Online Dating : Othor Games

» Mon May 14, 2012 6:17 am

I met my boyfriend on match.com and am totally normal... :blush:

obviously not

» Mon May 14, 2012 6:35 am

I've been one called Tagged... and got discouraged when I saw that none of those girls were right for me. Just reading the comments and profiles was enough for me to stop going there. Some just want a cake/sugar daddy. Some just want to [censored].

Match.com, I saw this nice looking lady but never sent her a message. I do not think I am her type.

There's a forum for this kind of thing too, this was a black girl though, and i kinda sensed she wasn't the typical black girl I don't wont, so I sent her a message. I guess some guy got to her first because she never came back to the forum. Made me feel a bit good though. Some girls are hard for me to approach, but the way she was, gave me the feeling that there wasn't nothing to fear.

There was a nice chinese/japanese(probably mixed) girl I saw and I was going to go for it, til I found out she LIVES in Japan. I don't have that kind of money for flying..but I want to have a friendship with her instead.

» Mon May 14, 2012 8:45 am

Why would anyone want to hook up with a girl like that? :yuck:

I agree. Dated a Catholic who tried to convert me, even though I'm a solid Lutheran. Then again, she tried to change too much of who I was. So I unintentionally got mono, and became too tired to do anything

» Mon May 14, 2012 4:09 am

Isn't 18 a little young to be giving up in normal dating? I'm 19 and I'm just going with the flow until something happens. I wouldn't try and force anything too soon. Internet dating seems to be for people in their late 20's and upwards, who want to find a serious partner.

» Mon May 14, 2012 8:38 am

pof.com

» Mon May 14, 2012 11:56 am

I met my boyfriend on match.com and am totally normal... :blush:

Then you're lucky, because there are a lot of fake sites out there... so it's a :nono:

for me.

» Mon May 14, 2012 1:34 pm

Yeah man dont give up on normal dating yet. theres girls everywhere.

» Mon May 14, 2012 10:20 am

I've been one called Tagged... and got discouraged when I saw that none of those girls were right for me. Just reading the comments and profiles was enough for me to stop going there. Some just want a cake/sugar daddy. Some just want to [censored].

Match.com, I saw this nice looking lady but never sent her a message. I do not think I am her type.

There's a forum for this kind of thing too, this was a black girl though, and i kinda sensed she wasn't the typical black girl I don't wont, so I sent her a message. I guess some guy got to her first because she never came back to the forum. Made me feel a bit good though. Some girls are hard for me to approach, but the way she was, gave me the feeling that there wasn't nothing to fear.

There was a nice chinese/japanese(probably mixed) girl I saw and I was going to go for it, til I found out she LIVES in Japan. I don't have that kind of money for flying..but I want to have a friendship with her instead.

Whatever you do, don't think like that. You'll never get anyone if you're so afraid of success that you won't even try. Just message everyone who looks/sounds attractive to you, the worst thing that can happen is that she won't reply.

Well, I guess she could turn out to actually be a gay dude serial rapist/killer, but the chance of that happening isn't particularly high.

» Mon May 14, 2012 4:18 am

You're still really young and life changes so drastically when you graduate high school that my suggestion would be to just wait this year out. There's no reason to push it, trust me.

But if you're set on trying online dating, my strongest piece of advice is to NOT buy into everything. With people online, no matter what they say or do, you tend to morph them into whatever it is you want. It's easily done when you don't have to deal with someone face to face, so I would meet pretty quickly. But, I would definitely do so in a very public place where you both meet there seperately. This solves so many problems like, if she isn't at all what she said she was, she turns out to be completely insane/stalkerish, or if you just plain don't like her. After the date (coffee/lunch/dinner would be ideal) you can just say thanks and move on.

But again, I wouldn't suggest it for someone so young and in such a transitional time in life. I'm told the people mostly on those sites are looking for sugar daddies, are cougars, married and looking to cheat, or just way older then you and in a very different time in their lives. (Not saying they're all one of those, just the rumor I've heard.)

» Mon May 14, 2012 9:22 am

You say you're a senior in high school. Are you planning on entering the workforce and/or college after high school? If so, plenty of girls will "pop up" then.

But there's plenty of places you can go to find girls. For example, when I was 18 (about 3 years and some change ago) I used to go to the mall to hang with friends or peruse through the stores every now and then, and I always ended up meeting and talking to attractive (to me) guys and girls. Relationships happen, it's just a matter of putting yourself out there and letting life take it's course. I honestly wouldn't put too much focus on it, unless you are absolutely dependent on having a relationship at this point.

» Mon May 14, 2012 4:15 am

Thanks for the replies everyone, and now it's time for a megareply. Also, doing this whole reply as one big post breaks the forum's capacity to handle quote / unquote tags, so that's why it's double posted. Sorry!

That's a relief, since I haven't heard good reviews about MinotaurMatch.com.

Spoiler

This actually made me chuckle.

You'll get a lot of action right when you join, but things slow down once you become a 'regular'.

Nice to know!

What that says, to me, is to find a more niche dating site (one devoted to geeks, furries, or whatever niche you happen to find yourself in). The niche dating sites have fewer users, which will mean you stand out more simply due to less "competition." And it also means that basically everyone else on the site also has at least one or two interests in common.

That sound like it might be good advice for down the line!

Ultraspecial Clarification Response! Often Asked, but Only Once Answered!

You're 18 and have given up on meeting girls in a real life situation? http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yqyixwqiCag

I mean you're only 18 man...

I'm NOT giving up on real life. I'm giving up on relying purely on real life. If, say, a cute girl sits down next to me on the train, or a new girl transfers to my school and we seem like we'd get on, or anything like that, sure, I'm still going to see where that may lead, but relying entirely on real life spacial coincidence just isn't really seeming like a policy worth continuing.

Never use online dating.

why?

I would reccommend Christian dating sites, unless they specifically state their for christians only.
Ladies like to think they can change a guy, and some denominations have their lady members use their 'feminine wiles' to get converts.

Thanks, but no thanks

I like when I use them and I chat up this super hot brunette with hazel eyes and a habit for getting involved in dirty sports...Turns out at our first date she used her substitute [Fat balding Jim], I left after he paid for the dinner.\

It seems to me that's a really easy situation to handle. I'd just leave.

I met my boyfriend on match.com and am totally normal... :blush:

obviously not

This made me laugh hysterically.

Not to say that online-dating is a bad idea, but there was an incident not too long ago where a man threw a womans dog into the river and did some.. you know.. stuff with her. They had met through an online dating site iirc.

Just a little heads-up.

That's uh.... Good thing I don't own a dog? :yuck:

» Mon May 14, 2012 9:32 am

I've been on a few dates from an online site. Didn't meet my current guy there, but I have made some good friends. Here are my tips:

Don't mention past relationships. Like your very first sentence - don't put anything like that. Or things like "I'm sick of fake girls/cheaters/whatever". You might be, but you'll just come off as bitter and carrying round baggage.
Don't write a huge essay, but at the same time don't write something so short and vague that it could be about anybody.
Don't just stay chatting for ages - you need to meet up. It's really hard to push yourself to make the transition (especially the first time), but it's only a date and it's supposed to be fun. Worst thing that happens is you'll spend a few hours being bored and/or underwhelmed.
For a first date keep it short and sweet. Coffee is nice and simple. It also means that if it's going well you can extend the date for dinner/daytrip, or easily call it quits without it being awkward.
Put a picture. Nobody looks at profiles if it doesn't have a picture.
No pictures of you with an ex. If you happen to have a really good pic where you happen to be standing next to your sister/mate, make sure you put a caption pointing out it's just your sister/mate.
You probably will feel weird the first time you meet.
Don't expect many girls to message you. Most wait and hope for a message.
When you send a message, don't just write something like "Hi, how are you?". Chances are the girls get an awful lot of these, and usually they're from guys who have mass messaged anyone who looks nice without bothering to read the profile, so they get deleted.

Thanks for all the great advice!

If you've had relationships with girls your age before without this being a problem I don't see why it would turn into one just because you met on the net.

Well, because all of the girls I've been in relationships with have also been in highschool, and I'm guessing there's a good chance of meeting someone I like who is 19 or above on one of these sites.

I know two couples that met online. One is celebrating their 5th anniversary and one is celebrating their kids' 1st birthday. :happy:

Ack! Trying to scare me off, are you? :tongue:

Whatever you do, don't think like that. You'll never get anyone if you're so afraid of success that you won't even try. Just message everyone who looks/sounds attractive to you, the worst thing that can happen is that she won't reply.

Well, I guess she could turn out to actually be a gay dude serial rapist/killer, but the chance of that happening isn't particularly high.

Good point. And hey, if I do meet a gay dude serial rapist / killer and survive, [censored] best story ever, amirite? (that joke was in horrible taste. I apologize)

But if you're set on trying online dating, my strongest piece of advice is to NOT buy into everything. With people online, no matter what they say or do, you tend to morph them into whatever it is you want. It's easily done when you don't have to deal with someone face to face, so I would meet pretty quickly. But, I would definitely do so in a very public place where you both meet there seperately. This solves so many problems like, if she isn't at all what she said she was, she turns out to be completely insane/stalkerish, or if you just plain don't like her. After the date (coffee/lunch/dinner would be ideal) you can just say thanks and move on.

That all sounds like good advice.

But again, I wouldn't suggest it for someone so young and in such a transitional time in life. I'm told the people mostly on those sites are looking for sugar daddies, are cougars, married and looking to cheat, or just way older then you and in a very different time in their lives. (Not saying they're all one of those, just the rumor I've heard.)

Well now, that is a pretty fair discouraging point. I guess I just figure I'll try and dodge such folk.

» Mon May 14, 2012 9:23 am

Yeah I totally read your post wrong, my bad man.

But honestly I would not try online dating. Never know who you're going to meet on there.

» Mon May 14, 2012 8:44 am

Again, check out pof.com. Ots mainly for 18+, i think.

When i use online networking sites, i never use a main email addy, never upload a photo or send a photo, cam chat only, and only, you gotta work up a/the convo to bring up six, you gotta get that outta the way imo.

if your younger than 18 id say look for a legit local networking gwebsite for your community/school/town or city. use facebook, see who knows who, your friends can inteoduce you orr even your friends friend.

there was no facebook qhen i was a teen, so we (me and random ppl i knew) would send each other random msns and aims to talk/network and get to know each other, its really fun, and you already know/have some type of relation

also, very important, if your gonna meet someone from ttyhe intranet, do what i do when i do ride shares with random pppl off the net, meet in a public place, like a shop that has cameras that records all visitors on entry, tell someone. if you send emails/txts/calls, keep tra/k of the records, just to he safe. always let someoene know your gonna meet someoene off the net ( i do it for ride shares) and if possible tell them to bring ga friend and you bring'one.

sorry for ttyhe lonhg post, just had toass on sose jnfp

maybe haed to read, tried to rush with tablet

» Mon May 14, 2012 12:21 pm

If you use OKCupid, they have a little blog called "OkTrends." They haven't updated it in a year or so, but it has a lot of interesting advice.

http://blog.okcupid.com/index.php/the-best-questions-for-first-dates/

» Mon May 14, 2012 12:18 pm

CD is so dating-oriented tonight.

I'd say throw yourself into it. Be prepared to wade through a lot of duds. If you don't put yourself on the line, you won't give yourself the opportunity to come across someone who works.

Personally, though,I think forging relationships through sites of mutual interest (ie this one) is still a vastly preferable option to a dating site where people can - and 99% of the time do - misrepresent themselves. Of course, I'm sort of at an advantage because gaming websites are usually 70% male to 30% female or lower, but seriously, forming a freindship with someone through a forum of mutual interest is definitely a good way to begin. You already know you have something in common. I actually know 4 successful couples who met on BSG forums alone.

» Mon May 14, 2012 6:31 am

ive never been on a blind date, but i wanna do one one day

» Mon May 14, 2012 2:29 pm

It seems to me that's a really easy situation to handle. I'd just leave.

No way, he paid for dinner, you'd stay, have them pay and then leave. Just don't look back and sprint when you turn the next corner

» Mon May 14, 2012 6:15 pm

Why don't you try meeting girls on online forums. . .

» Mon May 14, 2012 8:26 am

ive never been on a blind date, but i wanna do one one day

My advice? Don't. I did it for valentines day this year and I wish I'd stayed at home.

» Mon May 14, 2012 11:00 am

You just need to come to the realization that no one is good enough for you and then spend the rest of your life reenacting scenes from Two and a Half Men (I recommend the role of Charlie).

» Mon May 14, 2012 11:33 am

My advice? Don't. I did it for valentines day this year and I wish I'd stayed at home.

I've never had one, either. If it weren't for my current engagement, I'd like to do a string of these, for the amusemant value if nothing else. I figure if I get bored or don't like the person I can just start doing weird/absurdist/bizarre/creepy things and have fun watching them react.

» Mon May 14, 2012 7:30 pm

My advice? Don't. I did it for valentines day this year and I wish I'd stayed at home.

That is THE worst day EVER, I swear. When I was dating my ex, I told her it's best we treat it as a regular day, since both of us have had histories of [censored] hitting the fan on that day. It may as well be called "Relationships End" Day, or "Lover's Spite Day".

» Mon May 14, 2012 8:26 am

That is THE worst day EVER, I swear. When I was dating my ex, I told her it's best we treat it as a regular day, since both of us have had histories of [censored] hitting the fan on that day. It may as well be called "Relationships End" Day, or "Lover's Spite Day".

My GF and I have our anniversary on Valentine's Day so I never have to worry about forgetting it :biggrin:

We met because I sat behind her on the first day of class. So there you go - find an enticing girl and sit behind her. Worked for me :thumbsup:

» Mon May 14, 2012 7:17 pm

Yeah that works sometimes. But I've been a graduate and out of school for 12 years now lol.

Side note: This friend of mine I've known for a few months now, felt I wanted more, when I didn't.

Or so I thought.. It wasn;t until she told me more about herself and her past that I saw similiarities between us, coupled with the fact that we generally talk about everything.

Unfortunatly..I'm too old(she's 17) but I feel I'll be ok as long as we're friends. That's all I really needed was a good dependable friend. Most of the time that comes with a relationship, but I dont see that happening any decade soon.