For those of you that have a significant other that is also a gamer, does having a shared interests in video games help your relationship in any way?

I don't think I follow.

However, I can say that my girlfriend does play games. She is not considered a "gamer" by any means but she does play games such as Fallout and GTA 4 and RDR. With that being said, she plays them mainly because I do. She grew up playing games and I, kind of, reintroduced her to games. We don't play many games together, but she likes to play CoD: BO with me. We don't play online, we just put in a bunch of sims and try to rack up killstreaks. So does gaming help my relationship? Not really. It's just something we can, but don't always, do together.

Not really. My girlfriend plays games like spyro and tekken... and... that's it haha. I would think it would be kind of annoying. I like having things in common, but I am glad that I have my own thing that I enjoy playing. I like to share, but not everything...

I suppose it helps a little, gives us something to do on days were to lazy to go out.

Shes no gamer by any means, but we've managed to beat Donkey Kong Returns and Super Mario Brothers for the Wii co-operatively, and we've been known to sit down in front of our laptops and play Terraria all night.

I'm pretty sure I could get her in to WoW with me but I'd never do that to her. :laugh:

My last girlfriend played games like Bejeweled and Fragger and stuff. I think the closest she got to actual gaming was her brief stint in Sims during which she got her Sim family robbed, their child taken away by child services and finally burnt their house down. :shrug:

No, it didn't really make a difference.

The guy I was seeing before my boyfriend got me into WoW and it was actually quite bad for the relationship - instead of going out and actually doing stuff, we spent too many evenings hunched over the laptops in game...

The guy I'm with now totally understands my need to game but because he's not into it himself I do generally have someone to tell me I've played too much and to get outside for a walk AWAY from the zombies.

I never thought about this. I suppose if you're with someone for a number of years that person would most probably at least try out gaming.

My fiancée doesn't game, but she doesn't mind my doing it either. I think so long as both are at least tolerant of each other's hobbies, there's no problem. I suppose being both interested in games makes for one extra conversation topic, but it's hardly a requisite.

I dated a guy over the summer who was into CoD and stuff, but that was it. I gave him FO3 to try out, but he lasted all of an hour he says before he gave up. I asked what he thought of Malcolm McDowell and the eyebot but he didn't know what I meant, because "it moved, so I shot it." :/
If anything, it turned me off him a little bit.

I think most to all people born in one of the betterer off countries born around 86-87 and onwards are automatically gamers. This may not even be limited to well off contries.. wait I'm sure it isn't limited to.

My girlfriend doesn't game too much, bt she is a gamer. She is mostly in to mobile gaming. she can recognize iconic games and game characters, she has alway picked up a controller to a new game with confidence, not scared about messing up and trying gto learn. She does have a Xbox 360, though her bro plays it more. We dont'play together too much, if were together and video games are being gplayed were either watchingbecause I want to or its cuz I'm playing.

I convinced my ex to buy a Xbox to play L4D with me ?
Sometimes my girlfriends play games, not CoD or anything shooter unless I convince them and teach them how to do stuff for ages, by the time we finsih going over stuff and its sunk in its bedtime.
Easiest games I've managed to play with them is colourful games like, Peggle, Raskulls, Plant v Zombies and Geometery Wars2. These games are fun for both of us since they aren't dull or boring and give us a constant laughs, good competition and generally lighten the mood

No offense but this just made me laugh way harder than it should have :laugh:

Same here... heh.

Glad he's an ex hon. We've got to have some criteria.

You should've dumped him immediately after that.

Oh, absolutely:

1. It gives us plenty to talk about. We've had many a polite dinner table conversation about the pros and cons of GTA IV, etc.
2. It's a shared activity. Sometimes if I'm too tired to play I can just amuse myself by watching him play, and then when I play the game myself I've already seen how he's solved that bit (and vice versa).
3. We share the cost of games.
4. We share the cost of magazine subscriptions.
5. If he sends me into GAME for a copy of Rogue Trooper, he knows I'm not going to come back with Rogue Warrior by mistake. It kinda helps that we each know what the other is talking about.
6. We share trade-in points to pool together for new purchases.
7. We can surprise each other with a bargain-bin stocking filler and it will actually be something the other one will enjoy.
8. If someone buys one of us a game we don't like as a gift then the other one might really enjoy it and it's therefore not wasted.
9. We both really get why pretending to be an elf and running around shooting stuff with a bow is really cool.
10. We know when an argument has reached a Checkpoint, which stops us having repetitive arguments. We’ve made too much progress to start the whole thing from scratch, so you just have to put up with whatever dialogue choices you’ve made to that point and keep moving forward. Trying to revisit a previous argument is as futile as trying to go back to the previous level, only to find that the door is barred behind you.

On the minus side, you do have to learn the Doorway Dance. This is when you’re trying to get into a room when someone’s on the console, and you have to sort of hover and work out when the cutscene has kicked in and it’s safe to walk in front of the TV. You also develop a non-verbal language based around nods and head-tilts to communicate “you can run cross the room now”. A breakdown in this etiquette results in the death of the player character, swiftly followed by a blazing row in the non-gaming world.

Agreed!

I'm kind of surprised so many people are dating non-gamers or have had negative influences from gaming in their relationship.

My last relationship was really successful because of gaming. We both really loved video games and we'd play together frequently, whether it was co-op, taking turns on a single-player game, or making separate characters on games like Dragon Age and watching each other play. We didn't have the same exact taste in video games, though. She played a lot of different types of games growing up, like puzzle games and J-RPGs, whereas I played things like Mega Man and Castlevania which required a little more "skill" to complete.

I can't really imagine a relationship where my significant other is not into video games. I don't think it would be very successful.

I shudder to think what happened in vault 101...

I knew I liked you for some reason. I thought it was the avatar, but now I know.

I've never been in a proper relationship and I don't know any girls that I would actually class as gamers (CoD does not count. Sims does not count. Fifa does not count) so I can't say whether it increases appeal. As long as she didn't give me grief over my hobby, though, I don't think I'd mind.

For me, I've never dated a woman that is into video games. In fact, I've never met a woman that plays video games. Dating a non-gamer hasn't had a negative impact on the relationship. With that being said, I would be nice to be in a relationship with a woman who is a gamer and is into the same type of games.

I’ve wonder which is easier, a single female gamer wanting to meet a single male gamer or vice versa?

Oh, good grief - you're going to wind up with a pretty short list! I can see it now: someone who plays CoD is not a gamer (regardless of whether their all-time favourite game is Daggerfall). Someone who plays The Sims is not a gamer, even if they also love Morrowind. Fifa doesn't count because it's sports, but Bethesda started as a sports games company. So we end up with the only "real" games are RPGs and strategy games - but then we get into semantics and dismiss anything that isn't a "real" RPG? Is Brutal Legend half a game because it has RTS elements?

A gamer is someone who regularly plays games. Someone who taps away at Angry Birds every day on their iphone is as much of a gamer as you and me. Unless I don't count because - hour for hour - the game I play most is Bejeweled ...

I've had some relationships where the guy was a gamer, some not. One guy I wasn't with very long was always playing shooty games, and then he'd be acting like an ass to me afterwards because he couldn't switch out of gaming mode. That was a terrible relationship all round anyway so I would say games were only a small part of that.

This is probably going to bite me later, posting this on a public forum, but the guy I 'fancy' right now likes gaming, all sorts, not just shooty games, and we've had some really fun afternoons playing together. I think a lot of that is shared interest. I like the same games as him, amongst other forms of media (films, books etc.)

inB4 JAHO

And I'll happily oblige.



Just ask him out.