u know whats sad, that the same Dunmer that the 2 nords was threating at the beginning thats got everyone thinking that the stormcloaks are racists and evil, if u follow the same dunmer lady to the docks where she works and listen to the stuff shes says about the argonians.
and if u still dont gte it, then for example replace argonian with black and then tell me that aint the racists [censored] u ever heard. That whole trio the dunmer and the 2 drunk nords were basically the most racist people in the city lol.
i like to imagine the 2 drunks were giving her a taste of her own racism.
I take into account the one well-respected older warrior in Ulfric's own court (I forget his name) that gives you a mission to wipe out a group of bandits that have been attacking and killing Dunmers because Ulfric refuses to do so. The only time Ulfric willl deal with bandits is when they attack Nords. Anybody else, whether Argonians, Khajit, or any kind of Elves, NOTHING is done about it.
Is the dark elf woman racist? Maybe. That doesn't excuse the Stormcloaks' bahavior. IS Ulfric racist? I believe so, he just hides it better than some of his men.
Re: my position on the OP's question, is pretty much dependent wholly on how you are RPing your character and what race they are. Practically speaking, overall, one side is no better than the other.