Girl walks into a bar. : Othor Games

» Sun May 13, 2012 3:40 am

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Remember to youtube it, we want to see.

» Sun May 13, 2012 2:21 pm

Remember to youtube it, we want to see.

First bit would be on Youtube. Rest is gonna be on Redtube.

» Sun May 13, 2012 4:31 am

Girl on her own in the bar? Yeah, guys will try to pick you up. That said, there are a few known turn-offs you could apply, such as repeatedly using your phone. Or wear a wedding ring, real or not. Or just chat amicably with some pleasant people.

» Sun May 13, 2012 8:27 am

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» Sun May 13, 2012 4:38 am

Girl on her own in the bar? Yeah, guys will try to pick you up. That said, there are a few known turn-offs you could apply, such as repeatedly using your phone. Or wear a wedding ring, real or not. Or just chat amicably with some pleasant people.

Or puking. Oh wait, you said turn-offs. Littlebitofmouthwashandshe'sgoodtogo.

» Sun May 13, 2012 4:12 pm

The misandry in this thread, supported by nothing more than anecdotal exaggerations, is pretty disappointing.

Yes, some men don't take 'no' for an answer, and that is absolutely not permissible, and yes, most men will try to "pick you up", but is trying to "pick someone up" that bad? What's wrong with trying to get to know someone because she's on her own and you're on your own? As if a man trying to get to know you is invariably a predatory lecher who just wants to [censored] you in an alley. Most guys will try to pick you up, yes, but most of those guys are decent blokes who see a girl on her own and are interested, and wonder if she is too. I see some of you acting as if a guy has to smell whether or not you're available, and that he somehow insults you by trying to get to know you, the cur! Well here's some advice, if you don't want to interact with people, drink in your room.

Instead of crying about how men are pigs, why not wonder if maybe you haven't been encountering the worst our gender has to offer, wonder why it is so, and wonder how you can change it?

» Sun May 13, 2012 7:01 pm

The misandry in this thread, supported by nothing more than anecdotal exaggerations, is pretty disappointing.

Yes, some men don't take 'no' for an answer, and that is absolutely not permissible, and yes, most men will try to "pick you up", but is trying to "pick someone up" that bad? What's wrong with trying to get to know someone because she's on her own and you're on your own? As if a man trying to get to know you is invariably a predatory lecher who just wants to [censored] you in an alley. Most guys will try to pick you up, yes, but most of those guys are decent blokes who see a girl on her own and are interested, and wonder if she is too. I see some of you acting as if a guy has to smell whether or not you're available, and that he somehow insults you by trying to get to know you, the cur! Well here's some advice, if you don't want to interact with people, drink in your room.

Instead of crying about how men are pigs, why not wonder if maybe you haven't been encountering the worst our gender has to offer, wonder why it is so, and wonder how you can change it?

I wanted to make a similar post, then I read your post that sums it all up even better than I intended to. Kudos, Flemish chap.

» Sun May 13, 2012 12:27 pm

As somebody in a relationship and not looking for any on the side, I don't pay the slightest bit of attention to anybody in bars apart from the people I'm there with. If I was in a bar on my own, and spotted a girl nearby, also on her own, I would get back to me drink and leave her be.

» Sun May 13, 2012 6:50 am

I don't drink so I don't go to bars, but it has been my understanding that there's a very social aspect to hanging out at a bar. Going to a bar to drink alone sounds rather odd. One would assume that if you wanted to drink alone you would pick up a bottle of something and drink in the comfort of your own home. Now you say you don't want to drink in your crampt appartment but nobody else knows that so they naturally assume you wouldn't mind talking to them.

» Sun May 13, 2012 6:11 pm

Going to a bar to drink alone sounds rather odd.

That's what dive bars are for.

In all seriousness though, drinking alone in a bar doesn't appeal to me at all. If I am alone in a bar drinking, it's usually only while I'm waiting on somebody to meet me there.

» Sun May 13, 2012 11:24 am

If you want to drink alone, you can do what I do - buy some vodka and some sprite and browse the forums while drinking. Going to a bar alone implies you want some social contact for the most part.

» Sun May 13, 2012 4:05 am

I get what she's saying.
It is nice to go out and meet new people. It is pleasant to unwind after work with a brew. It is not nice to be accused of being antisocial because asshats, douchebags, and sleezebuckets don't comprehend " I want to be left alone" .
I want to be left alone doesn't mean I want to be devoid of human contact, it means I want the idiots who can't quite grasp the fact that I do not find pleasure in THEIR company appealing. I might find pleasure in someone elses, if the sleezebuckets, douchebags, and asshats would get it through their thick skulls to LEAVE ME ALONE because I don't find them attractive.

Cheer up, we're not all trying to [censored] you.

» Sun May 13, 2012 4:26 pm

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» Sun May 13, 2012 10:06 am

Oy...

Maybe I didn't explain it quite right, it isn't that I don't want to socialize at all. I said before, I have no problem with friendly conversation. I just basically didn't want to appear to be a "sure thing" to anyone because I'm there alone. Granted, it is somewhat of a vulnerable position to be in and I just wondered what might go through a guy's mind upon seeing me.

Obviously, I usually go out with friends. It's just that every so often, they are either busy, or I want to stop for a quick drink on the way home from work and it isn't even worth giving them a call.

But I agree with the notion that their interpretation is their problem and to try not to worry about it. But I think until you've been in a woman's shoes in that regard...it's just...harder than you think. You feel like you look desperate and seeking attention and basically an easy target.

Appreciate your honesty.

But damn I can't stand that logic. Not to get all feministy, but why can a guy unwind after a tough day at work and not have everyone questioning *why* he is there? I see your point, but it's merely wanting a change of scenery and a chance to relax with a beer or two.

And I must say, I disagree that "that's what bars are for". I think they can certainly serve that purpose, but aren't limited to that.

Most guys I know that go to the bar, go there to drink primarily, and pick up women as a secondary goal. (although, I have never really understood just why they think ANY female would see going with some trashed guy would EVER be a good idea......)

If you are alone at the bar, I can pretty much guarantee that guys are going to try and hit on you. That should be a given. Something you should EXPECT..... Just have a strategy in mind to deal with it. Either the fictional boyfriend, you are gay, (like only girls in case that gets censored....) or, the even more extreme "I have AIDS." (for those guys that just WON'T take No for an answer.

» Sun May 13, 2012 5:02 am

wow girls svck

lol

» Sun May 13, 2012 2:07 pm

Or wear a wedding ring, real or not. Or just chat amicably with some pleasant people.

I think wearing wedding ring is much more tempting and kindly for a lot of men. If not chatting with pleasant people, perhaps strike up a conversation with your imaginary friend Jane over there. Doubtful anyone would approach a deranged woman.

» Sun May 13, 2012 3:52 am

But... gay bars are the best place to pick up ladies..

The gays leave me alone -for the most part- because their "gaydar" has pegged me as straight, so at most maybe one or two guys will 'check me out' and realize the
"no way in hell"
sign tattooed on my forhead to whom I tell if I really want to blow them, I'll let them know...

..and ladies always have their guard down :hehe:

Eventually, when said lady figures out my sixual orientation (being straight, and comfortable with it) and wonders what I'm doing there (where the men are all gay, and happily so), I mention that for some reason the ladies who go to a gay bar are always really hot -which is true, dunno why, must be a rule of nature or something.

I also point out that I'm not trying to pick them up, since they came over to me, but that I'm in no way adverse to the idea.

works.every.time.

And lets all remember that I'm one seriously mook-ish, Neanderthal type of a guy. nothing pretty here.

» Sun May 13, 2012 4:48 am

Andy, you are such a dude.

» Sun May 13, 2012 5:06 pm

I might as well be honest..

Most clubs are too crowded for my taste, putting my PTSD on edge.

Gay clubs are -usually- a lot less crowded, which works better for me. (If I'm going to a straight club, I'll go on a Sunday evening or during the week, never on the weekend though.)

And if it didn't always happen like;

I'm at the bar, nursing a drink, smiling and watching the crowd dance. Lady walks over, asks whether my boyfriend is out there dancing. I say 'no', because I'm straight and don't have a boyfriend.

She asks why I'm at a gay club, I'll answer that the music is usually better, I never have to worry about getting into a fight with anyone, and that the ladies all seem to be a lot prettier.

And I smile as sincerely as I can.

:shrug:

I think it might be a mixture of honesty -because I really am there for the better music and lack of drunk type A personalities, being laid back -because I am, what can I say.. :cool:

, and adopting a non-threatening composure. After that I just be me.. :angel:

» Sun May 13, 2012 3:25 am

I think it might be a mixture of honesty -because I really am there for the better music and lack of drunk type A personalities, being laid back -because I am, what can I say.. :cool:

, and adopting a non-threatening composure. After that I just be me.. :angel:

My life now makes perfect sense. I was doing it all wrong..

» Sun May 13, 2012 9:04 am

inb4 I try this and end up bent over.

OR, I could get help from my cousin.

» Sun May 13, 2012 10:51 am

If I were to give my sincerest advice without resorting to insincere, facitious anecdotal hyperbole, it would be this:

Stay out of bars and pubs and don't drink. No long lasting good can come from it. There are more productive and constructive things to do with your time.

But this is only one sincere perspective...

Now, could I interest you in some insincere, facitious anecdotal hyperbole? Because I'm fresh out of 'cool' advice.

» Sun May 13, 2012 4:54 am

If I were to give my sincerest advice without resorting to insincere, facitious anecdotal hyperbole, it would be this:

Stay out of bars and pubs and don't drink. No long lasting good can come from it. There are more productive and constructive things to do with your time.

But this is only one sincere perspective...

Now, could I interest you in some insincere, facitious anecdotal hyperbole? Because I'm fresh out of 'cool' advice.

Well, that's me convinced, I'll just throw away the rest of my beer here.

Or maybe some people just like having a drink every now and then? Drinking in moderation really isn't that harmful. If people don't want to drink, then that's just fine, but there's no need to go telling other people that no good can come from drinking, because it's just not true. Sometimes, there's just nothing better than winding down with a few quiet drinks.

» Sun May 13, 2012 7:02 pm

Or maybe some people just like having a drink every now and then?

Don't be ridiculous; people never drink because it's enjoyable, they drink because alcohol is an EVIL SUBSTANCE that is ADDICTIVE and will DESTROY YOU.

Don't touch the stuff myself.

» Sun May 13, 2012 4:36 pm

Don't be ridiculous; people never drink because it's enjoyable, they drink because alcohol is an EVIL SUBSTANCE that is ADDICTIVE and will DESTROY YOU.

I know right? Like, I was hanging out with my friends having a good time, and they I said "Hey, do you guys want to all commit suicide?" and they're like "Yeah." We didn't have any guns lying around and cutting ourselves would be too messy, so we decided the best way would be to have a lot of fun and casually drink some pabst, because that's the best way to kill yourself.