Considering tlaking results at books being thrown at him I dont exactly blame him.

The reason nobody takes teenage sob stories seriously is because we usually present one extremely biased view of the argument. Therefore, I have to say your mother is completely nuts and you should punch her as soon as possible.

When my kids get all pissy and tempremental, I like to remind of Roe Vs Wade. The choice to carry them to term was mine.
I was not legally bound to give them nine months of bodily room and board, plus birth. By my mercy were they brought into this world.

Or, as Bill Cosby says, "I brought you into this world, I can take you back out."

The flip side of that, is that they did not ask you to carry them to full term and be born into the world. ^^

I would say you have some serious problems that don't have to do with your mom at all. For one, you said that you would have punched your mom in the head. That's not right. You don't punch ladies, and you especially don't punch your Mother. Who cares if she threw a dictionary at you. You don't answer violence with violence, plus I have a hard time believing that your mom would just throw a dictionary at you.

If she really is doing these violent things against you, maybe you should contact the Police, before you actually hit your own mother. All in all, your solution is obvious. Save up. Move out.

Panda, your mother won't just throw a book at you


She'll throw the entire library.

Then he needs to throw the Codex gigas back at her.

I doubt that he is cohesively thinking "The logical thing to do is to attack her", but rather, he gets angry (which will cloud his mind thus disabling him to think it out rationally). And why would he lie about her throwing a dictionary at him?

Thats a serious problem?? :confused:

almost all moms are like that.

It's easy to doubt a dictionary throwing incident when there's no context, and especially online. (Picture or it didn't happen! :mellow: ) I mean, if he'd said, "The last time I tried that she gave up searching the dictionary for the word "bung-rat" and threw it right at me. She was searching for the word "bung-rat" because during our argument I'd called her it, and she accused me of making words up! I told her to get an education and to check the dictionary. She did, and as she did I boggled her senses with a tirade of back-slang (pig-latin?) insults until she got so worked up she put her Level 2 dictionary throwing skills to good use."

Bit of context, a bit of background. I mean this is the same guy whose dad tripped down the stairs. Tripped down. I mean, what the...? Was it a flight of stairs? If he'd meant a few he'd have typed 'steps' surely. Are we talking a tumble here, down five or more steps? Or a slip and a butt scraqe? Are we talking an entire flight of stairs, head-over-heels, [censored]-over-elbow fall here? Is he all right? "Thank god dad broke his neck, if he hadn't I'd have decked my mom!"


By the way this line...


... made me laugh a little too much. Heh ha. Reading it back just then made me snort too. lol S'like a Vulcan coming to terms with violence or something. "Are there other options? No. There is only one course of action. The logical thing to do is attack her."

control


My two cents, your mom has many other problems that she needs to work out. You are a focal point for all that frustration because you are her son, and right there, and an easier target than her other problems. It's gonna get worse as you gear up to move out.

But if you know, or can find out what is going on you could probably save everyone more grief than just moving out bitterly.
[And I'm not saying this in defense of what is happening. You are in an all around poopy situation. If you talk to your dad in private he might be able to clarify things or reign in your mom.]

Ya it definitely sounds like she has a real high and mighty attitude. Not to be harsh, but it sounds like your mom would be angry at you for getting a drink a water after building a barn like the omish people inside of 1 day. It maybe best to think about moving out on your own if you feel that the tension between you two is getting out of hand. (just my thoughts about this)

I very, very strongly disagree with that. Where someone's gonads are shouldn't affect the consequences of assaulting someone (or getting them extremely pissed off). Not that I support hitting anyone, and certainly don't encourage picking on people who are physically weaker than oneself, but six/gender alone should not provide a get-out-of jail-free card for abuse.

Anyway, getting back to the topic at hand... he didn't say hitting his mother was the *right* thing to do, he just said that he'd gotten to the point where he would probably have thumped her, had there not been an interruption. The dictionary throwing was a separate incident.



I hereby reiterate my earlier advice of trying to figure out the cause of her behaviour. As I said before, speaking with your father may help. Try to approach it as calmly as possible.

First I want to address something in your post that made me feel you are a bit selfish. You say you cleaned and organized every inch of your living rook, your room and the garage during "MY" weekend on a day "you have off". Well, the only time there is to clean and organize at home every in on one's time off. You can't do it from work or from school. And it should be an ongoing thing. Done each day with pride. Your home is not going to clean and organize itself. In fact there is little need for cleaning and organizing for hours and hours if you spend time everyday doing so. This makes me have a feeling that the reason it was a big deal is because you rarely take the time to do any of it. Who else should clean your room? The rest of the house should be a team effort and I am of the belief that much of it often falls on your Mother's shoulders or she would not be so angry about it all. When most household work falls on one person's shoulders it makes them resentful and angry.

Now, it's a bit sad that she thought yelling at you would make the situation better, but I also have to wonder how often she has to push you to clean your room or anything else. It's always a shame when we lose our temper and don't find a way to express ourselves in a more constructive and calm manner.

As for the not approving of girlfriends...well I can tell you that no gal will ever be good enough for my sons. We Moms are like that. Hopfully she will learn to keep that in check because really, I have become friends even with my sons exes.

stay away from violence.
if your mom doesn't approve your girlfriends,then stop telling her that you have girlfriends!
can't you keep it a secret ?
just tell her that you will go out with one of your friends she like and approve, and go out with your girlfriend.
you don't have to tell everything to mom.

There are alota times when me and my parents disagree with each other. Only once in a while nowadays, but in my early to late teens alot.

For example, them complaining about clothes, or music, or video games, or how I like to wear my hair, etc.. when they start the [censored]ing I just start dancing. If I have to listen to dumb whining, then I might as well do something while I have to listen to it. Sure, their my parents, but for real, I have to dress how you want me to dress? Don't play video games because their kids toys? Listen to music you like? Wear my hair how you want me to? Lol, what am I, 5? lololo :intergalactic:

Not sure how your relationship with them is exactly, but you should try it. Next time shes complaining and even yelling just think of song that makes you wanna move, start thinking about it in your head and dance.

ah you have a psycho mom too, welcome to the club
heres my advice
Stand up to her, if she swings dodge and yell back, or you take it and dont flinch
people who hurt people who are smaller are just cowards, the fact you take it makes her powerfull
stand up

Tough [censored], life ain't fair. They have to deal with it. They are at least alive to [censored] about it.
Summer is also correct, when someone has to constantly be the housekeeper, plus hold down a job, resentment piles up.
Hell hath no fury like an overworked, overstressed mother with ungrateful children. Which is why Panda should save up his money and GTFO.
Life's lessons sometimes have to be learned the hard way.

The trend nowadays is doing things the smart way. Go to school, live with parents, then work and live with parents while paying off debts (if u have any) and saving up.

I believe that he meant that he had no obligation to do it. Even if cleaning the house should be a team effort, that does not mean that he had an obligation to do it. And if what he says is veritable, than his mother was being ungrateful for the fact that he was taking it upon himself to do it.

Well, whatever anyone says, don't hit her. I think that's a unanimous piece of advice. If you want to vent your frustration and show her that you're angry, throw stuff around the house, preferably things that are useless, but make noise when broken (and hold no sentimental value, and thus can be replaced) like glass cups and what-not. Just make sure not to inadvertently hit her or anyone else.

But remember, use this as a last measure. Try your level best to ignore it and relieve your tension in other, more peaceful and productive ways, like going to the gym. Always helps me.

as time goes on i find this argument to be filled with holes... if there wasn't any degree of fairness in the world we would never complain that it isn't fair

If you live in the house...any house...you have an obligation to assist with cleaning and upkeep regardless of age. That is unless you are well off enough to have servants.

Yes. But it seems as though his mother was being unappreciative of him doing it, screaming at him for taking a break.