I dated this girl back in sophomore year supposedly i stole her from some guy
i get a message today on Facebook which is like a five page essay on how im a tool
that was like 6 or 7 years ago

has this ever happened to someone else

No, I've never been called a tool in about five pages.

Something similar, although not quite so desperate/obsessive/dragged out, and it was me that needed to let go.

Only in a positive way: people apologising for something that happened 4-5 years ago. More than once as far as I can recall. Your story is pretty impressive though, if that's the right way to word it. I would be quite astonished to see something similar happen.

She might have still been correct with her anolysis! Think about it.

So did the dude or the chick call you a tool?

No, I can't say this has ever happened to me. If it did, I would most likely ignore it. :shrug:

As for myself, I let things go after a week maximum. Being sad, angry, or whatever about a particular situation doesn't help solve it. And if it cannot be solved, drop it. - Though that last bit has gotten me called cold before. But oh well. :thumbsup:

the dude

wish I could read the message, depending on how articulate the four five pages was I would probably make that guy my friend.

Just write back that you are gonna make it your mission to steal his girl again

to sum it up, I am a [censored] who shattered his confidence,i was the meanest coolkid in the school,he's lonely and desperate,and because of highschool he's now an alcoholic who works at mcdonalds

Because i ruined his life

:blink: ...a bit excessive it seems.

Anyways...no, such a thing has never happened to me before

Same. They usually do it with just a few words, or more frequently just one (sometimes none if they know sign language).

Usually when one unlocks Alzheimer's

Damn, you're a dike.

Wow, is he sure he's not the tool?

Sounds like he's in a tough spot and couldn't find anyone else to blame for being there.

Never have stuff like that happen to me, then again, I dont get out much

But in all seriousness I have been needing to let go of something for quite some time, not as long as 6 or 7 years like your situation but I got dumped and quickly replaced by my last (and so far only) girlfriend over 6 months ago and I still get worked up about the topic. However, due to my forgiving nature, my ex is still one of my best friends and telling her how I feel about everything after all this time could make our friendship awkward at the least so I have these thoughts and feelings stirring around in me for all this time and letting it all out to the person that need to hear it most is virtually out of the question. Despite the general negativity of it all I have been waiting it out hoping for the feelings to pass but they're just as strong as if I was dumped yesterday, I figure when I get a new girlfriend I'll finally get over it since I'll have someone else in my life but the way things are looking at the moment thats going to be a while from now

Time usually doesn't heal wounds for me, once somebody hurts me I shall spill blood in kind even if it takes 10 years. Of course, if that person that hurt me had an epiphany, repented his sins and is on the path to asceticism or now lives a life serving God or fellow man, I wouldn't bring it back up. If they are still the same way as they were 10 years ago, heh why not. Not something petty though as a rambling on Facebook.

That guy sounds confused, because dating someone isn't a bad thing. Perhaps it's himself he really blames. Maybe he was going to get the guts to approach her on Wednesday, but you came on Tuesday.

HAHAHAHA

Oh boy. Yeah, I was a lonely and desperate school kid bullied and almost committed suicide but I said, screw this, and got on my feet and now I'm enjoying my life with a job and place to study.


If you fall to alcoholism, don't blame others. Obesity, alcoholism, drugs, all that stuff comes FROM YOUR OWN HEAD.

If he's blaming all of his life problems on a guy who stole his high school girlfriend six years ago, I think he has some underlying psychological issues that need to be looked into before he hurts someone.

I am being completely serious when I say maybe you should contact someone about it. Besides us of course.

no, none that i can think of.

look at it this way though; they said it, even though late(better late than never, yes?). sometimes people hold grudges or don't talk about stuff for a while, sometimes to the grave. me, i too take a while sometimes to deal with issues properly and i always think "since this was a bit back, won't they think funny of me". though in my case it is usually only a few month to a couple of year(for on one or two or few things).

Trying to salvage a ruined relationship by any chance? If so, I've been there. Relationship ended.... Dec 26th, 2010 I do believe, and it took me until mid-June to start to move on and realize that we'll never be together again, and I'm still trying to move on completely. :unsure:

When it comes to things like hating someone, though, I just can't seem to hold grudges for long. I can get really angry at someone and then three days later be willing to live and let live so long as they are too. :sweat:

Well,

About a year ago I got a message from a classmate who complimented me on muscling through my depression and anorexia.
I didn't have the heart to tell him I didn't suffer from wither of them, oh, and I hope he doesn't know where you live because if he still hasn't let go he might come after you :nope:

That was funny.




Did you actually do all those things though?? :\