Was quite surprised about this topic reaching post limit on not one, but two threads so I thought I might pop the 3rd thread. This is a delicate subject for some and it's good to make sure to respect everyone. Here you can talk about things saying if you are currently bullied or if you graduated school if you were bullied.


http://www.gamesas.com/index.php?/topic/1114704-were-you-bullied/page__hl__where+you+bullied
http://www.gamesas.com/index.php?/topic/1169060-were-you-bullied-2/page__hl__where+you+bullied

For those like myself that group up before the age of the internet many of us were bullied and found several ways to deal with this hard subject. It wasn't easy to deal with, but many of us found a way either by ignoring the bullies, standing up to them, or reporting them to teachers. Sadly it seems things have taken a turn for the worst with the age of the internet where people now start up hate groups against other students.

I don't think I would ever consider myself bullied per se, but there was one really jerky kid I knew in elementary school. I don't even remember what he did to me, but I knew he always pissed me off. Other than that, I've had a few one offs with people, but nothing major.

My way of dealing with it probably wasn't the best.

In elementary school I got in a fight with some kid bugging me and we got suspended. No one bugged me after that. I moved and went to a different highschool, and people were bugging me in grade 10. So I punched some guy out in the hallway and they left me alone.

EDIT: Btw. It should be "were", not "where"

My dad told me bullies only bully to get some reaction from me. So I stopped responding to them, I basically imagined they weren't there.
At first it became worse, they tried harder and harder. Then they gave up and found someone else to bully.

People dont really bully at a small, close-knit school like mine. Its more of the behind-your-back whispering and rumor spreading, not much physical and in your face violence. Not trying to sound like Mr. Perfect but I have never been teased or treated in a way I would consider as being bullied for my whole school life...well, I got one more year of high school to go but last time I checked seniors dont really get bullied. I'm not thick-skinned either so I would definately know that I'm getting bullied I think I've just been lucky enough to just avoid those kinds of kids and stay out of their way.

On the other end of the spectrum there is this kid whom I consider to be the most annoying and rebelious little punk scum of the earth and I have been wanting to beat him to a bloody pulp all year. He never talks to me and I never talk to him but I have some classes with him and I see how he acts and he is the poster child of people I hate. I know I sound like a bully here but very few people go through life without wanting to pummel somebody for one reason or another, I am nearly the opposite of a bully. I'm the kid that says sorry when you bump into me

In a way. My first couple of years in elementary school I was a sort of a bully myself since I was dumb as *beep* and thought it was funny to do crap to people less fit than me. Then I started growing some brains and did a whole 180° turn in the other direction but it was kinda late by then. Children don′t forgive easily and I ended up as a bit of a social outcast until they started to mellow down on me more come high school, but even then I didn′t really know them that well since I never hung out with them before, so I never really made any good connections with them.

I was not really bullied by kids in my own class, don′t think they wanted to tick me off after the first years but the kids in the class under just knew I was some dude that the kids in my class didn′t hang out with and the bully types in that class tried to get to me, but I knew how hollow it was so I didn′t respond. As long as no one did anything physical I just didn′t act like I cared and when they did do anything physical if it was just something harmless like taking an item of mine I′d just walk slowly towards them waiting for them to return what was mine. I don′t let people get away with anything that physically hurts though, but I don′t hit back, just block and constrain.

Really the worst thing you can do to deal with a bully is to show emotion, if they taunt you ignore it, if they take what you own ask for it back and don′t leave their side until you get it. If you have to get rough do it without any yelling, screaming or any other emotion. Just silently tug with them.

That doesn′t mean that you should get all creepy with the silence though, explain your case if they ask you a question but do it in a calm and collective manner.
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Anything above the dotted line really only applies to the 10 years of schooling you go through from the age of 6 to 16. When you′re older bullying comes in different forms (bad politicians) and thus the ways to handle it come in different forms (protest).


The cyber bullying kids seem to do these days is kinda bad, it was just starting when I left high school, but already there was stuff going around like photo-shopped pictures of girls (you don′t need to ask how they were photo-shopped, you can probably guess it) going around. Don′t know how I′d deal with it if I was a girl but I imagine I′d also just try to ignore it, if it′s a false picture then any shame would be false.

nope

Shut up dork-face.

Aboose
I haven't been bullied so far in my ongoing 8th grade thing. A few times and one of them tried to fight me. It wasn't purty for the other kid :0

Yup, I was bullied.

How did I deal with it? By getting beat up physically, mentally and verbally.

Did I ever exact my revenge? No. Not really. Though I did learn to use my environment to hurt people that wronged me. I still nearly 16 years after I graduated high school I still hold grudges against those I went to school with. I hold a lot of anger and distrust towards everyone. I also have a rather bleak outlook on things.

Me, oh i yes I was a very frequent target for bullies, especially those whose actions were charged by racial hate. My means of dealing with them? Didnt need one, I just focused on my school work and occasionally made the school life for them hell by using the staff (not one staff member didnt like me) to help out, that and graduating and showing them who the superior being is

I was mentally bullied from 1st grade to my sophomore year in high school bye the same stupid guy. He wouldn't hit me or anything, so I couldn't do anything about it, and whenever I bantered back, he went and told on me. Of course this guy had to turn into a popular guy, so I never had a really good relationship with any girl until high school. Whenever I tried to date someone and they were interested in me, he would always tell them how much of a dbag I was. I finally confronted him and told him to man up and stop being a big dbag himself in front of all his friends, and he stopped. I should've done that in like 5th grade.

Lol, no.

The first person who tried (to be fair, he was pretty scrawny) got punched in the face.

I was when I was in elementary school, pretty badly. It stopped after 8th grade though. I didn't really do much to be honest, it's just that everything that was wrong with me, that I was fat, slow, dumb, ugly, boring, socially awkward, and unable to talk to girls, all of that turned around. 8th grade and high school was awesome, and I barely remember the days I was bullied. I consider myself lucky for that blessing from God to suddenly just be...fixed.

Nope, despite being the type of student bullies usually go for.

I was bullied, I did some bullying.

Learned some valuable lessons not only for how to deal with things I don't like, but also understanding the necessity and logic of bullying, and the importance of it in socially growing up.

I actually worry for those who either never bullied or never were bullied. It's equated to being sheltered, and I rarely see sheltered people make good decisions dealing with things they should have had experience with as a child.

I wish I couldn't say this were true for me but it is (except the 16 years out out high school and distrust towards people).
I was never really bullied at all until last year and it came from people I knew well and it was over a girl no less. It got bad enough I essentially quit school and failed my final semester which is why I'm back again to get my last few credits, it didn't make things easy one of them also returned to school this year to continue the [censored]. I learned to ignore such people and hold my head high but it definitely took a toll on me particularly my social life.

I've always been to smart to get bullied. Whenever someone would insult me or try to make me feel like an outcast I used my wit and skill of the English language to confound them. In elementary and middle school this occasionally turned me into a bully as a simple insult to me usually resulted in a harsh insult directed at them. I think I read people well so understanding what there really trying to say and why they say it helps me. It's weird this is one aspect of my life that I've always been confident at despite having a low self esteem and being nervous. In terms of friendly bullying from teammates and the like, Ive never been called my real name (Hunter) instead people called me [censored]er, Grunter (I use to grunt while playing lacrosse), and eventually Gunther and various variations. At one point it really got to me and bugged me but eventually I let it become my identity and my self esteem shot up this past year. Its strange but I feel that years down the road when most people forget their classmates and have moved on people will always remember me for my nicknames and actions than they would for most people.

I guess you could say so, yes. Elementary and middle school I don't think there was much bullying towards anyone at all, but come high school there was one kid in my grade who'd always try to get under my skin, no matter what it was. Occasionally his friends'd join in, but I've always made it about as clear as I can without getting into a physical altercation that I'm not going to take it, be it verbally fighting back, or doing things to annoy him (Like flirting with him, because he's homophobic and I don't care what sixuality people think I am)

Mate, you′re in a bit of a denial here I think. The very act of responding is a showcase that it gets to you. If someone makes a snide or rude comment towards you, and you feel it is unprecedented and especially if it′s from someone you don′t know much. Then you ignore it, they′re not the people you wish to hang with so proving some sort of a point isn′t getting you anywhere and neither are the people who judge you by what they say.

You benefit the most from just ignoring it, that′s the smart thing to do.

A bit, it was pretty minor though, and I usually ended up kinda being friends with them after. I did bully a bit in middle school, and I still feel really bad about it. Sometimes its just to easy to get caught up in that group mentality, especially at 12/13.

I was bullied quite a lot for my weight. I dealt with it by bottling up my rage and exploding intermittently, and changing schools until I found one that wasn't completely full of jackasses.

I never got to exact revenge on anyone. Any small act of revenge would be met with harsh retribution. Like when I chucked some soup at the guy and he kicked my door in and threatened to kill me. Eventually my self esteem would reach an acceptable level, the bullies would drop out (being that they had very little brainpower), and things would be alright.

Strange way of looking at it. I know plenty of people who were neither, and who definitely didn't lead particularly sheltered lives. The school I went to wasn't sheltered (had its share of fights, bullying, drugs and so on) but I always got on with people well enough that I wasn't a target, and I had the self-respect not to become a bully myself.

I was bullied once. I beat the ever loving snot out of the kid, and that was the end of that. Im not saying this to be a badass on the internet, its just how it went down.

I think this is the way to go by the way. Sure you might get suspended or something, but that temporary. Dealing with BS and not standing up for yourself is forever.


Im not a badass, but I do love to fight. I know some people think its barbaric, but I see it as somewhat glorious. Two men should be able to have a dispute, fight it out in the parking lot. Drink a beer together, and move on. Otherwise stuff gets bottled up and ends in gunshots and death rather than a fair competition and maybe a broken nose.

I think I was kind of a bully.
Not all of the time of course, but over the course of years in school I did things more to others than they did to me.
But I never harassed a single person.
So there were incidents with large periods of time between them.

But despite not doing so much if I have to choose one I'd say I was a bully more than I got bullied.
Cause apparently my friends think I look dangerous.
I find that laughable as I think I look like a blob with purdy eyes.
But I've apparently been pretty wild In my younger days so I think others were scared of bullying me.