Yeah, I know about this bug... now. I didn't know about it when I was sitting there, listening to the preacher's dialogue, marveling at the fact that people I knew from all over the province had shown up for the ceremony, and so on. I realized too late that my wife (Brelyna Maryon) had walked out the door. Then I ran all over the place trying to find her, overwriting all my autosaves (my last manual save was probably four or five hours ago). It's been a few days, and I haven't seen her since. I'll probably drop by Riften after this next dungeon clear-out to see if she's turned up at the temple. (XBox 360 player; no console suggestions, please.)

How many of you have had this experience? Where did you end up finding him/her? Or did you lose her forever?

While I'm here, is it possible to change our living arrangements later, should I acquire property of my own?

You will find her back at home at her normal locations doing her normal things.

Nope haven't gotten married yet.

I've had this happen several times but I've always found them where they normally are. This last time was with Ysolda. She disappeared immediately so I FT'd back to Whiterun, walked up the street and there she was coming out of the Bannered Mare at 9 in the morning along with 4 dudes. We promptly moved to Windhelm.

For me, the place where she "normally" was is at my side; I had her following me (and she's fairly powerful; all the mages are). I ended up finding her at the Temple, like I expected to. She definitely wasn't hanging around the College.