First, off I would just like to say that you could consider me your typical nerdy/geeky teenager, except that I don't video games very much. I have been having an issue that's been going on since around February 26 or 27, and I decided to seek out some help from some of the people on these forums because people here are overall very intelligent and nice, and almost all of you have more life experience than myself.

So, around the date I mentioned I was looking up a movie I've been looking forward to. Immediately, one of the film's actresses caught my eye (this isn't the typical situation where the actress is 27 and you're 12; we're actually the same age). Anyways, I decided to look up some more information about her, and she seemed pretty cool. It was also kind of neat because we have some similarities like where we’re from, some leisure-time interests, etc.

(I know this is weird, so you don’t have to tell me). Well, since then I just can’t seem to get her off of my mind. Why am I like this? I haven’t even met her, and it is very unlikely that I ever will! It was kind of “meh” for most of last week, but then I started looking her up more and more. I tried to kick this all weekend and I just can’t seem to, and I’m starting to freak myself out because I’m typically a completely logical/intellectual person and this is very atypical of me. I feel like a stalker, although I would never actually stalk someone. I even noticed today in class that this was distracting me, and this is very alarming since my education is something I care very much about. My long-term goal at this point is to go to Caltech and research physics, and I have to be very set in my studies to achieve my goal.

Anyways, I was just wondering what should be done about this, and what is causing it. I’ve never really had any serious girlfriends, so is this some kind of emotional void in my heart/conscience/mind/whatever (I'm not really a social person)? Is this just a common hormonal imbalance (something I don’t really find likely since it has been going on for over a week)? Is this just some way of escaping an unsatisfying social life? What exactly is going on here?

To sum it all up: What is exactly is happening to me, and what should I do about it?


If you actually read this, you have my greatest thanks. It really does mean a lot to me.

It's either love or lust, take your pick. You can't solve either through your logic or intellect so don't even try.

JAHO

You have a crush. There's nothing wrong with wanting the unobtainable, and you're as likely to fall in "love at first sight" with an actress or something as you are any random girl. It doesn't say anything dooming about your personality or your mental state. It'll pass. In the mean time, find a hobby to distract you. Dating may help, or it may not, depending on if you start judging your date by your crush's standards.

It'll go away. I hope. It's almost natural to feel connected to someone with celebrity status. Although I don't suggest stalking, no harm can come from reading about them on the internet.

I think you're worrying a little too much.

To summarize it up, you have a crush. Its perfectly normal for the most part but you shouldn't let it get too far outta hand. If you do, it may create an unrealistic expectation for girls you meet IRL. If you feel that it is too much of a problem, maybe you should speak with someone more....professional than us on here. I'm not judging in any way - I hav a little bit of 1 for Alanah Rae (warning: shes an advlt actress, so take care if you decide to Google her.)

Your 'little brain' is simply fighting your 'normal brain' for control. Dont worry, the obsession will dissappear soon enough, its just a phase.

As much as I hate to admit it, I've been in the same position before. I had a huge crush on a celebrity (still have it to be quite honest), and I would spend a lot of time watching videos (interviews, music videos, and the like) of her. I then came to the conclusion that it probably wasn't too healthy to be crushing so hard on someone I hadn't (and probably never will) met. The best thing you can do, is just quit thinking about this person cold turkey and move on. I found, that I actually forgot about the person I liked after a few days.

I remember I had a huge crush on Amy Lee once

I don't know what I was thinking...

Seems like you are the kind to fall in love easy. take this advice very seriously- no matter what feelings you develop for someone always fight them and remain cool until you are certian you know this person like the back of your hand and you are both ready for love. That is how a man handles love. make sure your certian! there is tempting whorish nymphs everywhere and you dont wanna waste many years just for a one night stand!

Thanks for all of the answers. It means a lot.



Unfortunately, I'm a person who has difficulty moving on from things. It's just something I'm not good at. I don't think "cold turkey" is the solution for me.


I understand that you aren't professionals, but I still trust many of this site's users.


I am frequently told I worry too much about things.



Don't worry; I know a "[censored]" when I see one.

Am I the only one who wants to know which actress it is?

Well, what about the girl in New Orleans that I found passed out on the sidewalk?

lol wat? no i meant even the most seemingly innocent ones can have a high six drive they keep hidden sometimes. thats quite rare though.

No. I do too.

Very brave of you to post such a personal piece of info... and I'm very impressed with everyones mature response. I agree with general consensus that this is normal... and I agree with your assessment that it may be hormonally influenced. Here's the upside.... she's a celebrity, so you'll probably never meet her... leaving you safe from rejection. I promise, you will get over her.... and then go through the same process with someone else.

If not.. or you suddenly get the urge to go and find this celebrity, please consult the forums first... we will try and talk you down!


So very true TeeHee.

Sounds like my last date..

No, I'm not that crazy.

I posted the information because it's something that's really been eating at me.


Eh, that's embarrassing for me.



LMFAO

Hmm, teenager, recent or upcoming film...

If I work it out, I'm sure we can dig up something about her that will put you off, thus fixing the situation.

Is it Tyler Perry, that would be pretty embarrassing. Or that girl from Twilight. Or someone from that project X movie, it's all about teenagers.

Lol no.

Do we really have to play this game? The point of the thread was really my emotional state.

Find another girl, then, if you don't want to tell us. And make sure this girl here is a video game. (Yes, I'm telling you that playing video games will probably make you stop thinking about girls.)

To some extent we can have a better understanding of you based on who it is, that way we can give you more specific advice rather than something generalized.

Video games FTW!