Yup. Utter silence on her end. I figured she didn't feel the same, but then she started wanting to hangout alot soon after that. Can't figure her out for the life of me...

She doesn't want to lose you totally, that's why she wants to hangout.

The myth is that women are not attracted to men they see as friends, because they see them as friends. Hence, a man sees getting "put in the friend zone" as having disqualified him from a sixual relationship he otherwise would have had, when in truth, he never had a chance in the first place. That is the belief that some of the people in this thread are calling a myth. If a woman finds a male friend romantically appealing, she would not hesitate to take take that relationship to the next level if the feelings were mutual.

If she doesn't want to take it to the next level, it's because she doesn't find her male friend romantically appealing, and likely never did. Men use the "friend zone" to shield themselves from this uncomfortable truth, to say, "She rejected me because she sees me as a friend," rather than, "She rejected me because she thinks I'm unattractive." I suppose some women may do, too, but I've only ever heard these kinds of complaints from men.

Breaking her will? I have no idea what you mean by that. Please elaborate.

I'm not sure if this applies to you, so please don't take offence. I just know a lot of guys who have basically spent so much time with a girl, that they wear them down. Make it seem like they're the best option out there, they may go out and get other boyfriends...but they never last and guess what? That guy's still there. Young women especially, are normally very insecure creatures. They crave comfort and validation. There are certain guys out there who prey on that and manipulate them enough, that eventually....Their will breaks, even though the girl isn't really attracted to him.

Just another aspect of the friend zone. There are some guys who like to play those games. In for the long haul and all that. For me, I'd be bored after two years of waiting for a girl. Unless the feelings came about all of a sudden...

http://xkcd.com/513/

This sums up EXACTLY what i'm getting at. I'm sure you're not that guy, but I know a few of them. My best mate is just like that.

This is a very common post, OP. Many guys who use the friendship angle to get an "in" with the girl then get mired in a tangle of their own feelings: their feelings build and build during the "friendship", and they start to feel that if they make a move, they might lose everything they've invested. The posts usually include "so much at stake", or "don't want to lose the friendship".
Realize that the primary reason you are friends with her in the first place is because you wanted her. If you do nothing, you will get nothing. If you do something, and she doesn't feel the same, you will actually have lost nothing ... because nothing was there in the first place. And you'll actually have gained a lot, because although you'll probably be very disappointed, you won't be left wondering forever what could have happened if you had just done something. Which is worse: finding out for sure, or being paralyzed forever, never knowing? The latter lasts a very long time, and hurts far more. You'll kick yourself constantly.
So man up and ask her out on a date.

I kinda feel that if you've been "friend zoned" you kinda deserve it for not being upfront about your intentions in the first place. Then again, I've only ever been the friend-zone-er.

that's sad actually. you shouldn't stop looking though, having a real friend is something you'll be grateful for.

I met my wife in high school. At the time we were friends because she was dating another guy from another school. Long story short, I told her how I felt but she was not ready to let go of her relationship. I was "friend-zoned". Shortly thereafter, I started dating another girl at the school. Before I knew it, she was ready to give up her old relationship to give me a try. We dated for 8 years and have been married for 6 going on 7 years now. Not saying this will be the case for everyone. Just sharing my story. However, I am a true believer that it sometimes takes losing something to realize what you've had.

I kinda feel that if you've been "friend zoned" you kinda deserve it for not being upfront about your intentions in the first place. Then again, I've only ever been the friend-zone-er.

This is how I feel as well. I don't really understand how you can even get into the friend zone. If you like someone, then ask them on a date. It is simple.

So remember that whenever you are friend zoned at least rejoice in the fact that she was honest and didn't end up hurting you even more than she would've by just saying no.

Try and stay friends if you can OP, you can never have too many.

I don't think this is common the other way round though, that a girl gets friend zoned by a guy?

So, were you talking to the OP there, or yourself?

Just ask him out, kiddo!

Pshh, everyone knows the friend zone doesn't work both ways...


...Right? RIGHT???

IRL Advice: If she looks like she's really friendly with another guy, there's actually a good chance he's gay, so don't be put off by that.

Well, I hadn't actually ever heard him speak for ages. But then he starts walking around holding hands with this other guy and I'm like Ooooohhh. Then she starts going out with someone else.

So yeah, get gaydar people.

Also that sounds like a blinder of a weekend.