I'm frustrated that you can't convince some jarls to turn sides. I really like Balgruuf and Igrod.
Agreed. For Balgruuf especially, I think his inevitable allegiance should be determined based on either the side you choose during "Unbound", or the side of the war you have selected, especially as this is the introductory city and hold.
um yea i support the empire cuz the stormcloaks are racist to the dunmer khajit and argonians and ulfric is just power hungry. and dont forget the empire is the only thing for skyrimz survival
Read some of the other arguments on this thread. Most of the Stormcloaks do not make any racist comments, and most that do, do so regarding the ELVES who are oppressing them. This is not different than how many nations act during war. Americans had a distrust of the Japanese, and put many into glorified concentration camps during WW2. Germans stereotyped the Jews heavily during the war to convince their people to oppress them. "Filthy American Pigs", "[censored]ing Gooks", "Sand-N***ers", "Towel-Heads", etc.. Things like these are said about the opposition to boost morale, and cement the idea that "Our Team" is the right team to be on.
Back to Tamriel and Skyrim though:
Many of the Dunmer are refugees. There are Dunmer living in various places in Skyrim, living successfully, and accepted by their communities. They had to work hard for this, and rightfully so, as they are outsiders that have warred with the Nords before.
Many of the Argonians openly admit to being thieves and stealing from the docks/boats. They are also being kept away from their current war-time enemies, the Dunmer. Windhelm also has no real room to keep all these Dunmer and Argonian refugees.
The Khajiit are BLATANT thieves and mischief makers for the most part. While many of them are also good natured, it does not change the fact that others are rightfully suspicious of them. I have seen this same sentiment in both Morrowind AND Oblivion towards them. On top of this, they allied themselves with the Thalmor, the Stormcloaks most hated enemy. Additionally, the one character who offers full support to the Khajiit, Ysolda?
Spoiler She becomes a Skooma smuggler. Just search either the forums or google for it. How's that for the corruptive influence of the Khajiit? Nothing against them personally, but even if I were one, I'd keep my eyes on their paws, to ensure they're staying out of my pockets.
Skyrim has been self sufficient before, is home to proud, never surrendering people (including many of the NON-nords that live here, it's more of a Skyrim way of life than Nord way of life), and is more than capable of defending it's lands (which have natural defensive advantages, such as mountain passes, and only treacherous icy waters to access by boats). Also, Hammerfell defended their lands from the Thalmor successfully (alone), why not Skyrim?