Well I guess im in the minority when I do the civil war quest before getting the Hjerm house. I get that house in 5 minutes when I do the civil war both stormcloaks and imperials. Ive gotten it to work once prior to doing civil war and it took me two hours to do it properly with the exact same bugs as my 5 minute method: bugged amulet in inventory and my housecarl doesnt like to show up when I become thane. Other then those two things it goes smoothly.
Good thing to know about the forsworn quest I may try it out. Ive had more issues when delaying that one, and I normally delay it as long as I can. If you do the quest correctly though I normally don't have any bounty issues after its completed.
I really hope to not get nailed to the cross in this thread for asking so many detailed questions, when I could pour over the wiki pages and google.
I am just trying to hit the bullseye, here, by asking my specific questions, which are sometimes several subquestions in one, and get solid answers, tailored to my information need.
I don't know about you all, but if it were ME who has been the victim of more error than none in a tedious trial and error process, ending up with bugged quests, then I would want to impart the knowledge I've accrued to other people, namely, me so that they will not have the same negative experiences.
I have gotten visciously attacked in this thread by SourPatchRash, and I want everyone reading this to understand my sincere premeditated motives for asking these questions before attacking me, likewise.