I'd like a girlfriend...

But, really, I like having one. Its the bond I like the most, I think. That is, in my experience, a girlfriend is like a friend you can always count on being available to hang out, whereas friends with girlfriends are often busy, *raises fist*

There are many times I think I might like a girlfriend, then I go and stay with my friend and his girlfriend and realise how much I don't want a high-maintenance, needy, self-absorbed person draining my time and energy.

I think it's obvious that not all girlfriends are high maintenance, needy, and/or self-absorbed.

The character on the hug pillow looks like Rin!

As for the article. People have different needs and motivations, if a majority find that mindset unacceptable then haters gonna hate.

I'm not getting regularly laid, walking round town buying giant dog beds.
Throwing myself on them in store.
Then when laden with shopping attempting to place giant dog bed on a strange elderly womans electric wheelchair. With her driving it and no clue as to my action.
So yes long time single = crazy.

I think the first user comment I noticed in the comments section has an interesting point:

"Well technically if you dont want to breed you might have a illness"

...although I must state that I don't actually think one is decidedly ill if they don't want children. But there are likely psychological factors that overpower the instinct to procreate/raise offspring (money worries, don't think one would be a good parent, career focus, overpopulation, etc).

But the article makes the researcher sound like he's focused on emotional self-denial. I think it is possible for some people to have emotional issues that turn self-denial/rejection/pain into "I don't want a relationship" but the article makes it sound like a blanket statement - don't want/don't seek a relationship = you're sick - which is silly.

If you don't want a committed relationship, but do want/seek out the six, what would this researcher call that? I'd call that falling in line with procreation instinct - eg, nothing wrong with it/not an illness. A relationship itself is not necessary for pro-creation...but it can/does facilitate success of survival of any children & has long become the social "norm", hence those who don't seek it are "not normal."

Whatever. Silly headline grabbing article, anyway, nothing more.

I'd say it's a load of BS. Not every guy in world can get a girlfriend, sometimes the fates play a crule game of cards and deal you a bad hand and keep right on doing it.

I don't want a girlfriend, I just want to have fun. If you're the type of guy who doesn't even talk to girls, then you likely have some problems, but definitely not an illness. You're more like the lion waiting to meet the wizard.

As with anything... just give it time.

Looks more like http://i.imgur.com/xoXmk.jpg to me...

ohgodwhatswrongwithme

If that's the case can I say "I don't want my girlfriend, our relationship just happened?"

Thats a smart move, that gives him a reason not to be sad, when he cant be hugged back.

But really, having a gf is quite an experience, it's even better if, like in my case, she lives in with you.

I guess our mental process is more comparable to:

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Pretty picture!

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Would be interesting to see how they approach the concept that's being presented from a female perspective and all the societal baggage and expectation that gets dumped on them.

So in other words...it's kinda' like being the whipper in a relationship, and not the whipped!

Infantile love follows the principle: 'I love because I am loved.' Mature love follows the principle: I am loved because I love.' Immature love says: 'I love you because I need you.' Mature love says: 'I need you because I love you.' -- Erich Fromm

I agree with that interpretation. He's not saying that aromantic asixuals need to be 'fixed', or that people who are content with embracing for a bit are ill, he's saying that reacting to frustration and difficulty by giving up and fall into self-deception isn't dealing with it and isn't healthy. So, yeah, he does have a point.

..I know the pain of being severed from that mature love.

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But I think it might be because of Japan's declining birth rate as mentioned in earlier posts.

Oh, and on the topic of their very low birthrate: they also have widespread racism (to some degree, and mainly in the older generations I think). By racism I mean believing -consciously or not not- anyone who's not Japanese is inferior. So that's another force driving the desire maintain the population of Japanese-by-ethnicity folks.

I love my girlfriend.


It treats me nicely at night, or anytime of the day!

It's also typing this post for me...

Do you see how this is funny ?

It is not that I do not want a girlfriend, but more that I know that high school is fake love. Statistics show that most people never, or hardly ever see anyone from high school again. Why waste the effort on a girlfriend when I can study and have fun, while getting better grades than EVERYONE i know?

Yeah people from HS I dint talk to anymore, even friends I have known since I was young, either in college or uni.
Got Fb to keep in touch with them, the got tired of the FB games, pointless posts "I just took a [censored]", "I drank too much last night lol", etc. Then people started spewing unfunny, out of context memes. So I deleted FB, so now I dont even see some of them at all.

Oh god I'm so glad I'm off Facebook. I was on there just before its third or fourth revamp, for about 2 months. It really went downhill, and fast.

Moooom! You just hate me 'cause I'm different! I'm gonna run away and join the circus move to Japan! They'll embrace me and my otaku ways!


Yes, that did occur to me, as did a couple of other possible angles for amusemant .