Mav99, you're not seeing the full amount of people who are playing the game on the internet forums. The public doesn't know if the people whom the game works totally fine (100hours+) who all posts in internet forums and say that their game is fine, might be actually the minority (out of the full amount of players in the world); the players who get CTDs might actually be the majority relative to the total player-base, not just the ones posting in the forums. Or it might actually be the other way around.
Possible, but if they WHERE the majority I'd expect to hear A LOT more complaints. You know, it's rather rare that those who are happy with a product take time off to post about that in an area dedicated to problems with the product*. But those who are unhappy will certainly complain. Here and on other forums or by some other means.
If the game was as bad as many of the people who have problems think, why are there so many mods already? Many of these mods change tiny things. Do you really think people would spend time on things like that if the game would be as broken as some of loudest people are crying? Also many sites and magazines openly criticize games that are buggy and unstable, some even lower their ratings because of that. Yet there's no outcry by reviewers about Skyrim. Not even by those who usually do write about such things. That all leads to the conclusion that the game can't be that badly broken as a small but loud minority thinks.
(*In case you wonder, I'm here because I'm interested in the game, mostly reading the mod forum and just checking in here occasionally.) If you go through the complaints here on this forum you can see some patterns:
Many CTD victims have ATI 6xxxx and 5xxxx cards on Intel boards so one might think there might be a problem with ATI's drivers, maybe specific to certain mainboard chipsets? Although both ATI and nVidia are releasing "unified" drivers there are still different driver files for each card or generation of cards in these packages so that older cards have less problems means nothing. Giving the huge streaming world it could be related to graphics memory usage or PCIe bus usage on some chipsets.
Either way, I seriously doubt that there is just ONE reason for the CTDs and considering how many people DON'T have these problems I think it's rather some odd hardware/driver/software combination than a general problem with Skyrim.
Many of those complaining about low, inconsistent FPS have high-end nVidia cards on Intel boards. That allows two conclusions, one that the game is mostly stable for them - otherwise they wouldn't spend so much time complaining about graphics quality and FPS but would complain about instability instead. And two, that maybe their expectations are a little high.
As I wrote before, I'm getting over 30fps in most areas, usually between 40 and 60 indoors and 30 to 50 outdoors. I'm running the game with maxed in game settings and many additional tweaks on an old nVidia GTX 275. It's factory overclocked and has 1.7GB RAM but is still rather dated. Yet it gives pretty good framerates which makes me believe that those using current generation cards are just complaining because their expensive cards for some reason don't give them the constant 60fps they expect.