Dating and Girlfirends. : Othor Games

» Mon Sep 19, 2011 8:25 am

Aren't they normally called prosttutes?

Haha, no.

Well, yes. But that's not what I was leaning towards.

When I say confidence building workshops, I mean chewing abnormally large amounts of Grizzly and smoking cigars with my friends. I don't know, for some reason once I started doing that stuff I didn't feel like the same "loser" that I saw myself as previously.

» Mon Sep 19, 2011 4:28 pm

I've tried metaphorical dynamite to get out the friends zone. I'm easily a high ranking member of the community in there.

... You need to go deeper ...

Speaking from just my own personal experience, yeah, pretty much. The ones that are too nice aren't interesting at all, they're just nice friends. Being constantly adored and doted upon gets old really fast.

I'm pretty sure it depends on the girl in question, though.

This right here is what drives me insane about some women. Luckily for me, I'm too nervous to dare try any of my usual cheesy lines around a girl I'm attracted to. So my weakness becomes my strength in this particular case. :evil:

But still, what's wrong with you ladies?! If someone's nice, be nice back! Unless you can tell he's being insincere of course.

» Mon Sep 19, 2011 4:46 am

For my current person-of-signifigance, the way we got together was strange. During spring break of last year, I was lucky enough for her to ask for my phone number the day before it started.

That night, we get eachothers Facebooks (which to this point, was something I never went on). She even trusted me with a secret account, which I found flattering. The following week of no school, we go from IMing eachother everyday, to webcamming everyday, to spilling eachothers secrets to one another every nigh. After school started again, she heard from someone that I said she was cute (she is very cute), and that's sort of how we got together. From that point on, our relationshiip only got stronger.

Funny thing is that we always tell eachother, "Can we not go around doing that Boyfriend/Girlfriend gimmick please?"

The point I am making is that I don't think you need to know someone for a very long time, nor do I think you need to go on several dates. You just need to know them, know them very well, and have something that is making a connection between the two of you that keeps growing.

» Mon Sep 19, 2011 3:08 am

I dove straight in and 4 and a half years late, we are still together. Everyone has their own way of going about dating. I hate waiting on girls to make up their mind, so i thought I would try going straight in. I wasn't even friends with her for a week and I asked her out. I took a risk and am glad I did.

» Mon Sep 19, 2011 1:22 pm

How do you get around to the girlfriend/boyfriend stage? Are you long time friends, then you start going out? OR, are you the kinda person that dives straight into it?

The idea of the later has always boggled my mind, I don't think it's possible for me to dive straight into something that you hope turns out to be a relationship. I don't go out "hunting" for girls either. If someone enters my life and I become fond of them, it'll start out as friendship and work from there. I see friendship as insight to what they are like, if they aren't girlfriend/boyfriend "material" then you can remain friends. I guess most people see the dating part as getting to know them, but it seems all so sudden for me, especially if it's someone I've only met once or twice before and I'm basing my opinions on them from those few encounters.

It seems that every girl I get very close to in a friendship, I end up falling for (and usually vice versa). Is anyone else like this? I have many friends that are girls, but when I ever get too close to one, I end up falling for them. It would seem I can't have a girl best friend

And just for a side note: the stereotypical dinner date further boggles my mind. How can you sit at a table with someone you barely know, discuss your life and chomp down food in front of their face? That screams awkward to me :bonk:

Nearly all my friends are girls so I know what you mean on that end, I also end up always falling for them but they don't feel the same way about me so I have to constantly be around those whom I want, but I know I will never get. Its a very slow form of torture and I do not recommend it :cold:

» Mon Sep 19, 2011 12:27 pm

Nearly all my friends are girls so I know what you mean on that end, I also end up always falling for them but they don't feel the same way about me so I have to constantly be around those whom I want, but I know I will never get. Its a very slow form of torture and I do not recommend it :cold:

I know your pain, man. I remember your thread. I remember every relationship thread... :evil:

» Mon Sep 19, 2011 9:00 am

I don't become friends with girls in the first place. Not that I care right now, I'm honestly more interested in mathematics, games and hakuna-matata than a relationship.

I'd be nice though..

Ok dammit, you win. :/

» Mon Sep 19, 2011 4:15 pm

For my current person-of-signifigance, the way we got together was strange. During spring break of last year, I was lucky enough for her to ask for my phone number the day before it started.

That night, we get eachothers Facebooks (which to this point, was something I never went on). She even trusted me with a secret account, which I found flattering. The following week of no school, we go from IMing eachother everyday, to webcamming everyday, to spilling eachothers secrets to one another every nigh. After school started again, she heard from someone that I said she was cute (she is very cute), and that's sort of how we got together. From that point on, our relationshiip only got stronger.

Funny thing is that we always tell eachother, "Can we not go around doing that Boyfriend/Girlfriend gimmick please?"

The point I am making is that I don't think you need to know someone for a very long time, nor do I think you need to go on several dates. You just need to know them, know them very well, and have something that is making a connection between the two of you that keeps growing.

This could not get anymore off topic......but is that Nick Cave I see as your avatar? :spotted owl:

» Mon Sep 19, 2011 1:18 pm

I stuggle to hold on to ordinary friends, let alone romantic ones. I just sort of go through people's lives momentarily and then come out on the other side.

» Mon Sep 19, 2011 2:19 pm

My last relationship was kind of a "Dove into" thing...ended badly..and just recently....

First date(as in first time I had ever seen her outside school) we went to a parade downtime, walked around, enjoyed a beautiful day, I took her to a nice restaurant and then we did a movie. I knew her from school but just barely, as in she did her work and I did my work and then slept in class. Had a nice relationship for a long time but there were so many things that were opposite between us.

I don't think I want to "Dive right in" anymore...I want someone I know I will be happy with if the relationship last by being better friends with them first.

» Mon Sep 19, 2011 2:12 pm

I'm the kind of person that just dives right into it. I see a cute girl, find a reason to talk to them, say hey every time I see them after that, get their number, ask them on a date. The process takes about a week.

Every time I have tried to date a friend it always ends badly.

» Mon Sep 19, 2011 4:48 am

JGHT

Just give her trichloromethane.

Or do it Morrowind style, and bribe her 10 gold pieces until her disposition is at 100.

» Mon Sep 19, 2011 10:02 am

We have to stop idealizing women and see them for what they are.

Now to figure out what that is...

» Mon Sep 19, 2011 4:34 pm

We have to stop idealizing women and see them for what they are.

Now to figure out what that is...

It's not hard.

» Mon Sep 19, 2011 8:47 am

It's not hard.

Mine is...

Or wait, are we talking about the same thing?

» Mon Sep 19, 2011 3:50 pm

Mine is...

Or wait, are we talking about the same thing?

I don't think we have the same thing.

» Mon Sep 19, 2011 9:37 am

It's not hard.

Mine is...

Or wait, are we talking about the same thing?

I don't think we have the same thing.

:rofl:

» Mon Sep 19, 2011 12:02 pm

screw friend zone.

If I ask a girl out and she says 'lets just be friends' I pretty much stonewall her.

Id rather not know a girl than be the sap she knows likes her and beleives she has power over.

» Mon Sep 19, 2011 11:50 am

I'm not dating right now, or for a while mainly because it turned out my best friend I ever had in my life was fooling around with my girlfriend.