I don't know what to do right now. me and my mom have always had some tension between eachother, but I seriously would have let fists fly and nailed her in the face today if it wasn't for the fact that my dad tripped and fell down some stairs before I did it.

Right now I'm dating a girl that she doesn't approve of, in fact she has never approved of any girls i've ever dated, even ones that are catholic like us and are kind, and dress modestly, its like she has a hatred for any relationship i'm ever in. Also, what really crossed the line today, I cleaned and organized every inch of our living room, and my room, and I cleaned out our whole garage on MY weekend on a day that I have off, then she starts yellin at me, calling me a lazy, ungrateful little ****, and screaming so loud i'm pretty sure everyone in the freaking neighborhood heard it, just because I wanted to take a 30 minute break before I had to go scrub our freaking bathroom clean, and then that's when I was about to punch her.

Well, according to your profile page you'll be turning 18 in April so if I was you I would grit my teeth and move out after your birthday if it is truly that horrible. Just don't go assaulting anyone because if your mom really is such a jerk she could press charges on you.

Have you tried talking to your mother and explaining this problem to her? I know some people cannot understand reason. My father being one of them. But it's worth a shot nonetheless.

I've never had problems with my parents, well, serious ones. They are very reasonable, except on video games. They let me play them, but my dad has a fierce dislike of them. Nevertheless, he does not restrict me that much

Buddy, sometimes our mothers seem a little harsh on us, but in the end they love us. Despite what you may think at the time. Just keep in mind all the things she's done for you. And don't say she never gave me anything, because she must have.

We all feel this anger at times, but remember that they're humans too, and everyone is entitled to mistakes. Plus, at a younger age our hormones are acting up, and the lifestyles we live make sure we have a lot of frustration pent up. Mothers are the most important people in our lives, no matter what they do.

As for the relationship troubles and stuff, it's not a big deal. It looks like one now, but it's not. You don't want to know what serious problems with mothers could possibly be.. I saw this one boy on the news who accidentally killed his mother. Imagine the regret. You'd feel a fraction of that regret if you did anything drastic.

So just ease up, shrug it off, listen to some reggae, and let it go.

I'm already looking at apartments and stuff, and looking for friends that might want to share rent, definitely gonna try and get out asap



I tried that once, and she threw a dictionary at me

Sounds like something you just need to play along with. If your turning 18 soon, your almost done dealing with her. :unsure: Just know, the worst she can do is be loud...

As soon as I got my first job everything I've wanted has come out of my pocket, I would say the fact that I'm living here was givin to me by her, but actually my dad has made most of the payments, so no

It's the little things that count. If you're thinking about monetary gain all the time, to be quite frank I'm not surprised. I meant about the love she must have given at some point. The high hopes, etc. If nothing else, she's given you opposition, which every man requires in order to excel. Everyone successful on the planet has at one point had someone who told them they couldn't do it. Or to give up, or did them wrong. In some cases, it could be a parent. svck it up, soldier. Just move out when the time is right, it's not that big of a problem if it can be solved by moving out. Getting shouted at isn't the worst that could happen.

Save money and move out. Then remind her of this when you are better off and she asks not to be sent to some retirement home.

Not necessarily.

Well then. I'd say you're on the right track. We can't know all the facts about your personal life but my theory has always been this when it comes to people:

Give them as many chances as you think they deserve. If they keep burning you and cannot listen to reason forgot about them. I've never been a believer in "blood ties" I don't have anything to do with my father and his entire half of my family because of long reasons I won't get into here. My point is, if you think moving out will remove the problem then do it. A few months or years later she may be sorry and you two might be alright. But for now do what is best for you.

Well at least there both not unreasonable?

Just move out when the time comes, you've not got much longer to go.

Kinda glossed over the dad tripping down the stairs there. I was kinda left thinking about that little detail and didn't really take in the stuff about your mom.

But uh, Moms, eh? Who needs 'em? I never had one. I was generated in a primordial goo by a secret arm of the Ministry of Defense trying to grow super soldiers, when the Home Office realised I was good for knack-all beyond playing Super Mario Bros well, at about age four, they just gave up, and put me up in a decent house and have provided me with an allowance and access to new gaming technology whenever it becomes available. My primordial goo mother never showed an interest in me.

... if the MoD found out that I can fly and have amazing super-strength they'd probably cut off my gaming supplies and make me do stuff, like fight crime, or maybe they'd drop me into war zones. So let's keep that between us.

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Hmmkay, then try the other way: Simply don't communicate at all. Stress that you're not a nestling any longer and get the hell away as much as you can. If she doesn't change her behaviour, well, once you turn 18, just try to get away. Some people are just too stubborn to be argued with.

Introduce her to Legion justice.

Just ask her out?

Seriously, that could work. I mean, if no other woman is good enough for you in her eyes, who are you left with? 'Course, given the other stuff you've said about her, I suspect this might not work (due to her, not the plan ).

If you can figure out some underlying reason/cause for her behaviour, that could help you figure out how to deal with her. Perhaps talk to your father, see if he has any ideas? Also, has this behaviour always be present in some form, or has it emerged at some point more recently?


Not all of them. Mine does, and we have had our arguments, but her's showed no love for her (we're pretty sure my grandmother had http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Narcissistic_personality_disorder [C-class article]).

Crucifying her will mean she wont be able to do anything. He should only thake that option if he can cook.

Looks like your mom won't listen to reason and you're probably better off telling her to Please continue, my good sir./gtfo.

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You'd punch your mother?!?!
Your crazy and you have a death wish.
Just by saying you would.

i find it odd that she would behave like no girls are good enough for you yet consider you worthless, so ask her which it is

We're only hearing one side of the story. AS a mother of 2 girls and 1 son, whom is the eldest child, I would like to hear moms side before I pass judgement on her.

Hang in there until you are eighteen, move out, pay your own bills. Not as cost efficient as staying home, but the freedom is worth it.

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