I have seen countless threads on these very forums created to ask about what to do about women they are interested in, and all have been answered with a rather simple acronym: JAHO.

My question is: how exactly does one go about "just asking her out?"

Is it best to be straightforward (e.g. "Hey I like you. Do you want to go out with me?"), is it best to be subtle, when is the best time to ask a girl out, etc, are all things that I am quite clueless about (me being an extremely socially awkward 16-year-old nerd who has never really had a girlfriend.

My situation: The girl I wish to just ask out is someone I have kind of had a crush on since almost September, yet I didn't truly realize how much I actually liked her until last Friday (we both spent the day at a Science Olympiad competition). I keep telling myself to ask her out, but I have not yet because of my aforementioned cluelessness on the subject. She has also never been in a relationship (to my knowledge), and I have heard from her fiends that she isn't exactly interested in having one, but I don't want to give up hope just yet. We talk to each other pretty much every day in bio class, so I was thinking that after that class period would be a convenient time to JAHO.

Halp me interwebs ppl plz.

A girl asked me out once, seeing as she was out of my league I thought it was some attempt to humiliate me so I insulted her.

Whatever you do, don't do that.

"Uhh, hey, I was wondering, do you wanna go out sometime?"

That's about all you need.

You realise the whole point of JAHO is that it doesnt need explanation, doesnt need forum threads and doesnt require over-thinking? You literally just ask her out.

Of course, real men JOAH.

Try saying this:

Does this smell like chloroform to you?

Instant date right then and there

Or you know you could just say:

"I think you're attractive and would like to take you out on date tonight" then see where it goes from there

Edit: Also try not to be nervous and just go into expecting she is going to say yes.

He's not wrong, really.

Here's the big secret, what all the worrying and scheming and planning and everything else comes down to is this: for the most part it really doesn't matter how you go about it. Unless you're way too forward, or way too creepy about it, then chances are what you say or do and how you go about it really doesn't matter anywhere as much as how the other person already feels about you.

I know I had trouble with this when I was young dude. But think of it this way - can you think of anyone at all, that if they asked you out, that it would really matter all that much how they went about it? You're either into them or you're not. There's not a whole lot a person can do to change that. And certainly not with just different versions of the same question.

function date JAHO(day x, place y)

{

Do you have plans on [x.day]? Would you like to go out to [y.place]?;

return date;

}

[Force Persuade] You will go out with me.

But... But then you get Dark Side points!

I've done that before, yeah, biggest mistake of eighth grade. easily.

I did that in fourth grade but my reason for insulting the girl was that she had cooties.

Yeah. To anolyze JAHO is to completely ignore its point.

One does not simply ask someone lower on the social scale out without the intent of humiliating them.

You don't even have to say the words "will you go out with me?" since that usually sounds awkward. Invite her over or to a public place like a mall or park, then "Hey, I'm hungry. You wanna go eat somewhere?" Open doors, pay for dinner. Leave her wondering the next day.

Then eventually, she can be a real woman and chip in for dates at times. But for now, let her warm up to you first.

Lets not fill his mind with fantasies and myths. He's struggling enough with the basics as it is.

Good idea. Let's start him off on Paying 101, then once he's done with the rest of his core classes--including Rejection 101 to 412 and his elective Boyfriend 111, we can get him into a research assistanceship on finding women who pay. They're losing morale over in that department.

Can you drive?

Wait, what was that first part again? *Pulls out notepad*

Wait what the hell? You cannot reply now unless your post takes awhile? I am really starting to hate these updates....

Agreed about the updates. But concerning relationships... they've done me more harm than good in my life. Maybe I'm just too pessimistic.

Agreed.

More like you have been with the wrong women. Or just be a bachelor. Nothing wrong with that. Sometimes people just prefer a certain lifestyle. I have been in waaaayyyy too many relationships for my age. I am seriously thinking of just being a bachelor for the next 5 years or so if not more. I have had both good, great, bad and terrible relationships. Think of it as a process of elimination and developing what you like and what works and doesn't work for you. I would say try dating girls outside your comfort zone. But if you prefer bachelorhood more power to ya.

You guys...