The degrading things people do to Lydia... The Nexus is a scary place to navigate.

I've tried to give my various characters' wives gifts, but I can only sell them things.

Muiri: rare alchemy ingredients and recipes, fine clothes, gold jewelry and a better dagger.

Aela: weapons and armor.

Ysolda: Khajiit wares, better clothes, trips with the Caravans and sleeping tree sap.

Nexus? What's that?

And what's so degrading about changing Lydia's clothing. Who wants a wife that's always wearing steel armor and carrying around a shield? I just made her look a little more pleasing to the eye. After all, she is my girl. And she doesn't seem to mind.

Nexus= modding site

It's degrading because she's a warrior, not a stripper.

I'm on PS3. No modding. I just upgraded the Forsworn gear until it was stronger than her default steel armor.

And every Forsworn woman in the game where's the same outfit. Are they strippers too?

And she's not a warrior anymore in my game. She's my companion.

No different than wearing a bikini.

And besides, she equipped it herself! I only gave it to her. lol

I chalk the short 'courtships' up to mainly time compression that is common to games. Seondarily, in ancient times many marriages were arranged and entered into out of protection and stability. Marriages based on romantic attractions and affection were the stuff of songs, poems, and stories in ancient/medieval times. So a powerful Dragonborn would be attractive based on the quailties that were important in that era.

It would be cool if the marriages were a little more Fable-like, but we'll have to take what Bethesda gives us. I do hope that Bethesda gives us the opportunity to dress our wives in something a little more sixy than miner's garb (Syljga).

Edit:
That's sixist! She can be both.

I married Sylgja, and my only regret is that she is not also a follower. Presumably if you have a follower as a spouse, you could ask them to follow you out of the house as though you were going on an adventure, but instead take them out to eat and jewlery shop or just go for a nice stroll in the countryside. I would even go so far as to leave her unarmed so I'd have to do the rescuing.

Maybe I'll try to console command her into a follower-eligible group?

Yeah, that was kinda' cute in Fable: you can go on dates.

Dude. constructive critisism. not bashing. Calm down, its a game. Realism will never be spot on, I have a feeling the marriage system will be expanded on.

You sir are the roflz.

as to Vex being interested in girlz...

hmm ... my girl is too.

She can't wait to marry Lydia.

(playing on XBox.)

Married Camilla, though her dialogue "thank you for bringing the claw back" is starting to get me thinking about divorce...

Yes, much more realistic would be if you married somebody you had never met, because your political / clan superior told you to.

if you do something for the character you will usually continue to hear that dialogue when married.

with iona you have the my thane .... hello my love....my thane again.

marry Aela....no such issues.

How do you do any of those in the game?

Taking Ysolda on picnics?

What?

She doesn't even have dialouge for such a thing.

I really don't understand.

I find it hard to incorporate any roleplay elements into a marriage. Mostly 'cause the woman I married hardly seems to acknowledge me as her spouse half the time. I walk in with sweet words of love on my lips - "What are you doing in here!?" I try to daintily slip the gold ruby necklace I purchased especially for her into her pocket as she sleeps - "Get your hands out of there!" Sigh. Is this what marriage does to a woman?

I'm always finding out another reason I'm glad I married ysolde.

She is in my sweet pad, in markarth. I invested in her business (go figure, she IS my "girl likes girl" wife.) I also took the perk for an extra 1000 on each vendor (misleading though,
since it doesn't cover "apple cart" vendors.) AND she'll buy the tree sap I get when that refreshes (though, after completing the thieves guild thing I get so many flawless gems
out the wazoo that more stuff to sell is moot.)

I like vendors like her, who also have gems with souls a lot. Since I've been using them all to mostly launder gems from chests, I buy all the gems with souls and
use those for my enchanting/weapon recharging. That way they have even more gold at one time for me to sell gems to them with.


It would be nice to have the one that will equip gear that is better than her own, but Ysolde has other benefits. It is silly for her to be in my home, in her rags, with
riches all around her (buckets/baskets of gold ingots, gold ore, gems etc.)

not fair at all when she was trying to kill you first. Shes nothing more than a stinking bandit anyways.

Sounds like a real marriage to me - can't get more RP than that.

See, I married Jordis the Sword-Maiden. On our wedding day, I began teabagging the floor, because I was so happy, and she joined me. I knew from that point on that she's the only one for me. So I gave her my old set of daedric armor...which she didn't wear around the house. So I stole her armor. Now she walks around the house naked. Oh, I also gave her a GIANT CLUB. She was the most satisfied being on the planet. And instead of taking her out on picnics and that wimpy stuff, we would go out clubbing. Dragons, giants, children, Jarls...none were safe.

Uh I believe all ya'll are talking crap.... I've got over 600 hrs on this game and havn't been able to interact with NPCs like some folks are talking about

Me neither.

I initially bought Breezehome without the alchemy lab, but when my main character married Muiri he bought it as a "wedding gift" and while she uses it a fair bit, she hasn't exactly made a tonne of super-amazing potions/poisons, even when I bring her rare alchemical ingredients. :\

I think they are either using mods or just pretending by getting a follower-wife to go with them to a pretty area and hang out (ie not fight) or go to a jewelry merchant, buy jewelry and reverse pickpocket the items into their wive's inventory.

To all people who think you can actually do the things people claim you can do with spouses:



It's called a joke. Learn to know when a joke is made.