Anyway much to my frustration I plugged in my new second GTX 470 and initially unable to figure out why no SLi compatabilty message, must be my age and loss of memory, my motherboard is an AMD 790fx chipset, ergo non nforce, I was about to throw a hissy considering what I just paid for the new graphics card, but lo and behold another modder/hacker comes to the rescue with http://www.techpowerup.com/forums/showthread.php?t=153046 and it really works!
He has two beta versions, I'm using 0.7, the hack uses hardware virtualization which needs to be enabled in your bios, when you first install the hack you have to reboot, you will see a boot menu, one will have "Windows *** HyperSLI"; obviously that's one you need to boot.
This is working with the 290.53 beta drivers.
Hope this helps someone as much as it helped me, suffice to say I'm relieved that the cash I spent was not wasted.
