My regular is a gay bar despite me being straight. I recommend them honestly.

I hate you so much. I was JUST about to make a gay bar joke until I saw this. Then I threw my computer out the window. (I'm typing....WITH MY MIND!)

I'd just let her be, she's probably not worth the effort anyway.

If you feel like you look desperate or, worse, feel threatened, then obviously going to a bar alone is not going to be any way for you to unwind and enjoy a peaceful drink. If it makes you uncomfortable, don't do it. Maybe going to a restaurant would be a better choice.

If you're really concerned about sending the wrong message, try wearing this shirt: http://www.spiritex.net/gallerymia/store/products/Vagitarian-62-15.html

why are you asking when you know what answer you want? you're clever enough to figure this out yourself. people are different

If a chick is hot, I'm gonna want to talk to her, whether she's drinking at a bar, walking her dog at the park, standing in line at the theaters, or on duty as a police officer.

Why bar? not a Cafe instead? It's much more peaceful and nobody would bother to pick you up there.

She wants to get drunk.

Peacefully wasted eh?

There are plenty of other places to get drunk though. At work, for instance. Or the bus stop. Or your neighbor's toolshed at 3 a.m.

Is that just me?

No, I've been there too. I wasn't intoxicated though, I just needed to borrow some power tools.

I get what she's saying.
It is nice to go out and meet new people. It is pleasant to unwind after work with a brew. It is not nice to be accused of being antisocial because asshats, douchebags, and sleezebuckets don't comprehend " I want to be left alone" .
I want to be left alone doesn't mean I want to be devoid of human contact, it means I want the idiots who can't quite grasp the fact that I do not find pleasure in THEIR company appealing. I might find pleasure in someone elses, if the sleezebuckets, douchebags, and asshats would get it through their thick skulls to LEAVE ME ALONE because I don't find them attractive.




I found it helpful to tip the barkeep well, and let him know when people were annoying me and going way to far.

What if shes making out with her boyfriend while walking her dog at a bar while in a line for the restroom wearing her police officer uniform? Whatcha' gonna do then hotshot?

Holy Assassin did say "want"...
....not that he "would"....In any and all circumstances...I would assume.

I like your assumptions of what people are to be found in pubs (what's with the name calling), still it's nice to go there anyway and bribe the barkeep as a precaution because something may go wrong. If I distrusted a pub's clientele so much I had to bribe the barkeep, I would stay out of that particular place. I thought I was cynical myself about people, but this beats me. In all this time I've been frequenting pubs (since my adolescence often ones where biker clubs have made their second home), I've never seen anyone get annoyed to a point where it became unacceptable (sometimes drunks can be funny), except for once when a bunch of hippies entered and threatened us. I saw that it got resolved quickly.

Imagine walking up to female.

Doesn't happen.

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Anyway, I don't think I've seen women going to drink alone in a pub. Choose the right pub I guess.

For me, it depends on body language and facial expression. That's not to say that looks don't matter, but if you're smoking hot and look like a stone cold [censored], I'll leave you alone. But body language and facial expression is what I'd try to decipher first before doing anything.

Honestly, most peeps aren't going to care about why you're there in the first place. Your body language, attire, and other things might suggest to others how receptive you'd be to advances, but the reason for you being at the bar is irrelevant to everyone. THe people that will make advances will do so, without care for why you're there. The people who chat about the weather with you, will do so without care for why you're there, and the people who will ignore you, will do so without care for why you're there.

Also, honestly, what's so bad about being hit on at a bar? Sure, not everyone you meet is going to be interesting, worth talking to, or a decent human being, but you never know. Some of 'em might very well be worthwhile.

Also, this. As an extension, your clothes can also have an impact. Dressing in less flattering clothing, that lacks eye catching patterns or colors, will decrease the chances that you catch the attention of wandering eyes.

I wouldn't put it above him.

I have been to far too many bars, be they elegant or lowbrow, the universal constant was this. Drunk men, men who don't take no for an answer, men who think it is MY fault they cannot comprehend " leave me alone". A woman should be able to go out, have a drink, and not have to put up with [censored]. But, normally, she does, she will, and it will continue, because men don't see it as a problem. Far too many times I found someone across the bar interesting, but was cornered by a total annoying dingus who didn't get it.


To the OP
Hit the gay bars if you can't find a decent heterosixual one. In my experience, the music, atmosphere, and overall attitude were less stressful. I always tip the barkeep well, in the US, tips are figured into his income whether he recieves them or not.

I go to pubs, not clubs.

and died. (hardy har har)

Picking up dates at a bar seems like a bad idea, the thing you will have most in common is drinking, that doesn't seem like a good start to a healthy relationship.

My experiences are that no matter why you're at a bar, some jerk will come over and try to pick you up. And no matter how many times you drop it kindly that you have a boyfriend, he won't leave you alone. Or better, he'll become a complete a-hole and make a scene when you finally tell him to leave you alone. Or if you try the "I'm not into guys" routine, he gets even nastier.

Then there are times when you can go and have no issues what-so-ever. The truth is though that I'd say 99% of the single (and some not single) men may not be at the bar just to pick up a chick, but they aren't NOT looking - if you know what I mean. If you're alone at a bar, someone will assume you are there to be picked up. Depending on how attractive you are will determine how much of an issue you'll have with guys trying to take you home.

I'm not a pro bar-fly or anything, just frequent them a lot because my friends and I do karaoke. lol

Wonder why your alone, as I would be too. I'd debate walking over for someone to talk to and be general company. You'd probably think I'm a general [censored] brah and tell me to get lost. I'd insist I was just wondering if you want to chat over some brewskies, you'd think I'm a creep and probably leave.

That feel...

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