Most probably no longer interested. Ask him straight up. Say that you're not afraid of being hurt, and if you do get hurt, it's by your own free will and you understood the risk beforehand. If however he insists on breaking it off, don't whine for him to come back. That'll just make you look weak.

It does sound like a botched excuse to leave you. If he starts a pattern of mentioning the worry more and more, start preparing yourself..

How long yall been dating? That's the key I think. And if communication is good, talking out needs to happen. Its the only reason my ex left me, she didn't talk [censored] out and just exploded in one day and left >_>. Break ups should be a last resort.

Almost six months, same as my past two relationships. :sadvaultboy:

[Insert mandatory JAHO comment here.]

Whatever will happen, will happen. Just enjoy your time now instead of worrying about what might be.

Relationships are a waste of time and effort. Don't bother.

Heh I can relate..(well 6 is the longest for me >>)

Interest has waned I guess.

"open relationship" O_o, I guess that means its OK to mess around? I never understood that phrase.

Uhm if he's worried about messing around, his worries about his ex and hurting you clearly are not the concern at all >>. I take that as almost a hint that he's losing interest in you and want someone else. Because if you want to be with someone, and are happy with them, you ARENT going to think about messing around, nor will you even fear it.

Pardon me if I sound bitter, but he's [censored]ting you. >_>

Tell you what: (learning from my own mistake) Best thing for you to do is let it all play out and see where it goes. Don't push the issue on him.

Well... It's official... He broke up with me.

I am sorry to hear that. Although admittedly I'm not surprised, from your original post it sounded like the relationship was on its last legs.

Women! *throws hands in air and stomps off*

...wait what? Oh...okay.

Men! *throws hands in air and stomps off*

Compromise: Humans! *throws hands in air and stomps off*

So sorry to hear this

If he was being honest with you about worrying that he'll hurt you, then I've been there. I was with my ex for 3yrs, and we both did a lot of emotional damage to each other. In the last 2yrs, I've seen 4 girls on and off. I get really close to them, but then I get terrified that I'll hurt them, so one day I randomly stop talking to them...it's like I switch off, but it's for their own good (I don't even realise I'm doing it!). If he was feeling like that, then he was right to talk to you about it.

Of course, that's moot now I guess...all I can say is, nobody will be able to say/do anything to make you feel better about this...especially if you were really into him. It's a grieving process, so treat it as such.

If you were looking for a silver lining, then I guess it's better that he's realised now than a few years down the line, when you have more ties.

Just think...there are hundred's of thousands of potential partners out there in the world...it's a lot! You've just narrowed it down by one more :hugs:

:sadvaultboy: I'm sorry.

well i hope we can cheer you up once bone is back

If/when. :rolleyes:

Are you talking about bonemonster? Otherwise... :hubbahubba:

Edit- Nevermind...

I'd tell him to stop living in the past and appreciate what he's got. But if you get the feeling that he's covering up for something then tell him to stop the bull****ing and tell you the truth, he owes you that much.

If the problem is a lack of trust then guarantee him that you can be trusted.

If you've convinced him to stay with you, then he wasn't committed to what he was saying/planning.
I had a similar situation with my now ex girlfriend, we had the same talk and managed to keep the relationship ongoing for another 2 years. We basically agreed it was a small pothole in the relationship and once it was spoke about it was never respoke about, every panned out better that way, there was a little less time together, 4 days of the week instead of 7, and we'd go out to alot more events, cinema/restruants/shopping.
Would be best you moved on with the relationship instead of dwelling on what was said, as that might damage it more with paranoia ect.

Well it's probably for the better. He sounded like he was trying to cop out without hurting you in the first place. Don't worry man, you'll find someone you can be with eventually it just takes some time sometimes. In the mean time, you can play Skyrim or something else of that nature.

I'm sorry things didnt work out pal. But maybe you'll find someone else who will make you feel complete in the near future! If not, well, you always have all of us bitter cranky bastards loving forum goers to cheer you up!

I'm sorry to hear that. Feel free to drop me a line if you need an ear(or of course just post here). I personally know what that hell is when breaking up with someone you surely thought was gonna last.

I should have included it in my other post but...

Just stay clear of guys who are of his mentality. The "I dont wont to hurt you/anyone" thing. It seems these are the types that don't last, I consider it a big red flag. Same for girls, since I've been with a few just like that.. They start conjuring up things in their heads and use their past against current relationships they are in. And they always hang on to a past lover they've hurt or was hurt by. I don't know all the details and don't know you that well, but I have no doubt that you were better for him than he thinks. And most likely probably went screaming back to his other ex(lack of better phrase) to restart that emotional drama cycle of his..then hooks up with another girl and breaks off with her in the same manner.

EDIT

Well, everything I wrote previously was just confirmed by your, 'well, he broke up with me..' comment. Sorry.

He's probably seeing someone else.