» Wed Jan 05, 2011 7:06 pm I don't know what to do right now. me and my mom have always had some tension between eachother, but I seriously would have let fists fly and nailed her in the face today if it wasn't for the fact that my dad tripped and fell down some stairs before I did it.
I hope your dad is ok. I am assuming you are male correct?
Right now I'm dating a girl that she doesn't approve of, in fact she has never approved of any girls i've ever dated, even ones that are catholic like us and are kind, and dress modestly, its like she has a hatred for any relationship i'm ever in.
Without hearing her story, it may sound like she thinks she will loose you if you are dating other girls. Maybe this is her way of dealing with it. I am not saying it's correct, but we need to see why it is first. Have you ever asked her why shen doesn't approve?
Also, what really crossed the line today, I cleaned and organized every inch of our living room, and my room, and I cleaned out our whole garage on MY weekend on a day that I have off, then she starts yellin at me, calling me a lazy, ungrateful little ****, and screaming so loud i'm pretty sure everyone in the freaking neighborhood heard it, just because I wanted to take a 30 minute break before I had to go scrub our freaking bathroom clean, and then that's when I was about to punch her.
Violence is never a good excuse. You can still go to jail even if you are under 18. Also this is your mother. You should never put your hands on your Mother. This would mean you have more anger issues to deal with than just your mother. Summer made some great points about cleaning up, I can't comment there, because I am bad at cleaning up.
I can talk about experiance, with my step daughter. I can't tell her to do anything. Is there any respect between you and your mom? I don't know you age, someone said you are almost 18, so not to sound rude here, but do you thing you know it all? My daughter things she knows everything so never takes our advice. Could this be it, and your mom is at her wits end?
Also you talk about being Catholic. How religious is your mom? Turn it around on her. Go see a priest or someone in the "church" to talk to you and your mom. Her antics are definently not "Catholic" like. If she is religeous she may see the error of her ways of dealing with things.
Also is your mom stressed out? While it's not excuse there can be a reason why she is acting like this.
Now try these things. Can you stay at a friends house for a few days? Let things cool and settle down and then talk about it if possible. Commuincation is key here. Again, maybe get dad, or a priest or anyone who can mediate the discussion. There are 2 stories here so we can't say who is right or wrong. She is wrong for yelling, (I do this alot so I know, it's not a good feeling when doing it) and you are wrong, ready to deck her, and if it wasn't for your dad falling stopping you, you would have. 2 wrongs, don't make a right.
Remember you don't know everything, there is a lot of private issues that she doesn't know about you, and you don't know about her. Lot of times, people are stubborn. Are you one of those people who always need to get the last word in? Is she? Both of you? Maybe she can't change, so then as I tell my daugher "svck it up princess" and don't get the last word in. For the families sake some times you just have to bite the bullet. I know it's hard, I have a very hard time doing it myself.
Also are you able to move out? Moving out will not solve anything, it's just a temporary solution. Don't think moving out is the final solution. Think clearly, think long and Please don't make any rash deceisons. If you ever need to talk, you can PM me. I know, just getting it off your chest can do alot of good which you have done here. If you still need an ear to talk to, PM me.
I wish you the best of luck, and again, we don't know the full story, just bits and pieces so it's hard to give advice and then have someone taking this advice with little information.
