I've always been a nice guy, don't lie, don't take people I dont know home, but tonight ive been [censored] over for the last time, who else has felt this?

I feel like I walked into an episode of Jersey Shore.

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If it's relationship issues like I'm going to (assume) it is, my best advice is. Get over it. I'm at the point where if my relationship ends, for good reason or bad, I do my best to make the girl feel like it wasn't her fault. If she cheated on me, I just shrug it off and move on. Shes only human, and I won't force my own hate and resent onto her, it's not worth it for either side. If it's a breakup on good terms, and i'm getting screwed, I try to make her feel like it's not her fault and move on. Makes relationships easier to get over, and it's a savior of energy because the time you spend being pissed off and mad isn't gonna do jack [censored] for anyone but a therapist you'll be paying $150.00 an hour in 10 years.

It happens every damn time, I'll meet a girl, they'll tell me all this [censored] about them we plan stuff then I get dumped at the last minute. I didn't get my car taken but I'll get my girl taken every time. I'm through with being nice, I'm just going to be a lying [censored] like everyone else, so to all the girls who wish they had someone nice, don;t be a ho.

Edit: Why even try to be nice? It fails every time.

I know you are pissed, but there's no reason to be an [censored], you will only shoot yourself in the foot. I know, I've been there. I used to be such a nice guy as well and I had no success with girls at all. But your problems won't be solved by becoming a SOB. If you want to talk send me a PM, I'd like to help you.

Basically, just stop taking crap from girls and don't let them toy you around.

Purposely being an [censored] doesn't make girls like you. Guys seem to be under this impression that girls love guys who "treat them like [censored]". But it's more or less a guy acting nice, then when a girl has fallen for them hard enough, they can stop pretending, start acting like they normally do (which just happens to be an [censored]) and then she doesn't want to leave that person.

I consider myself to be a nice guy when it comes to relationships, and my track record hasn't been that great. Not only due to MY [censored]ups, but to the girls as well. I'd never begin thinking about treating a girl like [censored] because i'm sick of ending up single. But i'll tell you this right now. I'm an [censored] in general, but when it comes to dating, I treat my girl with respect, space and equality. My last relationship didn't work out, because she moved and we decided (she decided, but I made her feel like the breakup wasn't her fault) it's best to be friends. Now she is constantly telling me day in and day out we are perfect for eachother and she regrets moving. I'v had my share of relationships where the girl tells me she likes me, and just ditches me afterwards. But you also have to realize this::

Most girl are terrified and self-concious. They are scared of being alone, or being alone in the future, and they do tend to feel they aren't good enough. I won't say this is all girls, but the majority of girls I know find it terrifying to be alone, so I don't fault them for their relationship issues or just inexperience on how to handle them.

If you're going to start treating girls like [censored] though, I will say thanks because. You make me look AWESOME, and it's why my past three relationships ended well, and all three are still not over me. Makes my life easier when I can point out the douchebags being douchebags.

Briefly, but then I decided that the best way to deal with it was to disregard any feelings of bitterness and remain confident and positive about myself. Remember also that the best revenge is to live well. Don't make any negative comments to the person who did you over or allow yourself to be seen to be worked up about the situation. Don't give them that satisfaction.

If you think becomming a badboy will solve everything then consider this. What is is about badboys that women are attracted too? Figure that out and ask yourself, why shouldn't you be able to have those qualites and still be a nice guy`?

Sigh I;m just a drunk ass right now lol. I'll just keep being me I guess, I'm just pissed becasue I have no problem getting numbers and stuff but its only once gotten past that, and being single again is hard. Maybe I'm just rushing into thinks, thanks ninja for kicking some sense into me, I just need to calm down a bit becuase I'll never be a [censored] I guess haha, I've siad this too many times but I'll just keep end up doing lol, maybe I just need to meet someone like me.

Girls are attracted to "bad boys" because they are confident and strong. A woman likes a guy who is confident in himself, and will tell her "No". Seriously. My ex dated a bunch of guys, I was the ONLY guy that would tell her "no" or "[censored] you" when she asked me to do something I thought was stupid. And she said she absolutely loved how I stood up to her and didn't let her walk over me. And thats the key. Girls dont want to date guys who are more of a [censored] than they are. Man up, be confident and stop saying [censored] like you wanna treat girls like [censored].

Well, you don't sound very nice. If I heard someone calling girls a "ho" because they didn't want to date him, I wouldn't go near him either.

[Edit]: you have no problem "getting numbers"? Does that mean what I think it does?

-.- i dont usually do that, just for girls I'm really pissed at. I dont blame you for thiniking im a [censored] because at this minute i am pissed off. I menant phone numbers and since im not in grade 7 it means phone numbers, i always tell the trush and open myself up to girls but it will end badly no matter what. I thought i'd found myself but no matter how many times this happens i get rejected.

"Nice" guys are boring. Not because they are "nice", but because often people who describe themselves as "nice" never decide on what to do next, but leave it to the girl to plan everything, every day. And instead just follow the girl behind and follow her every word like an obedient slave with massive amounts of passive aggression (which isn't really nice at all). Having a yes-sayer following you gets old, fast. A relationship need more dynamics than that for the majority of people.

Be confident, not a jerk.

Always glad to keep another guy from becoming a [censored]. If you want some advice on relationships, here is mine.

1) Don't let a breakup end on bad terms. Accept it, and move on. Tell her theres no hard feelings, and you don't blame her. If you can make it seem//be a mutual breakup, than your life will be 100x easier.
2) If she cheated on you and the relationship ends in bad terms, ignore it. Take a few days of being sad and down, and move on. I'm over a girl in 4-5 days now, regardless of length of relationship.

3) Girls like confident guys who don't take [censored]. But they don't like being treated like [censored]. A girl likes a guy who will stand his ground with her.
4) Be an [censored]. Seriously, don't be nice to everyone. But when it comes to her. Treat her good, because girls like to know a guy can provide, protect and make them feel wanted.

5) Don't be bitter, pissy or resentful after a breakup. Why not? You're the only person being affected by it. All it is, is a self-induced form of depression.
6) Don't be an [censored] to her. If it ends bad, don't start talking [censored] about her. Let it die, ignore it and move on. Seriously. Everything that involves you not being an [censored] over a breakup, involves you getting over it.

That's basically all I can give for advice. For me it's what's kept my last three relationships AWESOME, lasting and ending on amazing terms. (So amazing, I have one ex whose still willing to date again, and the other is willing for one-night stands if she comes to town for whatever reason). Just keep at it, don't waver or falter and just keep trying. Change stuff up now and then, but don't start being douchy. And goodluck in the dating future.

Haha, as long as you meant phone numbers. I have always gone for nice guys, but there's a difference between being nice and being a guy that agrees with everything just to get along. These "bad boys" are idiots, as are many of the girls who are into them, at least if your definition of a "bad boy" is the same as mine. Eg. If a girl would rather spend her time following her man around as he deals drugs, constantly forgiving him for cheating, and possibly having to bail him out of prison (or even worse scenarios) rather than spend time with someone who just wants to get on, would you really want to be with that girl?
Also, I understand you're annoyed, but it still stands, if I heard a guy getting pissed just because he couldn't get a date, I still wouldn't go near him - I think girls who like nice guys don't like guys who get angry so easily

Yep, already covered, don't be a dike.
Because then you're just a dike, that hasn't really figured anything out, but is happy to keep lying to himself about how awesome he is.

In other words. The ideal guy is a guy who treats her right, but isn't a door mat. Has his own ideas, and thoughts. Not everything revolves around the girl.
And personally, I think if you aren't getting in arguments in your relationship, it's going to fail. Because having arguments means one if you isn't being obedient, which means you both have a seperate mind and you're both confident enough with the relationship you know it's not going to end over something petty.

Exactly! I couldn't imagine spending my time with someone where every conversation ends with "I agree! We're so alike!" lol. Even friends have banter and different opinions on things, I don't see why it should be any different in a relationship.

Agree'd. And it was weird, my last relationship, me and my ex were polar opposites when it came to almost everything. We had some stuff in common, but mostly not. And I agree, even as a guy, I HATE having a girlfriend who is completely agreeable with me. It drives me [censored] nuts. Its like.... why the [censored] am I dating you if you're me. I might as well go sit in a corner and jerk off and avoid the hassle of relationships. LOL.

I think most guys just need to get it into their heads. Might take awhile but, i'm sure it'll hit them eventually. Kinda like this guy who now realizes it.

Uh, dude? May I just say, to you who is angry about being stuffed around, don't be a dike. Everyone's already summed up well enough that you shouldn't be a dike- so I'll just add, don't use the term "ho." It's just degrading and it makes it seem like maybe you got stuffed around because you don't respect women. Just because you met a few girls who wronged you somehow, doesn't mean you need to start throwing that term around like we're all slags.

*PLEASE READ* I hate the term "ho", it's just plain rude and disgraceful. The insinuation in this post that we're all trashy and need to be told to control ourselves is, quite possibly, a massvie over-reaction on my part. I am tired. Rather than flame me, please ignore me except for the part about not calling girls ho's. Heed that. Oh lawd, I need sleep...

The same thing applies to men really. One of the reasons I left my ex was because she accepted everything I told her. There was no conflict. It's boring.

NinjaFish is right, OP made himself sound like a total [censored] who just thinks he's nice and I wouldn't date him either, PersonWorm is right. Please try not to take your frustration out on the female population as a whole, you've just had [censored] luck.

"Ho" isn't even so much of a degrading term as just completely pathetic. I can't take anyone who uses the term "ho" seriously. :shrug:

WAIT WHAT? I dont understand the OP. She leaves you in the middle of the night after unowat? I gotta be real careful with whom Im seeing. Not that I ever will..

Mmkay, first of all theres nothing like coming home alone at 4 am so sorry about this thread :/

Anyways @ Ninja great advice, pretty much sums up what ive been trying to do
@ Person This instance I was a bit out of line, but for the times I've been the "other guy" or cheated on, I think its fair to use that term. Not all women are at all, and it's horribly degrading to call every women that. I actually think I live in Alberta's New Jersey

To get a few other things straight, I'm not a [censored], I have no problem keeping stuff going with girls, I'm just frustrated with the amount of times I've been used for cheating, been cheated on and just straight up ditched. I'm definatly an ass when I drink too much, and you don't have to believe me but I'm not that bad of a guy, I don't cheat, don't talk behind people's backs, don't cause drama, etc.

Edit:I forgot to mention, the drinking age here is 18, so I'm not really dealing with advlts here. Not that the bar's a good place to look for someone to date, but I'm over finding a relationship now, I'll just enjoy my college years.

I didn't get my car taken but I'll get my girl taken every time
Well damn, women are possesions?
You get dumped every time? Doesn't that make big red lights go off in your brain? Ever think that it could possibly have to do with your attitude?
I'm just going to be a lying [censored] like everyone else, so to all the girls who wish they had someone nice, don;t be a ho.
Aww, even if I was a ho, you couldn't afford me. Most everyone has told a lie in some form or other in their lives.

Women (not girls) like quietly confident men. We dodn't need a man to tell us no, we are quite capapble of making up our own minds, and while we may take a man's opinion into consideration, it's not the law. We are capable of rational thought, managing finances, mechanical inclination, comprehending sports, and taking care of ourselves.
We like a man who enjoys being with us for who we are, and that means the total package. Not the exterior, but the interior as well, the good and the bad.

Perhaps you should re-evaluate what attracts you to a female, and what type of female you seem to continually involve yourself in with disastrous results.
Everyone makes mistakes, learn from yours.
I know I learned from mine.

This is part of the reason why I've given up bothering about almost a year and a half ago...

By the way, even when most suggestions in this thread are applied, a lot of things can go wrong. I'm talking about the arguments and having a separate mind, being the independent tough guy who treats her right but isn't a wuss to the outside and this not talking about the other person after breaking up hit me like a baseball bat in the face when I discovered once upon a time it was me who'd fallen victim despite all... Good riddance.