I'm not slamming ya... really. it's more like tuff love. Don't make the same mistakes I made and spend the rest of your life wondering "what if".

I spent 18 months in Hong Kong... many, many years ago. I was out with some friends and met the most amazing woman. She was with another guy, but it wasn't serious. That evening we spent more time laughing and talking than the rest of the group. Something really clicked and there was definitely some serious vibes going on, but she was with another.

Two weeks later, I was on the way to work and I saw her on a bus that was passing by. I raised my hand as she gets up from her seat and waves frantically out the window. It was the last time I ever saw her. To this day, I wished I had chased that bus down.

Don't be "that" guy.

Be "the" guy.

My number= Her boobs or a slap to the face

"Wanna see a magic trick? I can make your virginity...disappear."

I do already kind of regret it already. I appreciate the advice, man.


Does that involve a pencil too?

Huh this got me thinking that most people just give me their phone numbers, i've only ever asked for a few numbers, granted i hate phones so i rarely use them for anything other than playing videogames and surfing the web

I guess the easiest way is to just ask for it, ya know strait up. "Hey can i get your number, we can talk sometime" or something

Also someone mentioned facebook stalking, it has that horrible laggy chat you can use to talk to people too

I'm certain you have a means of getting a message to her. You know the group she was with... right? I'll bet your teacher, or whoever, has a contact for that group. Or somebody knows somebody else. You just have to find out the who's who.

Get your info to her and if she responds... well,

"I really enjoyed this. Why don't you give me you number?"?

or "I really enjoyed this. Why don't you give me your number? Or, actually, here let me give you mines."?

Maybe email would be more appropriate?

No no no no no no no no.

You don't ask if you can have your number.

You hand them your phone or something to write on and say "Give me your number." Asking is bad.

Moral of the story? Don't make the same mistake 99% of people make all the time. Do NOT overthink it when you are interested in a girl. Really just ask her for her number and then call her. Not sure what the OP would have done with such a scenario. I have been in a more or less exact scenario. Was on another island, hung out with some girl and we really hit it off. I asked for her number and two weeks of long distance relationship later we both kind of realized it wasn't going to work because we just were not likely to see each other again. Too inconvenient to get that committed for what is essentially a stranger.

So many people make JAHO terrifyingly hard when it's very simple. But be prepared for rejection. It's hit or miss.

It would have been that simple

lol These threads ...

Yes, it really is simple. Just say "Do you mind if I get your number?"... tada! I only find it "creepy" or annoying when a guy just randomly asks for my number, like... just walks up to me and I've never spoken to him before in my life and he wants my number... um, no. But, if you've been talking for an evening or even just a few mins and things go well, asking for her number is never wrong.

Once you make a connection and seem to have common interests just simply ask for the number or if she'd like to text/go out sometime and you'll definitely get it.

Ask whoever was friends with the other staff members to reintroduce both of you again.

This. Hopefully, you'd be able to contact her again, and get her number.

Get her number..

This is how I lost contact with a good female friend years ago. I gave her MY number. The same day when I got home, my phone service was cut off..

Give her your number/get her number

and while you're together text/phone the number so the other can get it there and then

Living under a rock I see.

It's Just Ask Her Out - JAHO

or if you want to be the super secret secret squirrel ninja you can just; JOAH. But you need to be a real man to do that.

You have no idea.

Thank you for the belated reply, but I did break down and look it up.

If you've been talking to and getting along with someone for a couple of hours during a social situation like the OP described, then asking for their number is the most normal thing in the world.

ha why do people seek dating advice from a forun full of inexperienced virgins, digital daters, and socially inept people?

the only advice you should listen to is what your heart tells you...your brain will question you and give you doubt but your heart feels what's right

I'd have asked for facebook instead it's a bit less personal (doesn't say "I might call you at inopportune times and you might be forced to awkwardly avoid me"), but actually gives you more info about her and more means to interact.

"So can I have your number?", which I think someone's already said. Rocket science this is not.

This. Works everytime. Or at least it did for me.

honestly, I was always to scared to ask for a girls number

But well lately, I don't know, maybe it's because I've cut my hair or something but they are asking my number! I kid you not! THEY ASK ME FOR MY NUMBER!! the worst part is: I don't know it by heart... I usually end up telling them to give me theirs and then when I feel like it I send them a text so they have mine as well...

I conveniently bypassed the whole "how do I ask someone's number?" problem

But I guess just asking for it is the best way to go about it. But like others have already said: don't ask a stranger who you've never talked to for their number... There should have been atleast some sort of connection..

not everyone has a facebook, believe it or not some of us refuse to follow the herd and join a site to post pics and "like" them. I'm no hipster, I just really think facebook is one of the dumbest things ever, ditto for twitter