A lot of people I know at my college often make fun of other people their age (i'm a lot younger than most of them) for living with their parents. It leads to people saying, "Oh yeah, i'll probably be out of the house in a few months or so." Just to get that person off their case.

This morning I was watching http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Anderson_Cooper's Talk show (Anderson) and he had a similar topic about people who live at their parent's and the opinions of people in the audience seem to reflect that of my peers.

What's so bad about living with your parents until you can support yourself?

If you still live at "home" have you ever encountered what i'm talking about?

A lot of people here go back home to live with their parents when not in school, myself included. :shrug:

Guess some people are just jealous that others have loving parents to go home to?

nothing of course



unless yer a lazy bugger <_<



that sorta sums it up for me. The 'lazy bugger' syndrome is a two way street though.. both the parents as well as the spouse need to stay focussed that independence stays the top priority, unless there are separate mitigating circumstances that warrant otherwise.

The old perception that you should move out when your 18 and make something of yourself. People hold on to this belief even though times have changed. You can no longer walk into your neighborhood hardware store and get a job that same day, you can no longer live on minimum wage.

Nothing bad. Heck, even if one can support yaself, one can still live with their parents and help pay things here and there.


No, I live around in an environment where its usually family value over individuality.

People see others over the age of 18 to be advlts. That right when they get out of high school, they're on their own. Someone who is 18 years old and living with their parents isn't seen truly as an advlt but more as a bottomfeeder, still sticking to your parents when you are old enough to go out as you please.

Problem is, you can't truly be well off until after college. For some, 2 years so they're out of the house when they're 20. Some 4 years so they're out of the house when they're 22. I'm not sure about anything longer.. For some reason people expect you to have your own house, pay your own mortgage, have a dog and a wife and have a baby on the way right when you step out of high school. :blink:

20 here, still live with parents. They dont have a problem with it (so they say) and neither do i.
Worked since i left school about 4 years ago. Not bad pay + i do/did alot of weekends/overtime. I dont really spend much money, other than necessities.

I could move out easy, but atm im building up a hefty sum of money in the bank.

So much so, that ive been considering getting a mortage for a house/flat and then renting it out, which would cover the mortgage and earn me a bit.
I have enough in the bank and coming in that id be able to afford to do this twice or maybe 3 times and still have enough left for daily life.

Just need to look into it some more, But if i moved out from 18-20, I doubt i would even consider doing this, or even be able to afford it due to large increase in spending for my own living.

So, my parents are quite happy for me to stay at home. And once i do need/want to move out,ill be more than able to.
Which they would prefer, rather than me move out at 18 and struggle along. Like my sister did, who ended back up at home after a few months. :shrug:

As for anyone else having problems with me living at home :shrug:

I live with my parents at the moment (although I'm only 19 so I don't think many people my age can afford to move out, people at uni excluded). I'd happily move out if I could afford it, but I don't earn enough. Anyone who has a problem with it clearly hasn't been in this situation :shrug:

Yeah I run into it here sometimes. But it's cheaper than living on my own and I care more about buying treats for myself then having all my paycheck go towards rent and having nothing left over afterwards. Granted, I want to move out sometimes but the real reason I'm staying is because my mom lives with me. I'm 24, so I'm over the median age where it's considered normal haha.

I know plenty of people (including myself) that have bounced back and forth between living on their own and living with their parents. Its really common in expensive parts of California (basically anywhere along the coast where most people live) - rents and home prices are so high. Very little stigma here as a result (and thank goodness for a safety net).

Finnish state pretty much pays my entire appartment bill. And no, I'm not living in metal institution or jail.

I don't see anything wrong with it if you're under 25 or so. Even if you're older, and your parents are sick, it's alright to stick around if they have to be taken care of. I know I'm not moving out for at least the next two years. Maybe for post-grad I'll have a dorm if I get accepted somewhere abroad, but pursuing the medical track means I'll be studying and not really earning for quite a few more years.

Alot of my friends live with their parents, its just a sign of the times round here. There aren't any jobs where'd you'd make enough money to live on your own, so people that have moved out of there house are living with 3 other people anyways. It's a mess really, but people don't ridicule people about it here.

21 here and I live and I live with the parents. It's quite a large house though so it's not like everyone is right on top of each other and the bills are split between us. My parents are getting old (mid to late 50's) and are wanting to move back to Arizona to retire in the next couple of years, so I just can't justify moving to a brand new place (not that I could even afford it) when right now I practically have a house to myself, only have to pay ~1/3-~1/2 of the bills and the place will be mine in a few years.

That said, I give serious props to anyone living on their own fresh out of high school and doing well. I tried that [censored] myself and it just didn't work out with me getting 20 -30 hours a week for minimum wage (fast food).

I know plenty of friends that are around 20 something who live with their parents.

Some move in with roomies, I moved out of my parents and into my Grandma's which isn't much of a step really.

But really i see nothing wrong as long as your helping to pay the bills, have a job, help around the house, or trying to better yourself through school.

As long as your not some freeloader I see no problem.

Well, if I wasn't with my parent's I'd be on a the social housing waiting list, so it's your call, taxpayers!

I'd love to move out, but I need a stable job to support myself.

I live with my parents, but mostly because I go to school locally. There's no reason to pay the extra expenses for a dorm when I can commute to uni in about an hour.

I think it's mostly an American thing, right?

I'm 20 and I have no plans whatsoever to leave the house. There is no stigma at all. I'll leave when I have enough money to sustain myself comfortably, probably late 20s. It's not like I depend on my mother 100%, I can cook etc. I just don't know how to use the washing machine.

Nothing wrong with living w/the parents for a while, especially as a student, and especially these days where student loans for university can be pretty extreme and/or down payments for a house are high. Saving when/where you can if you have the opportunity, so you can meet goals earlier/get a head start in that regard....I see that as smart.

Of course, you have to have parents that don't mind and a good relationship with said parents. Mine wanted too much rent for me to want to put up with living under their roof & their stringent rules any longer than I had to so I was outta there at 17, heh.

The stigma, as others have mentioned, comes from a years-past (and sometimes media/entertainment fueled) perception that living w/parents past a certain age = lazy, unmotivated/no goals, childish apathy, or whatever. Obviously a perception that doesn't generally apply now and hasn't for a long time.

My dad can't stand the thought of me sticking around after graduation. Too bad, he stayed with his parents until he married at 26!

I move back in with my parents at christmas and summer holdiays. And in this economic climate, I'll probably end up moving back in with them after graduation, unless I should happen to get a job and new apartment straight away, which is unlikely.

I see no problem with it unless you don't intend to move on from that. You can't bum off other people forever, unless of course, they let you.

I'm not sure how people can live with their parents. I'd probably go crazy.

Yup was living with my parent when I was attending the local CC near me to save money. Didn't exactly mooch off of her and paid the rent by helping to keep the place clean, cooking dinner, etc... doing basic upkeep. Sadly i'm still living with her until I can get a job and move out on my own. Just glad she's kind as some would probably kick my sorry butt out on the street.

Is there anything wrong with living with your parent(s) until you are capable of living on your own? No. That is the whole point of parenting, protecting your children until they are able to live on their own.

Is there anything wrong with a perfectly able child lingering at the parent(s) house simply because they don't want to get a job or assume advlt responsibilities? Yes. Those children should be forced out onto the street if necessary or else they will continue to take advantage of the people who spent 18+ years caring for them.

I've told my parents that I will leave and seek my own home if they wish not to support me any more. They said that I can live with them as long as I need to. That's settled then for me.