after spending 3 days searching ive found the solution its too simple . that im surprised i didnt think of it . all you have to do it is open your catalyst control center goto gaming then 3d application settings
set your anti aliasing to max
set your anisotropic filtering to max
tessellation max
catalyst a.i to quality
vertical refresh off
anti-aliasing mode max quality
and turn off triple buffering

and make sure you unclick all the use application settings

basiclly it seems skyrim has a big problem handling your graphic card settings so it has to be bypassed to let your video card do it so nvidia users make sure you turn off all settings that let the game manage your graphic settings

i also am using amd catalyst 12.6 beta

also turn off both aa features in the launcher menu since it will conflict now with your forced setting

There is a much easier way. After you have your video settings as YOU want them, go to the directory found at My Documents - > My Games - > Skyrim and make the .ini files READ ONLY. The autodetect thingy might come up, but it can't change anything in the .ini files.