I need help, advice, anything, bad, because I'm in a pretty terrible situation. Let me explain:

So, I moved to this new school at the start of the second semester and after a week or so there, I notice this incredibly attractive freshman girl, who we will call Kaela. Now Kaela had the type of beauty that made me scared to come up to her, and so I didn't. Besides, she was way outta my league. However one day, I got the chance to work with her in a group and to be completely honest, I had butterflies talking to her, and I couldn't stop smiling for the rest of the day. So, I ended up telling her best friend, Vanessa, that I liked Kaela. So Vanessa starts helping me out. Me and Kaela were both VERY shy and didn't talk much, but Vanessa said that Kaela liked me, so all was good. Now I just needed to get over my shyness.

So, awhile passes, and I've got my eyes set on Kaela, when one day me and Vanessa are talking and she says that Kaela only likes me a little bit. That kind've throws me off, but I don't really let it phase me. A few days later, she says that Kaela's undecided now, and wants to get to know me. I was pretty darn unmotivated to be honest. Kaela had told Vanessa that me and her had agreed to be just friends for now, which we never had. She is also incredibly easily persuaded by her friend's opinions. And her friends all said that they couldn't see her with me.

Now in this time, I'd started talking to this girl named Presley, not with the intention of flirting or anything but just to make conversation. We hit it off immediately, and we felt an instant connection. She's funny, cute, smart, sweet, dedicated, a great girl. So, since I figured Kaela was uninterested in me, I gave up on that and started going after Presley. She told me she liked me and I told her I liked her too.

She asked me "If Kaela DOES like you, would you still like me more?", to which I replied Yes...

So I come into school today, and Kaela just looks super unhappy. One of my friends comes up and is like "Dude, she's really hurt...she's really into you". That pretty much completely messed up everything in my mind. I couldn't decide between the two...I still had feelings for Kaela, but I'd also really developed feelings for Presley. So, one of my friends takes it into their hands and goes up and talks to Presley basically telling her the whole situation. Now, long story short, Presley hates me, Kaela's barely talking to me, and I'm wondering if Kaela's the right choice. Because honestly, I feel like I can be more myself around Presley.

Help me please guys, I'm in such a horrible situation.

Disregard females,

Acquire currency.

Wow umm...I've never been in a situation even close to this but I think that by now it's not going to happen with either one. Honestly, if you could get to a neutral level with them again then that would be an achievement (but seeing how women usually take this sort of [censored] about 10000 as seriously as they should, your chances for that are slim). But cheer up, and in the future don't try to get a date through your date-to-be's best friends because they will screw it up for you once more (as they did now).



Haha words to live by. Then again, I often feel like I'm too old for my age. I look on situations like these as an old man, I need my afternoon naps and my back hurts like Nifleheim after twenty minutes of rugby. Worst part is I'm in high school.

Whoever can make the better sandwich, obviously.

Yeah...Well, Presley just texted me, and I think, as much as I do NOT deserve it, is giving me an option to have a second chance.

Oh, hormones. You so silly.

I think it's a given that these relations won't last if you're falling in love this often. So go out with whichever one is less clingy.

I'm assuming this is a high school you're referring to? If so, high school relationships don't matter. What are the odds that you'll actually get into a serious relationship with a girl you met in high school and the relationship will last? Not very high.

Yeah, I know. But honestly, I just want to salvage my friendships with both of them.

And yeah, it's high-school, and I know it doesn't really matter, but it still is confusing

Ah teenage hormones. Dont miss you at all.

I say try to reconcile with both of them and start yourself a harem.

He never said he fell in love with either of them...

Just talk to Presley about it and you should be good. Kaela is a lost cause now.

If you want to salvage your friendship (which is worth way more than some stupid, month-long high school crush) then I say you don't go out with either one but become friends.

I know quite a few people who have been married 30+ years and started dating in high school...

To the OP: Give up on the first girl, you screwed it all up by going through her friend. The second girl deserves your complete attention/affection and being she can't have it because you're still hung up on the first girl - move on.

This... so this!

in my opinion, kaela lost her chance after she degraded her interest in you the second time which led to undecided

also, if you can't talk directly then it isn't going to work out

This is so classic. I've seen several situations like this. Whom do you truly like more? Date her and end it there. You can't worry about hurting anyone's feelings, since that's just a natural part of life.

Well done

Well, you probably shouldn't have been talking through friends in the first place, because what they say isn't always truthful and a direct approach is usually easier. But, if Kaela was truly undecided, then I don't know why she would be so upset if you moved on, unless she decided over night that she is in love with you. I can't see how this is your fault if all you did is move on after you found out a girl wasn't interested.

I disagree. I know alot of people that have carried relationships from high school till they were in there mid 20's, or even longer and got married. My brother actually met his girlfriend in 8th grade and is still with her (he's 20) and is thinking about marrying her when he graduates.

Yeesh. You missed the sweet moment with one because you were too shy and through that pissed the other one off. Here is some advice. If you like a girl? Talk to her and get to know her and ask her out as soon as you think you have enough of an interest in her to ask her out. Also this is high school. Just start asking out whoever you are interested in, the experience will be good for you. Do not get hung up on one girl at this point. Do not overthink things. Just go for it and have fun and don't take it all too seriously.

Btw, it sounds like the second girl is a better option currently, though how quickly you hit it off seems like you may make better friends than a couple.

In short, neither of these relationships sound like they will last so do something now in terms of romance or start trying to repair the relationships. Having a couple attractive girls who you get along with as friends is usually a pretty sweet deal.

Of course this is all working off of little information and with a large amount of assumptions on my part.

Sit down with both of them, apologize for the situation, let them know that you feel really bad about why you did (and why you did it; you have to make them know that you like them both), and that you handled the situation poorly. The worst case scenario is that you're on good terms with both of them and have a shot with a relationship with either one in the future once things calm down (and they will, really quickly).

And the best case scenario? Threesome.

Apologize for what exactly? Honestly, I don't see how it's his fault that the girl is upset after previously being so undecided.

^ Best advice. Who do you like more. Whichever, try to heal your relationship with her. If Kaela is hating on you for something as simple as this situation, it's not gonna take much for her to like you again. Most likely she's exaggerating her upsetness with you, anyway.

Don't stress yourself out too much. You'll be playing these games for the next 5+ years (possibly longer depending on the people involved). Just have fun and don't take it too seriously. Most kids in high school take things very seriously, but in reality have absolutely no clue what they actually want and it will change from minute to minute.

Apologize for making her think that he was interested, but then pursuing a different relationship.

Once men reach a certain point in life, you realize that in situations involving male-female relationships, the female is always right, no matter how irrational or no matter how little sense it makes. I'm 100% serious; the best way to make amends in these relationships is to not argue the point. The sooner you make-up with a girl, the sooner you can get back on track and the less damage is done overall.

The cute girls are better than the hot ones, but it's harder to cope when they sleep around on you because they look more innocent.

Do what you will.

Go for Presley, if you can talk to her better, then she is obviously the better choice.

Also, don't worry too much about these things, in 5 years it won't even matter.