I cant stand the majority of people speak, dress, thinks, the attitude, opinions and other things. Talking to one person is just like talking to anyother person. Be it old or young, black or white (well atleast in Europe) or whatever. Its liek ther is this universal system that controls peoples minds and their behaver. Somtimes it even makes me not want to date a woman again, because i simply don like the attitude or behaver. Its like I dont fit in society.

Ive been depressed for 1 ? years, because of severtal causes. Some of these causes made me to belive that i had a social anxiety and felt uncomftable with being around people out there. Well after fighting with depression wich started with getting a job (still a trainee though), ive come to the conclusion that I am not social anxiety, but simply dont like the majority of this society. Even though I like most people at work, I talk to them and thinks "Oh, he's one of them".

You feel like this too?

That's what society is, essentially. It's less tinfoil hat-conspiracy, and more convenience, comfort, animal nature.

I agree, though. As I've grown older over time, I've come to feel less hostile and rebellious about it, and more sympathetic (if perhaps in a condescending way). I take what I like of society, and leave what I don't, and despite some psychological concerns of my own, I've found it quite a peaceful and happy way to be.
But I never belong anywhere.

Sorry to hear about your depression.

Yes I do. I don't really like most people. I mean, I have friends, but most people are just alien to me. Hell, even with my friends, there are aspects to their personality that I don't like. And I'm sure they feel the same about me.

It's called misanthropy and it affects most people intelligent enough to see how stupid the general population is.

Other symptoms include but are not limited to Headaches, random cursing and shouting, instantaneous combustion and sudden violent urges against idiots in a position of power.


Also, no I'm not insane, antisocial, and I don't have dissociative identity disorder. I have the test results to prove it too.

I had to work through a bit of that, you can only carry on as best you can and do your part to make it better for everyone.

This.

I don't like to think of myself as antisocial, it's just that I don't like [censored]s, and unfortunately, far too many people are [censored]s.

People are stupid and I hate them all.

Individuals are great folks (well, most of them). I'd like to meet them.

Thanks guys for posting. Ive come to the point where I think "svck It Up" cause it aint gonna change, but I just somehow needs to find a way to live with it.

I just want to say that whoever thinks that his/her life is great, should always remember that it mostly wont last forever.

I'unno. I don't know about everyone else but I've never been super optimistic about society or life in general. Personally I don't think it's normal to be upbeat and happy all the time. Just means your jamming all of your fears and negativity deep, deep inside where it'll fester into homicidal rage or somethin'. My two cents.

"I hate everybody who isn't like me."

Hell isn't other people, it's other people's farts... in an elevator... in summer..

I know, I tend to get flatulent around idiots..


:P

I know how you feel, I did feel that way often earlier (well, I still do, but it's not as bad anymore). Not sure why in deep you don't like the others, but I was worried over the future of this planet, and how everyone is walking with their eyes closed, only focused on materia and money and good looks and fame and such.

But you can just try to get "over" the feeling over time. And I'm not saying "get over it!!!", I'm saying, try to leave the feeling behind you. If you do not like the people, don't spend time worrying about them. One cannot change the whole world, even changing one individual is very hard. And the change has to come from the person within, you cannot force anyone to change.

My solution is: live your life the way that makes YOU feel the best. Live according to your own standards, and maybe your example rubs off to those around you. People do see when someone is in peace with themselves, and people want to become the same. So if you work as a lighthouse, maybe your example shines more far, and world gradually changes for the better, as people see another way to live instead of the "normal" squirrel wheel.

Most importantly, don't hang on to worrying about the things you cannot change, it will only do YOU harm

Sturgeon's Law applies to people as well. That's the fact you have to draw your own conclusions from - see that we can still benefit from those leading in various fields, become utterly cynic, try and improve the world on your own, develop a misanthropic disorder, et cetera. Some of these are your choice, some are not.

..aren't you a ray of sunshine? Most people who feel they live great lives do so because the understand that everything in life, including life itself, is fleeting.

Yes, well that would be what "majority" is. Whats wrong with people having things in common?

it's called conformity
something that the human race has adhered to since the dawn of civilization. The best you can do in a situation is accept the time you live in and learn to adapt.

that being said I have a very hard time with people from my own generation. This Digital culture dictated by facebook, texting, and relying on the internet for all communication rather than legitimate face to face conversations.

I'm amazed at how cutthroat the internet culture can be. I'm not talking about /B/, trolling and hacking. I'm talk about how actual people, people I may have known for years in real life can become so selfish, inconsiderate and cutthroat for the sake of getting one more number on their facebook friend's list. I'm talking about this obsessive compulsion so many people from my generation seem to have to continuously update the entire world on every little thing they're doing as if they need a constant stream of vindication and kudos to keep going. I'm talking about how entire friendships, love pursuits, even familial relationships can be shattered in seconds by trusted individuals who you realize a little too late can and will sell you up [censored]'s creek to come out smelling like roses.

What's more the serious notion that there is no privacy on the internet. Again, it's not just the hacking, it's this mentality that if you know anyone, and you happen to talk to them on the internet as well as in real life everyone else you may know seems to have this entitled mentality that they can barge in the middle of it. If they see you talking to someone in the real-world they'll know to not butt in or at least ask politely if they can join in, but on the internet it's "HEY HEY HEY HOW YA'LL DOIN'!?" and then proceed to ruin what ever chances you may have (if this is love related issue) or systematically dismantle whatever connections you may have forged over the years.

Finally, on a more personal note, if you counter me with "well that's what you get for friending strangers on the internet" I can't speak for the rest of you, but at least for me I only friend people I know and met personally in the real world. Again, these're people who are perfectly decent people (some of then are jerks in real life too though) Who have displayed shocking amounts of opportunism and greed on the social networking scene.

again though, back to my original point, there isn't truly much I can do to change much of this outside of outright telling every person I know who's hurt me why I'm hurt. At this point I've just had to accept it, it's painful as hell and it really questions some things about people, but you have to adapt.

There is also something to be said about changing your attitude and pursuing a career capable of changing the society we live in. Write a book that exposes who we truly are, become a speaker and find ways to force people to look at themselves. If you can pull it off you'll be making a big difference to this race.

true to a word.

btw, where's the avatar?

I like how in threads like this everyone assumes he's the special non-conforming person. :laugh:

I did, and then I realised it was probably just something similar to confirmation bias.
Now I just let people get on with their lives.

thanks

yeah it would seem in the big forum update my avvie was lost in the void of teh interwebz and I've never gotten it back since.

Aren't most the posts in this thread about how one can learn to conform?

This.

http://xkcd.com/610/

This is true more than you may think. People put on masks when they interact with other people. No matter how comfortable I could ever feel with somebody, I would still not be able to act the same way around them that I do when completely alone.

In the same vein, many people are simply not honest in public about themselves. They dilute interests and resort to pre-fabricated responses to conversation out of habit and fear. When somebody asks you "Hey how are ya doin'?" you respond with something like "Good!" or "Fine." almost automatically. I can guarantee that we'd have much more in common with, and MUCH more differences from other people if all of us were a more concentrated, honest us.

It would resemble the internet in a way. With our ultimate mask of anonymity we can allow ourselves to be as brutally honest as we like.

I get asked 'How are you?' at least ten times a day at work. I don't think I've ever given an actual honest answer.