My family is insanely old fashioned, that being said they absolutely hate the idea that my best friend is a girl. I tried to have her come over and then my family took it the entirely wrong way. They automatically think that just because I'm a boy and she's a girl that we are going to have six or something I honestly don't know exactly what they think but I'm pretty sure that's one of their conclusions. So my main question is that if you are a parent (or not) would you allow your kid to have a member of the opposite six over?

Of course I would. Maybe you should go eat some meat and watch boxing matches and work on cars though, I'm sure you'll attract some male friends that are some pretty cool guys.

For a sleep over? No. For a visit? Yes.

Well according to the OPs profile, he is 23.....if this is the case......something is a bit wrong there IMO.
Edit- OP changed it.....post irrelevant now.

Not having any children, I honestly have no idea how I'd approach anything 'parental'.

What do you mean by having your girlfriend over? If you're just hanging out with her in a family room watching movies or whatever, then I can't see a problem, and I think your parents are being pretty odd about it. But if by 'over' you mean in your bedroom with the door locked and loud music playing, then I can see their point somewhat.

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You're right - the OP is the same age as me. I'm lucky that my parents have been fairly liberal since I was 18, but I guess as long as you live under their roof, you're subject to their rules. While I don't agree with their principals personally, you're pretty much stuck with their rules until you get a place of your own.

Um, wow, was thinking teens. :unsure:

maybe you should replace "automatically think" with "are seriously hoping" ?

I dunno..

My "girlfriends" spend the night all the time, and at first my parents and their parents were like NO WAY, but now it's totally cool. Your parents will come around if you just make it clear that your are NOT dating this girl.

Sure.

At the same time?




My avatar would like to know.

I lol'd.

My three remaining friends are all girls, and they all three sleep over on a regular basis. Usually in a different room so we don't "have six accidentally" or whatever my parents are afraid of.

yep.

otherwise you kids'll just go to the park and get bitten by fire ants in sensitive areas... this way I know you're safe and clean.

Sounds like experience talking, there. :whistling: Just saying.

I have to say, I imagined that and laughed heartily.

I brought over girls who were friends at home. Even if they were girlfriends my mum wouldn't say anything (well now she obviously won't, but even when I was younger).

Of course you did, you love my avatar.

And he loves you. :hubbahubba:




You on the beer again Andy?




Back on topic - I think we need some clarification from the OP. Mainly on what he means by 'having a girl over'. At 23 that could mean anything from her being over for lunch with the famiily to watching DVDs in his room at 3am.

EDIT: No, I did not actually mean watching DVDs.

You are correct - first thing I checked when I saw the thread - and thought the same thing.

If my kids were 23, they'd be out of the house

If my kids are still in my house however, I would allow the girlfriend/boyfriend to come over, but for a short time. I would prefer that they leave on a date.

This actually happened to me when I was younger..

Glad to know I'm not alone. :mellow:

Are you other posters getting confused? This girl he's talking about, he is only friends with her. They're not dating. By him wanting to bring her over, that means he wants to hang out like you would do with your friends. You guys seem to be taking the same mindset as his parents.

Well in all fairness, 'she's just a friend' and 'we're just going to hang out' were excuses I used frequently when I was younger. So I can somewhat see the point of the OP's parents...

I are his parents, though.



My daughter is a bit young to be having boys over. I am sure there will come a day when she asks to hav a boy over to study.. or listen to music,,,,, or whatever it is teenagers do in the future. The Door will stay open, It's a fine line.. But you gotta trust your kids and hopefully you've taught well enough to make good choices.

Who am I kidding? i was a boy once and will have a very difficult time trusting a small hormone machine around my daughter.

Oh wow, until now I never realized that my age on here was 23... hahahahaha well thanks for bringing that to my attention hahahahahahahahaahahha I feel like a [censored] but to the guy who posted above, its not an excuse we really are just friends.

That may be the case, but it's unlikely your parents will see it like that unfortunately.