I appreciate the input.
My Sifu makes me feel like Ensign Ro from Star Trek: The Next Generation. And it is mainly over asking questions about money. He has knowledge of Wing Chun but he doesn't behave like I expect a master to behave.
Last summer I began classes. It was hard to get him on the phone. Eventually I tried to visit the school but since I don't know the hours I didn't get a chance to see anyone. Eventually I met with Sifu and paid for classes in mid July. I paid $85 for the month. Sifu was very busy around that time; he went on week long vacation on my second week then his Sifu came in to town to do a seminar he was absent to cater to him. For about two weeks he was very absent and very preoccupied plus there are other students that he had to take care.
Things seemed to go back to some normality after the seminar and his vacation. Suddenly while training he tells me in a very rushed manner that I owe him money and why then he goes back to demonstrating drills like nothing happened. So immediately after class I go to my car and pay him the money that same day. He explained that because I joined in the middle of the month that I had to pay a prorated amount which was $21 and he finally told me when money is due which is the first and fifth of every month. He never told me that till then nor have I received a receipt or paper work on dues and due dates. His demeanor was very poor. He treated me like I am a thief as though I was trying to swindle him while I paying him the prorated amount. I went out of my way to show him respect but he frowned and showed me disapproval and frustration. He behaved as though he has no confidence in me and was worried about me.
I felt conflicted about him so after August ended I decided to stop going to class but last February I came back and we agreed to me paying $10 per an hour class and I went 3 times a week .
He mentioned throughout class sporadically that by paying daily I was paying more. Paying this way meant that I would not owe him any money and make it unlikely that I would be treated like a thief. This should have ended any issue about debt.
Last Friday I wanted to ask him if it was okay to come more days a week for the $30 I was paying a week especially since he has told me that I was paying more for than other people that paid monthly for the same amount of days per week. For some reason he got defensive and aggressive. He accused me of trying to run
his school. It was a simple question. But he wouldn't listen to me he kept telling me what I was saying and asking then he started badgering with questions like he was trying to trap me. He was insecure, impatient, angry, petty and more worried about his position rather than how to use it constructively. I actually had $200.00 ready to pay him that day for a different program but because of his temper I never got a chance to mention it and since then I blew the money. There was a moment in that exchange while we were on the training floor that he pointed angrily at me and said that I was getting on his nerves for everyone to see. I calmly suggested that we go to his office then eventually he angrily told he didn't want me as a student but me trying to go out of my way to be polite I convinced him to reconsider. He even told me angrily that he wanted to go home rather than to talk to be in a 'get out of my face manner'. It took some effort just to get him to show me his rates. And we never talked about receipts but tomorrow I will buy a receipt book and make receipts for every transaction we make and maybe have him sign them. I guess if he doesn't like that I need reconsider his program which is a shame because I want to learn Wing Chun more than any other art.
» Thu May 03, 2012 5:44 pm 
How do you pull that off? I used to think I was lean (I am compared top the guys on my rugby team) but this kinda busted my misconception.
Also I try to keep any foods that might be bad for me out my diet, and I'm not much a meat eater, but I do try to make sure to eat a lot. When I'm not working out my appetite goes down even more.
