To be honest I can't bring myself to play as one due to the fact that I can't make a good lookng one off the presets.
I like the concept and their culture, lore (Thalmor stuff aside) and they'd probably fit my playstyle best (Heavy magika use), but I can't make one that doesn't look like an alien instead of an elf.
So I make do with Bretons, as they are half Altmer anyway.
I worked a long while to make my Altmer female look good. You're right. It's not easy.
I already played through as the patriotic Stormcloak Nord. I had to travel the other path the 2nd time through, even if I hate the Thalmor and their arrogant, repressive philosophy. I want to be an elf out of LotR, like Arwen, not an insufferable
[jack-donkey is censored here? wow!].
The funny thing is that I was already attacked once by the Thalmor, out of the blue. No provocation--in fact, I even helped them once in Markarth. (I felt terrible about that, but I'm trying to stay in character.) If they keep that up, maybe I'll end up a traitor to my race.