You need to man up. Accept responsibility. You sound more bothered that you can go and play in solitude than look after a child.
I have 2kids and still find time. The eldest sts with me and pays as he loves computers and decides which way we should wonder in skyrim.
You need to enjoy it as its the best thing you will ever have not some game to live out your digital life.

Yea, hug her more than the computer... Or get a laptop, and hug them both!
"Oh this... it is only here to help keep us warm..." (The laptop.)

We played Morrowind with our son when he was very young, and in fact used it to teach him that hitting was bad (he didn't like it when things attacked us unprovoked). Granted Morrowind doesn't have the same level of gore that Skyrim has, and my wife and I had fairly pacifist builds.

Our son is six now, he's watched us play some parts of Skyrim (mostly dragon battles) but there's a lot in the game I'm not comfortable with him seeing, so he doesn't sit down and watch the same way he does when I play Portal or Trine.

For the first year or so I don't think you have to worry about the content in Skyrim - most of the time they'll be snoozing on your shoulder rather than watching you play. If there was harsh language I'd be more concerned, but there isn't. However once they're more alert I could see being uncomfortable playing with the little one around unless it was a pacifist build (stealth and illusion in Skyrim's case).

Congrats on the news

dang pokemon SHnap... that was harsh even for me.. but serously though, I'd like to no why i get hated on and called a troll for loving final fantasy but this guy gets haunted by a night of unprotected six and gets all these kind words? wtf?

If you love final fantasy bro then..... Woohoo

It is not an automatic human responsibility to procreate. It is a choice.

If a man would rather play video games in Solitude, rather than be a parent, it is his right to choose.

I ONLY FOUND OUT 3 hours ago that my wife is pregnant.

You haven't even given the baby a chance to born, and already you're implying that I am a deadbeat dad?

I'm just asking some questions to see if I can get some idea of what having a child will be like, at the same time as I am a hardcoe gamer. I don't know what to expect.

Obviously, when the baby is born, I am going to love it, not lock it in a closet so that I can play Skyrim instead.

We didn't plan this baby. And I am pretty scared about what sort of things that I enjoy will have to be given up.

I don't think he was intending to be harsh... I hope... Just not a great portrayal of his thoughts.

I do believe he was trying to say that "Bleak" seemed to be negative, like he was upset that he could not play, as a pregnancy interrupted his game... The poster was just trying to say... Don't worry, it's all good... There is more than games, and you just found out what it is.

Bleak makes me regret that I "choose" not to have kids... But gives me hope that it might not be too late to change my mind. LOL, games just bore me now anyways. I'd rather be painting, drawing, building or running around out in the woods again. Anything other than being near a computer. (Even for my digital art. I would throw it all out the window...)

First off, you have a newborn...F***** being the Dragonborn! Having a newborn trumps playing with virtual toys...Now grow up, sell your stupid toys, and focus on rearing your new child!

He said she just got pregnant... not she just delivered a newborn...

What exactly is he going to do for 9-months to "Rear his unborn child"... I am sure that is up to the mother to handle, not him...

Feeding it is impossible... unless he has the umbilical cord installed as a MOD...
Watching it is creepy... to the mother...
Holding it is... Um... uncomfortable...

It is a pea-sized pre-born... Doesn't even have a heart yet... or ears... or even a brain...

Sorry, I was a bit harsh, but it sounded a bit like complaining to me. I had to deal with too many rotten parents so I'm admittedly a bit biased...

Not on high horse at all. But just accept that she's pregnant instead crying about it on Internet forums. Talk to wife/partner about and tell her how you feel. I found out and thought dam! Life s over. It's really not. It's just beginning. You will still find time to do everything you enjoy and even more. Having kids is great.
I don't even know or care if your a deadbeat. I wasn't implying it either. So stop being a tool.

I had kids, but then I forgot to feed them due to playing Skyrim, and nature took its course.

Right after I edited my post, too.

I wish that I had left it as I had originally worded it.

I am not crying on internet forums, [censored].

And I don't need to talk to my wife about anything.

I love Skyrim. I am on this forum every day. I just found out that I am going to be a dad.
I am curious as to whether or not parents with babies have to sacrifice Skyrim, or not.

So I asked. Simple as that. Apparently, asking opened me up for judgement.

Then direct your thoughts on how you're going to rear your child rather than the fear you feel...Fear is the most pointless emotion aside from keeping us from getting eaten, and is the driving force to the most disastrous decisions ever made by the whole of humanity!

What does this have to do with being a rotten parent?

You saying he can't FEAR, which is a natural human emotion? or have doubts, which all of us have... Sorry you are so sure of yourself... The last thing you want a parent to have, is feelings...

Rotten parents don't care, don't ask questions, don't brag about having gotten someone pregnant, and that has nothing to do with video-games...

Hell, my rotten parents hated video-games, hated drugs, hated parties, and just liked to beat kids for fun. Planned kids. (Even still, we mostly turned out OK. lol... Well, my posts would suggest otherwise.)

With comments like that... You are obviously NOT one of those good parents... How could you be, if you are not even a good human to a stranger... But I am sure you parenting skills are above and beyond the worst parents... But even my parents would not have made a comment like that, as bad as they were. (Bad is an "Opinion" by the way, just another "Perception", not a "Fact". So ignore my judgement/perception/opinion about your potential bad parenting, based off your bad humanitarian skills.)

Don't listen to the [snip] talkers..

The way you're feeling is totally normal, and you will be fine, you don't have to give up having fun once you have kids...unless you do that yourself by being too high strung.

Occasionally i'll meet some twit who looks down on me because I play games sometimes when hanging out with my kid instead of teaching them latin while I feed them organic tomatoes or something...

Seriously, [snip] people like that...once the kid arrives you'll get your rhythm as a parent, then you can sort out how/when you are going to schedule leisure time. Remember, once of the nice things about being a parent is it's your job and that works both ways, so if you are doing your job, other people and their backseat driver opinions can stuff it.

It ain't their kid, ain't their experience, and it's up to you whether you pay them any mind when they moralize about your parenting or priorities...like some of the people in this thread are doing.

well to be fair, you did kind of complain a little bit about how you had a great life and didn't want a child. nice and simple, will my life change? yes. Will i have to sacrifice skyrim? no.

Here's how I see balancing gaming and kids. In a couple of years, once their motor skills have developed a little more, you can do multiplayer.

But realistically, you'll have to cut back on your gaming. Probably a lot.

No I'm NOT a parent, not at all, I'm a single-live alone hard-core gamer...See my point?

IE: I would love to be where he's at, but my decisions in life screwed it up!

I really appreciate you backing me up, J.D. thanks for being in my corner. It really means allot.

Just to clarify for all of you - I am not here to cry and complain. If I was, then I would have opened this thread by saying, "I just found out my wife is pregnant. This svcks, because I want to play Skyrim instead of being a dad."

If that is the way I felt, then I would have said it.

It is not the way I feel. I can see how it came across that way, however, because I did mention that the pregnancy wasn't planned.

Let me put it to you all this way:

I never wanted to have children. But as of 4 hours ago, I am going to be a parent in 9 months.

Now that it is going to happen, I want to know how much child rearing takes away from enjoying Skyrim, as it was my favorite part of my life before realizing this.

How's that? Fair enough?

Then keep your parenting opinions to yourself... Until you raise a kid, you have no clue... Stick to gaming advice... or fix the screw-up, if it is fixable. (If not, then forgive the bugger holding you down.)

Though I don't have kids of my own... I raised most of my brothers and sisters... Baby-sat for years in the neighborhood too, to make money to buy my own clothes, mowed lawns for food, and have been legally working since I was 12 years old, just to survive.

I share his same thoughts... "My life is great", "I feared having a kid", "I am not parent material", "Thought kids would ruin my fun"... because... as a kid/teen/advlt, so far, they have... Have ruined my fun. But they were not MY kids, which is partly what I am seeing it as being the "ruining factor" Thanks to threads like this, which I can relate, I see the other side. (Being 35 myself, I have a shread of hope.)

Quoted for truth, people without kids need to shut up about how to raise them.

Anyway, it will cut down on some of your free time, naturally this is part of being a parent..however, you can still fit this time in.

You will probably play less games, and more slowly. I average two long-ish games every couple of months.

Your emotions clearly made you blind to my point. take a few moments and relax, my point is obvious, that he should not take having a child for granted in favor of his favorite hobbies...And I do not feel bad in the least for making it. No matter how mad you get..

so you're saying that people that haven't been to the moon don't know what it looks like because they haven't been there? it doesn't matter if an advice came from a monkey, if it's a good advice than it's a good advice, don't be so discriminatory towards others.

I agree with you. No parent should ever put his hobbies in front of his kids.

I am not going to do that, however, I will admit that it seems like a hard thing to do. Maybe that will all change when it is born.

I don't think there is anything wrong with the way I am feeling.

It was an accident, not planned. So I am trying to figure out how to plan for it, being as how I do not know anything about being a parent at all.

I smoke pipes and tobacco, listen to European Black Metal, and play Skyrim when I am not at work.

My wife and I have a great marriage, and we worked very hard to get it where it is.

I guess I am afraid of allot of things.