I reloaded and married Ysolda.
I have my honey at home tending to the family matters, but spend all my time out adventuring with my true love...
You can marry her (Aela) and choose to stay at her place. In that case she will continue with her usual schedule when she's not with you, and won't stay locked inside the house.
That's what I plan to do with Vilkas, I don't want him turning into a knitting granny.