Girls asking guys out: A rare social experience?

Post » Thu Aug 02, 2012 3:37 am

The closest thing I've had to a girl asking me out is she telling my friend that she liked me and him telling me to talk to her or he'd kick my ass.

Weird..usually, that's what happens when you're already dating someone.
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Emilie M
 
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Post » Thu Aug 02, 2012 2:04 am

Yup, girls asking guys out is a rare phenomenon and there are many real reasons for that.
Well that was subtle.
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Post » Wed Aug 01, 2012 8:52 pm

Lately in my school I been hearing my friends/accquintances asking out girls in the past and those they want to go out with in the future, and I asked them has a girl ever ask you out. All of them said no! Now am left with this curious reason of why it such a rare or nonexistant thing to see or be heard. So I like to know the reason why for girls on this forum and how often does it happen to the guys of this community.
It isn't rare, your school is just small and your control group of subjects (objectively speaking, I just mean your friends..) is very small.
Depends on culture of where you live mostly, but as a guy I wouldn't brag about that sort of thing after it happens.
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Post » Wed Aug 01, 2012 10:26 pm

Well that was subtle.
My implications are vast and ambiguous on purpose.

But in all honesty I think anyone who knows much about the world has at least five good reasons why this is the way it is.
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Post » Wed Aug 01, 2012 5:35 pm

My implications are vast and ambiguous on purpose.

But in all honesty I think anyone who knows much about the world has at least five good reasons why this is the way it is.
Well up yours too buddy.


:tongue:

I think that thinking is a rather thoughtful activity for a vast array of reasons which I am choosing not to disclose at this time.
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Post » Thu Aug 02, 2012 6:33 am

Huh, I think she's cute, albeit slightly manic. Although being a Bieber fan is alarming.
:twirl: I'm not the only one who think's she's cute! The parody is good, though; I was more creeped out by the original song than by Overly Attached Girlfriend :P


You see that what gets me really mad and confused. Women got equal as men so I assume the girl asking out the guy also comes with that
In a way. Women have equal rights - the can do what men do if they want, but they don't have to. Steampunk is right in saying it mostly affects the law; not necessarily our culture stereotypes. Theoretically, women and men should have equal salaries when doing the same job - do they?

It's deeply rooted in our culture (and minds) that the guy asks the girl out. This isn't going to change any time soon - I know several girls who first asked out their boyfriends, but it's rare. I can't really help here because I'm not interested in men, but still... I'm not very likely to ask out a girl. It's obviously not about gender at this point, but my personality - I'm just too shy to do this. It's the same with shy guys who need a push from their friends to even consider approaching a girl they like.

If it helps, my mother asked my father out and that was 30 years ago ;)
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Post » Thu Aug 02, 2012 1:46 am

Theoretically, women and men should have equal salaries when doing the same job - do they?
I think in most professions in first world countries they do, I'm no expert and I am certain there are cases of unequal pay but I think if there really was a widesprad difference in pay across many professions it would be in the media every single day considering most sixual harrassment cases make it to the news.

I honestly haven't heard of a case (or remembered) of the same workload being paid less based on gender.
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Post » Wed Aug 01, 2012 5:46 pm

I think in most professions in first world countries they do, I'm no expert and I am certain there are cases of unequal pay but I think if there really was a widesprad difference in pay across many professions it would be in the media every single day considering most sixual harrassment cases make it to the news.

I honestly haven't heard of a case (or remembered) of the same workload being paid less based on gender.

I have a lot of news sources in my RSS feed, and it is much, much more common to see articles about the genders being more similar than our culture seems to indicate. It is becoming more common to see articles about women being smarter than men, graduating from college at a higher rate than men, etc. The gender gap, in all appearances, seems to be getting smaller and smaller. It just seems like all this information has yet to be absorbed by the public in general, not that anyone is intentionally uninformed about it, but you know :)
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Post » Thu Aug 02, 2012 3:26 am

I think in most professions in first world countries they do, I'm no expert and I am certain there are cases of unequal pay but I think if there really was a widesprad difference in pay across many professions it would be in the media every single day considering most sixual harrassment cases make it to the news.

I honestly haven't heard of a case (or remembered) of the same workload being paid less based on gender.

I have a lot of news sources in my RSS feed, and it is much, much more common to see articles about the genders being more similar than our culture seems to indicate. It is becoming more common to see articles about women being smarter than men, graduating from college at a higher rate than men, etc. The gender gap, in all appearances, seems to be getting smaller and smaller. It just seems like all this information has yet to be absorbed by the public in general, not that anyone is intentionally uninformed about it, but you know :smile:


EDIT: AH! Double post! What the math?
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Post » Wed Aug 01, 2012 10:13 pm

It isn't rare, your school is just small and your control group of subjects (objectively speaking, I just mean your friends..) is very small.
Depends on culture of where you live mostly, but as a guy I wouldn't brag about that sort of thing after it happens.

Well actually before I made this topic I went a little deeper and asked a few more people same results.
:twirl: I'm not the only one who think's she's cute! The parody is good, though; I was more creeped out by the original song than by Overly Attached Girlfriend :tongue:



In a way. Women have equal rights - the can do what men do if they want, but they don't have to. Steampunk is right in saying it mostly affects the law; not necessarily our culture stereotypes. Theoretically, women and men should have equal salaries when doing the same job - do they?

It's deeply rooted in our culture (and minds) that the guy asks the girl out. This isn't going to change any time soon - I know several girls who first asked out their boyfriends, but it's rare. I can't really help here because I'm not interested in men, but still... I'm not very likely to ask out a girl. It's obviously not about gender at this point, but my personality - I'm just too shy to do this. It's the same with shy guys who need a push from their friends to even consider approaching a girl they like.

If it helps, my mother asked my father out and that was 30 years ago :wink:

I defintely agree that men asking out women is deep in our cultural and for that I blame the genric movies of a common men rescue women from something dangerous and evil then men ask out women and both of them have a happy ending.
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Post » Thu Aug 02, 2012 7:14 am

EDIT: AH! Double post! What the math?

A mathematic, apparently.
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Post » Thu Aug 02, 2012 4:23 am

A girl has never personally asked me out, but several made in painfully obvious that they wanted me to ask them out. My wife didn't propose to me, I proposed to her, but she gave me so many signs and signals and made it obvious that she wanted me to propose to her, so I did.
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