It sounds more like it's not saying that not wanting one is a mental illness, but not getting one and, as a result, trying to convince yourself you don't want one is the illness. Or am I reading it wrong? It sounds like it's the lying to yourself about the reason for being alone that's causing problems...

depending on how long the relationship has been going on, i find that perfectly understandable. if you are in love, you WANT to be with your partner. what i can't stand though, are those who use a lot of money to buy crap to their partners and smother them with affection, suddenly act different and always back their partner up just to show them they support them. makes me vomit, i can't trust people like that. we have a good expression for that in norway, but i don't recall a similar term in english.
i hate listening to desperate people telling me that, OH, IF I GET A GIRLFRIEND I WILL DO EVERYTHING I CAN TO MAKE HER HAPPY AND CONFIDENT AND I WILL TELL HER I LOVE HER ALL THE TIME, [censored] that, it makes me sick even to imagine being in a relationship like that

Either way it is a **** article and should be ignored. I have had too many girlfriends it has given ME a mental illness., they are nothing but trouble from my experience, no offense.

Well since i'm not your girlfriend I won't bother taking offence. But if you're constantly getting together with girls that are causing you problems, the issue is either with the fact you keep picking the same type of girl, or it's your issue. There are plenty relationships out there that people manage to be happy in...

Yeah I know that, that is why I said from my experience. And yes I do tend to go for the wrong types of girl, but there is just so many "wrong types". of course I am not perfect myself (but close ) but some girls I just wish I simply never met. But hey in the history of humans men have treated women alot worse. only fair they get payback ha
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So...I can get disability checks for that, right?

I can't reach the link but... there are asixual people. I wish I was asixual. It would make life easier. If that would mean I'm nuts -- small price to pay!

It's Kotaku. I wouldn't care.

I dont really pay attention, but im guessing that means they are taken about as seriously as IGN ?

Sad thing is there is alot of people that actually take IGN and Kotaku seiously.

The original source is actually Yahoo! Japan, the topic itself having nothing to do with Kotaku.

Geez, what's with the Kotaku hate?

Gawker Media tends to blow things way out of proportion if they aren't being one-sided about something.

As LEGOGOD said, Gawker Media just blows stuff waaay out of proportion. Without reading the actual original source and seeing what it really says, I wouldn't trust Gawker's reporting on much of anything to be accurate and [mostly] unbiased. They prefer sensationalist headlines and shoddy reporting to get clicks.

I see. Sensationalist headlines I've seen, though I can't really say I've had too many problems with the articles themselves (aside from some of Brian Ashcraft's otaku bait). That's just Kotaku though, I don't use any of Gawker's other sites (avoiding Gizmodo like the plague on account of how bad its editors treat the community).

Oh well, it's mostly the community that keeps me there anyway.

It's like a present filled with extra free time and money that never stops giving.

I am perfectly content with not having a girlfriend and having more time to myself. If that gives me a mental illness, so be it.

I dunno this article seems pretty shady, there's a lot of complicating factors. For me I'd like a girlfriend, but the girls I've gone out on dates with after I broke up with my ex didn't cut it. I'm also really busy with school and work, so I just can't really see it working out.

The Dark Knight makes good points, a relationship needs balance, ive had male friends with girlfriends female friends with boyfriends and all the other way around, and had them run when they hear the whistle, mostly because none of them have the guts to say im having a night out with friends tonight or im going to see a movie, because alot are paranoid they will lose them, or that they will see someone else unless their with them, when they call. I have married friends who do separate things, and one who doesnt, and the one who doesnt is stressed, and the one who does isnt.

If i want to be with someone ill explain that to my friends, but on the other side of the coin id explain the same to my partner. Ive a had friends get into long term relationship and never see their friends, but only their partners friends, and one that have only seen acouple of their friends, then broke up with their partner, and returned to their friends crying about the lose of their relationship and then wonder why nobody cares, because they know they'll just do the same thing again, they only want friends so they can cry on your shoulder when things go wrong, but dont care while their in a relationship that their happy with.

Honestly if your happy with living your life without a girlfriend or even getting into a relationship, it doesnt make you mentally unstable, its a personal choice, you could have a 100 girlfriends in a year and never have a stable relationship i know a few people that have done that and acouple that still are, its their lifestyle choice, its not because they have a psychological problem, its just the way they want to live.

Brilliantly put. I have similar friends and we all know the sort. The ones that only want you there when they're single.

There is so much I can say to this but my mind is exhausted. To be completely honest with you though, the way you live is perfectly fine, and relationships..are more trouble than they are worth.

I wish I could be like you.

Mentally Ill, no. Japan's birth rate is in the tubes, so that's probably the reason for that article.

I think for me it's the time/energy factor mentioned. It's not that I'm opposed to the idea of being in a relationship, I just can't be bothered.

Tbh I love having a girlfriend, but it isn't for everybody. Some people just don't have time, some people need to get over themselves first, and some people just don't have the drive to go and get one. Which is fine. Those who don't have one shouldn't worry about getting one. And besides with gas prices sky rocketing right now there isn't much extra spending cash available. If the war in the straight of Hormuz actually happens it will go up even more. So don't worry about it and enjoy your life.

If I hadn't found my current gf, I'd probably be totally single. I'm really not interested in being anything more than JF and maybe FWB, with most women.

i would prefer a friend with benefits over a girlfriend. i like my own space. had more than enough girls in the past but not for a while. i say id like to get married one day but im really kidding myself