That was only Tobey Mcguire's Spiderman. And even that was only in Spiderman 3. In the comics he's cheerful and funny most of the time.
That's certainly how I remember him from my childhood, and I'd like to add that I loved Tobey Mcguire as Parker, he felt like a perfect fit to me. Some say he was too handsome, but look at the comics and tell me Peter wasn't drawn just like all other prettyboys at the time, come on. Anyway, I liked him for that role, even Spiderman 3 I didn't mind because I knew there was a reason he was acting like a dike, and I literally did a spit take in the movie theatre when he backhanded Mary Jane across a room

The guy in front of me didn't seem to mind strangely enough, possibly because he was in a laughing fit himself.
Because violence towards women is hilarious...right?
Anyway, in short, I thought Spiderman 3 was worth watching at the very least, it's not like the ticket cost me much back then and I didn't feel like I had wasted my time, I've got nothing better to do most of the time anyway, certainly not back when that came out. Only thing that bugged (Sorry) was that Venom wasn't in it more, I was always a huge fan of Venom.
Now, to get on the actual topic. I don't care, I never followed continuity as a kid, I just picked up random issues. And the issues published in Norway didn't follow continuity half the time anyway but just kinda came out erratically. I like spider man and if I find a good stand-alone story I'll buy it, but I can't be bothered following continuity these days, it's too much of a hassle.
That being said, if anyone knows of any good stand-alone paperbacks or something for Spiderman, let me know. I love being able to just get a book, read a story and be done. Like Watchmen, yeah it's a miniseries, but I have it all in one book so it kinda fits. Something in that format is what I'd like to read.