To cover all past situations, not just who they slept with.

Fair enough, I was just addressing the situation at hand.

Make sure she isn't the type to use a chainsaw to dispose of a body first.... Bad End B.

Well if she lies about one thing, chances are that she's capable of lying about other things as well. On the other hand you've only been dating for a month, so you have plenty of time to get to know each other.

Least her intention for doing so was good, and she came clean when asked so there's some honesty in her.

Whether or not she had six before she met you should not matter to you. People will have a past, it's only the present you need to worry about. Perhaps it was your being over concerned about her past sixual activity that caused her to hide it. She would have been more forthcoming about her past if she has not sensed it was such a big deal to you.

Bottom line, from this point forward, the chances of meeting a woman who has not had six drops, and will soon approach zero. Judging a woman for it will not get you anywhere, nor will it get you a woman who will trust you.

Basically, they're in high school, the OP is a virgin, he asked the girl he's dating if she was and she said yes, come to find out she's slept with two guys. He's now unsure what else she might be lying about. Like, perhaps, being a Russian spy.

Yeah, aren't women supposed to halve the amount of guys they've slept with while men double it? Presumably this means that any woman that's slept with an odd number of guys has had six with a dwarf at some point.

I know literally zeros of people who have slept with dwarves.

Esme Bianco is hot.

That's my contribution here.

Flat out tell her if she lies again it's over. Sure that's strict but meh, it should keep you from getting lied to.

All "boobies" posts have gone away, but I can still see them in the trash forum.

Luck you.

Of course you could just google image search Esme Bianco...

Get cool with her not so attractive best friend. If she likes you, then you and your girl are good. And tease her from time to time, don't insult her or put her down, but making fun of girls every once in a while keeps them on their toes.

Your still in highschool, you'll probably end up with other girls.

Don't worry so much with highschool drama, go out with her if you enjoy her company, if not dump her.

And if honesty is something you value, good luck with girls that age.

if you just started dating then it was definitely too early to ask about her virginity, that's something you bring up around the time you're ready to hit the sack

Didn't even read the OP. If you are questioning trust and even asking in a forum then you have your answer.

Drop it like a bad habit.

I would just go with your gut feeling OP. But I will still give you my 2 cents.

I'm assuming she lied to you thinking you wouldn't find out. The reason she lied about her virginity is because she thought it might make or break the relationship you guys have, and that can be seen as a good thing. It can be seen as a negative thing because that could tell you of her future behavior (she is a bit dishonest). Like the forum goers above said, be precautious of her future behavior and if you sense a lie from her confront it.

I empathize with the whole virginity issue considering that I was a virgin and my past girlfriend who was 3 years younger than me wasn't. I lied to her and told her I wasn't a virgin because I was declined six from a girl in the past because of it (we were already hot and ready, partially naked) and she refused because she didn't want me becoming overtly attached to her I sensed. So I fibbed to my GF who was 3 years younger than me that I wasn't a virgin just in case the same thing was to happen again, but I received what I wanted and it was good.

I'm emphatic (sympathetic to her) towards both of you because I understand why you would prefer her to be a virgin, and to her since she didn't want to put you off because of her virginity or make you feel uncomfortable.

A female point of you, if I may.

If I was this girlfried of yours, I would be quite quick to boot you for bringing our relationship troubles into a forum discussion, as opposed to have them with your heart and mind, should I know about it. Do you plan to tell her about it so she may assess if you are trustworthy to her standards? Discussing her possible past loves with a wide circle of friends is not exactly gallant or courteous either, from my perspective, nor inquiring about her sixual history behind her back.

Have you given it a thought what it was that pressurised her to give you this answer - maybe because you quite obviously you wanted it to be one way, as opposed to another? And why should this be so? I personally think the way people treat other people in the present matters, and their past is their business generally.

In case you cannot treat her with amiability and trust that she deserves, you may not be the right boyfriend for her.

Whatever you're into, I suppose.

Well put.

This.

The road to hell is paved with good intentions.

Also, you have to ask yourself: why does it matter to you who and how many she was with?

Is it because there's a threshold?

If it was 4 would you still date her?

But not if it was 5?

Is she damaged goods now?

Does it intrigue you to imagine it?

Would you ever be able to forget about it, or would it cause problems later on?

Because the truth is, unless you attribute some sort of supernatural or sacred value to a girls virginity (or worse, to the number of guys she's slept with beyond the first), there's really no difference. Unless you just want the honors for yourself, of course. Me? I'm stingy like that.

But if you don't find a girl that's still 100% virgin and just as radical about it being sacred (good luck here, most girls I've met don't even know what the word 'sacred' means), it's going to cause psychological and emotional problems on both of you.

As for her honesty being an issue, people lie about stuff. We're all on a need to know basis, unless there's something to brag about. Plus, this is a highschool girl, yes? If she's had sixual experiences, some of them are going to be embarrassing. If your priority is to date the girl in peace, don't inquire her about war.

If you want my honest opinion? Every virgin guy's first girl should probably be a girl with a good bit of sixual experience. You really want to start your sixual education with some good footing and a decent instructor. I lost my virginity to a pretty experienced girl a few years older than me. I learned a LOT.

The worst thing about this is that the girl obviously has some sort of guilt about her previous experiences. OP, just forget about it. It really shouldn't be something you should worry about until a real problem arises from it.

I'd dump her. If there's one thing I can't stand in relationships, it's lying.

How do you feel when you do it though? Pretty much everyone lies in the beginning of a relationship to some degree or another. From "I am busy playing video games " to "oh yeah I am a virgin too and I really like the Eagles as well!!"