I won't use a cheat but I'm going to have a real challenge in buying a house with a pacifist character I'm planning. I'm wondering if it will even be possible. The goal is zero kills and so many quests want you to kill something. I'll give it a shot though and if I can't find a way, I'll get a mod.

Is that even possible? :\ ...so many NPCs you have to kill to get the quest items.

Plus, I'm just assuming that at some point we'll have to kill Ulfric regardless of what side we choose.

There can be only one! XD
And FWIW: the house thing is an exploit...not really a cheat. Just tell yourself: "Bethesda made it possible and I just don't want their work to be for naught." XD