrough purely for the novelty, but i havent bothered again.

can Grelka be married , i think i tried before but nothing, and if so what do i have to do to get her to that point?

This. This so hard.

Honestly I got married solely for the XBox achievement. I rarely ever go to my house aside from dumping things I want to keep into storage. 90% of the time my wife (Aela) is poking at the alchemy lab or sitting in my bedroom next to Lydia, who's always eating bread. Quite the exciting family I have going. It's like Three's Company, but with less six, somehow.

If they allowed more options to who you could marry, it would not be so bad. I would love to marry someone in the Thieves Guild. When I was playing a Wood Elf (for a bit) I soon realized, I had no options of Wood Elves too marry.

Since Bethesda failed at making any wood elf or Kahjiit available, what is my Lonely Kitty supposed to do? QQ
Has anyone else who played a beast race married a human?
I'm married to Aela on my Nord Barbarian and i love her <3 we go out adventuring and kill dragons together

Though i wish they gave you more options, i think everyone who isn't married should have been made available.

It's more for roleplay with a small almost unnoticed boost to the game little bit of money , homecooked meals. If you tend to grow attached to certain characters in the game , do not marry them because their whole attitude and whatever made you like them won't be there anymore , it'll be all yes dears and whatever you want etc. My first try my thought was oyeah this'll be awesome , Aela and I tearing through the countryside husband and wife dominating everything together, but I get home and she's a gooey nobody and it felt a little like i betrayed her spirit. Just sort of a bleh thing , this marriage in a game.

I see marriage the same way as I see cooking, the sawmill and the millstones.
Very nice plugins for mods, first obvious one is more partners and divorce and continue over to the advlt section.

This really
A mod like the LGNPC (Less Generic NPC) mods for MW that added more variety of dialogue would be nice but I'd imagine hard to do well because of voiceacting

for all of those who are on the pc, well you can use the console to make people marriable? its what i did ( to sven ) and it went really smoothly, hell, my chracyer even moved in with him! i odnt htink there are any bugs associated with it

I equipped a Mara's amulet just to see if marriage dialogue options show up on NPC's, go to Balimund to sell some stuff, the big guy asks me if I'm interested in getting married, I say to myself: Oh I see what you did there Beth devs, he's gonna give me a witty reply and have a good laugh about all this, thinking it's gonna be some kind of irony/sarcasm from Balimund.
mfw.jpg when I say to him I'm interested and he says: Ok, then it's settled, you and me, and the quest for Maralan or whatever his name is starts. Had reload to a previous save after imagining how my life would've been with the big bearded guy Balimund as I'm a little skinny wood elf. Even pictured myself in a white tux ar the wedding or playing the role of the woman in the house, cooking or having sixy-time in a prison like style that felt like virtual [censored]

Still having flashbacks...

Marriage is great in a video game. Marriage in real life is a rather stupid move in my opinion.

I think you've probably fretted over this issue even more than me..




Alot of people here seem to have hit upon the main point that the charecters can be bland once they go into housewife mode. It's a nifty idea in the game but it's sad that it seems the charecters loose all their personality once married, and become utterly bland an unsixy.

It's larping, not roleplaying!

Roleplaying means playing a game from the point of view of a certain character. Larping means doing some 'live action' stuff just for the sake of it, totally disconnected from the gameplay mechanics.

Perhaps they could add an emote thing like WoW so that you express yourself to your spouse, even if the response will be canned. And instead of it being a random thing from you, you could choose from a list of options, as we already do in the dialog menus. Some things would not need any choices. Let's see, now...

[font=courier new,courier,monospace]Speak to Aela	         \			  Emote				   \				    Hug				    Kiss				    Pat				    Fist				    Sigh				    Flirt						 \						  "I like your hair, you smell nice, here's a drink... are you ready now?"						  "Am I sleeping, or are you a dream come true? Also, I'm slightly damp."				    Admonish						    \							 "Watch it, sister!"			    			 "Down in front, I can't see the target!"[/font]

... and so forth and so fifth. Just a thought. Of course, Beth would have to recall the half-dozen voice actors to cover the responses, so it'll likely never happen.

Its certainly not LARPing since I doubt Pistolero dresses up and runs around in real life playing out his Skyrim fantasies.
What you've just pointed out is the difference between rulesplayers who limit themselves to what the game mechanics allow and roleplayers who, accepting that there are always going to be limitations to what can be included in a CRPG, are prepared to use their imagination and actually roleplay (but still from the pov of their character).

So marry someone who can travel with you and fight beside you. I'm getting me Farkas this time. Tried Vilkas, Marcurio and Argis. Now it's Farkas turn. How could my little Bosmer not love him for what he said about her? That he'd stand by her side until all their enemies were dead. She melted right then. Besides by the time she can marry him, she'll have her own room. She's not buying Breezehome. Disable doesn't work for me for some reason after the patch so I can't get rid of her. I'm going straight to the top and only buying the Solitude home for a grand total of about 32000 gold. Bought it for my level 40 character and really like it.