ok i uninstalled and started over.... back to downloading the whole frickin' thing from Steam.... only now i have 9 hours to wait... wtf!
Someone please tell me i'm really stupid and that there is an easy way around this download... so i can install the game from the disk....
Pleaseeeeeeeeeeee!
Found this at: http://geekmontage.com/texts/fallout-new-vegas-game-fixes-crashes-audio-issues-lag-saving/
"When Installing Game from Disc / DVD / CD, Steam is automatically launched (executed), validates the game files, and then begins to download the the game files instead of installing the files from the actual disk."
1. Load Steam and Select the Library
2. Right click the game -> "Delete Local Content"
3. Insert the disc into your DVD drive
4. Close Steam
5. Go to Start -> Run and type in--
"C:\Program Files\Steam\Steam.exe" -install E:
Make sure to replace the path to Steam with the path to your Steam.exe. Replace the letter "E" with your DVD drive letter. Then press OK.
The installation should now use the files in the DVD rather than downloading them from the internet now.
I hope this helps!