"Hey, baby let me get dim digits."

lol jk. Just tell her that you enjoyed the time you spent together and you'd like to stay in touch.

The vast majority of people do, though, especially in the OP's demographic. Some people don't have phones, either, or have restrictive plans that prevent them from talking/texting all the time (me!).

Oh aren't you just so edgy and different?

You're not the only one posting here...

Fatality

ha I knew I set myself up there even though I actually have alot of experience with the opposite six and met all my GFs and dates in the real world without a friend hooking me up or meeting in the matrix to chat. I recently tried the digital dating thing and i'm probably more awkward online then most of you are in person

seriously though a gaming forum isn't the place to seek dating advice unless you want to date in second life or something, some of us are experienced but still aren't gurus with girls

Just razzing you.

This is actually a pretty diverse forum, IMO. The fact that a person is a bit of a gaming/tech/RPG geek also doesn't mean that they're also a social outcast. I think that stereotype was more true 10+ years ago than it is now.

At the end of that dinner, you could have said that you had a great time talking with her and would like to talk with her again if she wants... if she had said, i would like that too, you could have offered her your number and maybe she will have done the same.

The sooner you realize that "just doing it" is easy enough, the sooner you will begin to enjoy the spoils.

It's literally as easy as asking "Hey, can I get your number?".

I've thought over this kind of thing before. Anyone can make anything happen, simply by asking and taking their chances. Two people that pass by each other every day and think the other is so cute and dreamy, may never end up speaking because they are both thinking "Oh, they will never like me back" or "They will think I'm weird" or "That's just too awkward", but for all you know, saying hello could start the best thing to ever happen to you. Just doing it could have put you on the road to a story-perfect romance, or a door in the face. It's all about taking chances. You'll never know what could have been.

Yep this. Just jump in feet first and don't hesitate.

Okay, so what I'm getting is that it really would have been easy as I thought it would? Hm, that's definitely good to know. And it wouldn't have been weird to ask because we live half a country away from one another?

And thanks for all the replies, guys. I know this seems like a stupid question to have to ask, but I get really nervous about these sorts of things.

Yes. Contrary to popular belief women are actually just people with boobs. It sounds crazy, but a lot of the time you can just talk to them like people and they'll respond like people.

Aw. Now I'm going to feel bad when I objectify them.

ha it's all in good fun and it is true what you say about gaming and forums being more diverse then 10+ years ago as gaming is no longer just for nerds or geeks...I'm tempted to pull a hipster move and get back into reading comics or something that's still considered nerdy


this is very true as most women pick up on confidence or lack of it. A girl can like you but if you act all scared or unsure of yourself then chances are that you'll turn them off

ha true but the difference is that many women think emotionally and illogically unless you're talking to one of the cool clever girls that don't suffer from hardcoe PMS or typical female drama. I love when a woman asks me "what do you mean?" or "what are you saying?" when I'm speaking bluntly in black and white. I usually tell them "I say what I mean and mean what I say" which basically says take my words at face value. I'm trailing off a bit on my many encounters with emotional women so I'll stop now

That usually doesn't start until after you have their phone number, though. That said, I have some female friends that have been in relationships with men that were pretty illogical and overly-emotional as well. Biggest difference being that it manifested as yelling at people for no good reason, fighting for no good reason, and getting arrested a lot...but pretty much the same thing.

Mm, I love me a little sixism with my dinner. If I may repeat the poster above, women are just humans, but with boobs (and sometimes not even those).

ha obviously the ladies here aren't the average, you glorious gals are gamer girls and are rare jewels sought out by many a gamer guy....myself included

Haggar, just stop man..... You're not do any of us any favors with those shades, bro.

haha true, I use smileys because i'm a body language talker and they're the closest thing to that online. I don't think I use smileys for the same reason as i'm not trying to be cool with the cool shades, just shady and stupid

I don't even need to ask girls for their numbers, I just instantly know them.

Ah yes the stalker syndrome. Know them before they ever know you!

..... You do realize that not everyone who posts/reads these forums are guys, right?

Took the words right out of my mouth. (Even the part about the boobs! lol )

Yes, OP: Just ask for her number, no matter if she lives 10 mins away or 10 hours away. Girls can be pretty nutty, especially at your age, but the only way to gain confidence and experience is to get out there and give it a go.

lol

most guys do have that "gift" where girls just go to them, without the guy even trying.

I had it in highschool. Not anymore though. College girls are refreshingly different in that respect. I now get my balls busted in a healthily routine manner by some of my female friends. Or maybe my sister yelling at me for my almost callous attitude towards girls in high school changed my outlook.

Come to think of it, High School was more confusing than College. So many influences competing to shape you into the individual you will become later in life during your formative years.

No doubt. For me it was much, MUCH simpler. In high school people are terrified and either hide, become absorbed in their schoolwork, or lash out at other kids in a bid to show their supremacy. Personalities can change on a weekly basis as people attempt to create an identity for themselves. In college, not only have people grown up a bit, but most of them have been taken out of their home town cliques and are forced to make new relationships and re-evaluate their position in the social schema. It's a much healthier environment in my experience.