DISCLAIMER
I understand that Skyrim is a game in which killing is necessary. I understand that "playing without killing stuff" sounds boring and that the team did not create an appropriate environment for a non-violent player. That being said, my question below is for ROLEPLAYING PURPOSES. I don't care if you think I'm playing the game wrong, I paid sixty bucks just like everybody else and I should be able to do whatever I damn well please.
It seems like theirs nothing you can do in Skyrim to avoid becoming a sociopathic killer. It's in everything you do. Deliver this message, and kill 20 bandits along the way. Find my lost whatever, and tear though an underground army of vampires. Go to the gas station and buy some smokes, and don't forget to brutalize some soldiers before you get back.
It seems like your character comes with a factory installed "no remorse, no regret, no fear, no hesitation" chip in his/her brain that allows him/her to instantly and effortlessly start plunging daggers into peoples throats and smashing their faces in with warhammers. I'm not saying this is a bad thing. My point is, this limits a role-players options when creating a backstory for a character. No matter who your character is, no matter what his past may be, he is automatically an autonomous killing machine.
I need advice. My intention is not to play a non-violent character. My intention is to create a non-violent character, and then gradually warm him up to the idea of killing. I wouldn't expect a young alchemist from Cyrodiil to meet a band of brigands with a barrage of waraxe attacks. That being said, I'm having troubles planning my characters first kill. I want it to happen as realistically as possible. I want it to be provoked, but justifiably so. He won't be murdering anyone because they call him a milk drinker. It has to be something bigger. In a game full of sadistic necromancers and the lot, its difficult to think of how this "virgin kill" would go down.
tl;dr - Roleplaying a new character, want his first kill to be meaningful and not some random unprovoked assault in a mineshaft. Suggestions?



